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35 Signs He Has A Secret Crush On You

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It’s too bad we can’t read minds when it comes to crushes! And asking someone directly if they have their eye on you is a bit aggressive.

The solution?

You can learn through trial and error and by paying close attention how to figure out if someone wants to be romantically involved with you or not.

Here are a few expert examples of sociological and scientific reasoning whether or not a guy has a crush on you.

Signs He Has A Secret Crush On You

Ginormous Smile

This one requires close attention to notice but if the boy in front of you is all smiles, I’m talking the bright ones from ear to ear, then he certainly might really like you.

Many people will smile unconsciously and aren’t really aware of it because they like someone. If he’s smiling and you are noticing it, then it’s worth a second glance.

Straight Up Eye Contact

If this boy is making more eye contact that normal, he may be indicating he has a crush on you. Usually, the eyes will naturally wander around the room but if it feels like he can’t take his eyes off you, then he just might be crushing over you.

Studies show when it comes to intimacy ,there are many different levels and in order to develop further intimacy, you need to pay attention.

What does that mean?

You need to pay closer attention and that includes more eye contact.

Mr. Fidget Appears

When a guy is nervously fidgeting or playing with his hair, this usually means he has a crush on you. Most of this is totally unconscious, he just doesn’t know he’s doing it.

When he is doing physical things, it’s his way of showing you he wants a romantic interaction with you. To what degree remains to be seen.

Touchy-Feely

When a man is constantly touching a woman, this normally means that has a crush on her. Physically he does whatever he can to touch you.

If a boy is always resting his hands on you, on your thighs or back or legs, this is a clear-cut signal he’s crushing on you. If he’s a hugger, you’ve got a winner.

This is just his way of showing you that he wants more, but he may not quite be ready to step it up a notch or two to the next level.

Gets Close To You

When a man crowds your personal space this is an important indicator that he has a secret crush on you. In other words, your space is his space and he thrives on getting closer because he wants that special connection with you.

If he stands too close to you or sits unnaturally close, this uncovers his secret desire to get closer to you.

Attraction and emotional closeness is a part of a crush and any romantic relationship.

Leg Crossing

This one isn’t just for girls! If a guy is criss-crossing his legs, this is an unconscious sign that he’s attracted to you. A little weird I know but worth looking for.

Stumbling With Words

When a guy likes a girl, there are probably going to be some nerves involved. He may have a hard time talking to you without jumbling his words, because he’s so nervous.

That’s a good thing as long as he can get passed this, because some men are so anxious they just can’t ever get comfortable around a girl. Extreme I know but you do need to take that into consideration.

Makes Time For You

This guy makes sure you know he’s stepping outside his normal routine to see you. He makes an effort to spend any extra time he can with you.

He Wants Your Opinion

He values your thoughts and opinions; maybe a little too much. If he happens to get a new hairstyle or is wearing a new shirt he always wants to know what you think. It’s important to him.

Wants To Pay For Things

He always steps up to the plate and insists on paying for things. This guy wants to pay for dinner, the movie, the drinks, he is just happy to take care of it, no questions asked.

Long Conversations

A guy that has a crush on you is going to be the one that texts you first. And when the conversation is ending, he will make sure it continues on as long as possible. This one will be pretty obvious.

Compliments You A Lot

This special man that has the hots for you is over the top with the compliments. It doesn’t matter whether it’s your personality or appearance, because this man that has a crush on you always has something super nice to say.

Remembers Every Detail

A man with a secret crush remembers everything you say. Doesn’t matter if it’s totally irrelevant or super important. When a man likes a woman, he is going to make it his priority to know as much as he can about you and part of that is remembering the small things.

Pay attention to this subtle but in your face tip that he likes you.

Wants To Hang Out With You Every Chance He Gets

This guy is going to hint as much as he can that he simply wants to hang out with you. And if he has the balls, he might actually ask you to go one on one with him on a regular basis.

Wants To Be There For You

When a man has a serious crush on a girl, he is going to come running no matter what. Even if you just need a shoulder to cry on at 2 am, a man with a crush will do it with a smile. He just wants to be there for you and that’s got to count for something right?

Lets You Know He Is Available

This guy with a crush is always commenting on how he’s single and available. He will always talk to you about how he can’t believe you haven’t got a man when you are so awesome.

Little Things Matter To Him

What this means is he will notice when you make any changes to your appearance. Whether it’s your hair or clothing, or any other feature, this guy is going to show you that he is paying attention and you matter.

His Friends Know All About You

Even the people you haven’t met, they’re going to know your name if a guy really does like you.

He’s Got Extremely Nervous Body Language

When a man is liking a girl, he is going to unconsciously show you this with his body language. This boy is always fidgeting with his clothing or brushing his hair out of his face.

Pay attention and see it for what it’s worth.

Likes Your Selfies

He’s the first one to like your selfies, with no exceptions. When a guy just likes your selfies, no matter what, that really does say everything.

He Just Loves Locking Eyes With You

I know we’ve touched on this a little but it needs a little more. If a man is holding his gaze with you as much as can, besides the moment he’s checking out your lips, he’s definitely got a crush on you.

Doesn’t Talk About Other Girls

A guy that has a secret crush on you is never going to ever mention another girl, no way. Even when you bring up another girl specially that’s cute and interested, he’ll just brush it off.

Wow, what a gem.

Gets Jealous

If you happen to “accidentally” mention another man, he will immediately get jealous. Even when the man is just a friend, it’s going to spark some interest with a man that has a secret crush on you, end of story.

Focuses Only On You

When the two of you are out with a group of people, it’s you that he comes to. There are oodles of other people he could talk to ,but he seems to be focused on you and only you.

He’s Always Looking To Impress You

This man that is hot for you will try and show off for you. He’s always looking to impress you. Sometimes it’s cheesy and other times it isn’t. If he’s doing this, he is definitely worth your time.

Chivalry Just Never Dies

If this guy pulls out your chair, gives you his jacket and does everything he can to make you feel special, he’s crushing on you.

Real gentleman does this for the ladies.

You Always Get His Look

You are the one that gets his look. That simple look says straight up he is looking to be much more than friends.

He ALWAYS Remembers Exactly What You Say

If he has a real crush on you, he is going to make it his job to remember everything you say and do. When a man is interested in you, he is going to listen and want to know all the little things in your brain – End of story.

This Man Will Initiate Conversation

When a boy likes a girl, he is going to be the one that starts the conversation and wants to keep it going . Sure, it’s tough to initiate conversation when you are nervous about a girl. But you need to understand if a man is doing this, there is a reason.

Just something for you to ponder.

This Man Is A Subtweeter

No doubt social media is the way of our world. So if you and your crush are active on social media and he is retweeting your tweets or following your every social media online move, he definitely thinks you are special.

Just beware of this one.

He Just Doesn’t Look At His Phone

This is a big one. We seem to be controlled by our phones these days and when a man takes a stand and leaves his phone alone when he’s with you, that means zillions.

This Man Considers All Your Needs In Minute Ways

So maybe you broke your chain lock on your place. But when this guy shows up with a solution, that means everything. As silly as it seems when a man has a crush on you, he is going to make sure you know he is there when you need.

Think about this one for a minute.

He Is Always Offering To Drive

This one is so super sweet. When a man wants to be more than just a friend, he will go beyond the call of duty to make sure you know he will do whatever it takes to impress you. He’s going to want to drive you wherever and whenever you like.

Stalking You On Social Media

Accidentally stalking you via social media isn’t such a bad thing but when you bust him for it, you need to hear what he has to say.

He might have been out with a few buddies and had a few too many. Be cautious and understanding please. If a guy is nicely stalking you online, that is not a bad thing.

He Will Open Up To You

No doubt, it takes major guts to step up to the plate and let a girl know you like her. It’s tough and seriously scary if the girl you like doesn’t like you back.

Too bad it comes down to that.

Bottom line…If a man is opening up to you and spilling his guts to you on any level, he deserves your attention. Listen to what he has to say and go from there. It’s the right thing to do.

Final Words

When you are looking for the signs and signals that he has a secret crush on you, it’s important you are aware of anything and everyone .

There are body signals and unconscious signs, along with habitual deliberate and learned pointers.

Look at the big picture, follow your gut, and you will strike gold.

Believe it and it WILL happen.

Enjoy the ride.

Reader Interactions

Comments

  4. Kiana says

    What if he keeps on stealing glances and has an eye contact the first time I talk to a mutual friend but does not stalk my SNS?

  6. Jenilee says

    It was a really good article but what do i do if i have a crush on him and he has a girlfriend but is always flirting with me because people at my school is saying he like me even though he got a girlfriend.

    • Kate says

      Seems like he’s not really serious with his girlfriend if he keeps flirting with you.

    • lani says

      thats exactly whats happening to me. everyone in our school keeps thinking were dating because were always together but he has a very controlling girl who hes been with 11 months that goes to another school.

    • iavisu says

      yeah i know right once this guy who literraly has a girlfriend flirted with me i actually had became to like him but then when i saw that he was ignoring me for his gf god i knew that he was just trying to make her feel jealous so now i dont ever look at his dumb face but his frnds did tease him with my name but even though gurl dont even dare to let him play with you and your feelings

  7. park says

    guyz plz help me i like this boy in one of my class we dont talk to each other at all but sometimes i catch him staring at me and when i look at him he immedietely looks away and when i come into the class he lift his eyebrows but the problem is that he never talk to me an i cant muster the courag to even say hi .I am very shy to even make eye contact with him plz help me does he like me or not

    • Kate says

      How about next time he looks at you, you smile and then look away. If you give him some clues that you like him, he might come to talk to you instead.

      • Anonymous says

        I think u should totally go talk to him! There’s nothing wrong with talking to a boy! And if u still don’t have courage write him a note or show him non aggressive signs that you like him. Not obvious sign’s tho

    • Tom says

      Oof that’s a hard one. If the guy is staring straight at you or tries to be funny then he likes you. If he keeps staring at you when you look at him he’s confident. If he looks around the room trying not to seem interested then he’s shy like me lol.

  9. Annanya dey says

    When i meet with my x bf in road , he look into my eyes or face , when i noticed him , he turned his face .he noticed my dress , makeup etc but when we meet , our heartbeet became faster , he dont want to talk with me .

    he loves me??

  10. Catherine says

    I noticed that I was attracted to a guy from my high school during sophomore year and he would always pass through the same hallways. I hadn’t had to urge to talk to him until I finished my senior year of high school. We’ve been talking ever since that day.
    Now he always texts me and stares at me smiling wide from ear to ear when we meet in person so, I do know he likes me and I like him back but I think it’s too soon.
    I want to be friends with him for at least 3 months to get to know him better. Should I slowly stop texting him to let him know to not text me everyday?? I don’t want to seem desperate.

    • Kate says

      Don’t stop texting, he might think you’ve lost interest in him. You can tell him you like to take things slow with guys and get to know them first.

  11. Jovitha says

    The guy I like doesn’t talk to me that much but when there’s a chance he comes all out he thanked me on his birthday even though I didn’t give him anything. He took my phone and ran off like crazy when I was taking a funny video and my friends wanted to delete it
    He purposely lost his ring in my room so that I could find it and give it back to him
    Does he like me?

    • Kate says

      Seems like he likes you if he purposely does those things. He wants your attention. Try to talk to him more to see if he gives you more signs.

  12. Alexa says

    I have a crush on my male best friend but he’s dating my female bestie, sometimes he gives me some of the signs stated here but when I reciprocate ,he acts like nothing’s going on,he even asked me once who my crush was ,but I didn’t tell him cause I was afraid of what he might do,they recently broke up,but the girl’s asking for advice while,I’m planning on telling him the truth,now I’m confused
    my bestie or me?

  13. emma says

    okay pretty obvi he got a crush on you but dont stop texting him he might think you lost intreset in him and would beat him self up for it and might strat losing the “spark”

  14. Cass says

    i have a crush on a shy guy right now. i think he is into me as well and he matched on more than a half stuff that are listed here. our relationship has been developing since february this year but he hasn’t confessed yet and hasn’t even asked me out. does he need more time or should i be the one who ask him out? cause he is very introverted and shy.

  15. Strawburries says

    What should I do if I really like this guy, but he has a girlfriend. He does most of the things listed above, but the thing is he never told me he had a girlfriend and when I asked him he said it was on and off. I’m so confused.

  16. Cathy says

    I like this guy at my school, and he knows this because my friends accidentally let it spill, but I don’t if he likes me back. Everytime I see him passing by me, he seems to stare at me, but sometimes it’s as though he is judging me. He has also rejected me before but everyone says that it’s because he apparently isn’t allowed to date, but everyone also thinks we would make a cute couple. I don’t know what to do!

  17. Marionette says

    There is this boy that I am crushing on and it seems like he likes me because he always has been staring at me for a long time and gave me his phone number. And it does seem like he gets jealous whenever I mention a boy, but other than that, he doesn’t fit any other description, so I’m not sure if I should ask him out. Help?

    • Person says

      If a guy give you his phone number it is almost always he’s trying to do something with you just to get a chance to impress or make you have a good time he’ll probably actually oviod eye contact because of fear of scaring you of he’ll try and play everything of but one thing you should do but dont tell him if you have for example an art class to gether you could have one of your friends ship you to see his reaction if he denies it there’s a pretty good chance he is dying to be with you (all Of Which Is Coming From a Guy)

  18. Stella Oluchi Abah says

    I met this guy , he took me out on a date but never talked about relationship we just had fun and he dropped me back to my house. Since then he always call and want me to come around him , sometimes I spent days with him but he wouldn’t touch me. He care for me ,he makes sure am ok both financially, always want me around, and if i asked him about relationship he will tell I don’t have a girlfriend and I don’t want to be in a relationship now . Am confused he is always there for me , always want me around him and cares for me , i never noticed any girl around him yet he hasn’t ask.me out. Does this guy likes me because his so caring that I have fallen for him and like him. But don’t known if he likes me or not? What should l do?

  19. Amy Harold says

    I have a crush on this boy and we’ve met 2 months ago. He usually comes around to tease me a lot and touches me a lot ss well (arms, wrists). He is always making jokes and trying to make me laugh.
    However, recently he has been looking at my best friend during class a lot. He talks about her sometimes and when we’re both with him he’ll talk to her and leave me in second plan for a while.
    It’s weird because he really likes my exclusive attention and gets jealous when I talk to other guys.
    A few days ago he grabbed her hand when we were at the bus. I noticed that he tries to reach for my hands as well but I always pull away.
    He tries to talk to me as well, however he’s constantly leaving me on read when we text.
    He gives signs that he likes me, but recently he’s been giving signs that he likes my best friend while throwing the same signs at me.
    He’s got a crush on her, doesn’t he?

  20. Nancy says

    If thay guys steals look. And may be he knows that u like him too still he shrugs of having a conversation on this topic. And dont know……….
    I am in love with a guy but sometimes i think he likes me. And sometimes i feel their is nothing btw us just frnds.dont know what to do. Shall i ask him ??

  21. Hannah says

    me too. I am too shy, and he is always looking at me. i sometimes try to catch eye contact, but he immediately turns away. He talks to me in the halls whenever he can.

  22. Jewel says

    I have this friend 2 years ago, until now Im still thinking “does he like me?”. Every list matched him but Im not sure because he has a crush back then and others told me that he is like that always, that is always kind and gentleman. But still I think he is only doing this to me because he knew that in the past I liked him, but now Im still hesitating to add him on social media because I miss him so much
    He is so far away
    Shall I do it?

  24. Stacey says

    So there is this guy thats in my class and I always catch him staring at me whether it’s in the halls or in class. He holds his gaze but then looks away. I didn’t think much of it but now I’ve caught feelings for him. We don’t ever talk, one time he talked to me but it wasn’t really a conversation thing. I hangout with a lot of guys but I only see them as my good friends and nothing else. And sometimes they hangout with him and I just go quiet and feel awkward about it, I keep overthinking that he doesn’t like me though and that I’m probably just delusional.

  25. British says

    There’s this guy that I like and I think he likes me too but I’m not sure. I also heard he had a gf and he’s always there whether I need him or not and he took my number but he hasn’t texted me yet and he knows I like him bcuz my friends told. I’m utterly confused…

  26. Akiera says

    I have a Best friend but he’s a gay,I told him many times that I love him ..instead of ruining our friendship and avoiding me ..he choose to stay …is theres’s a chance that he also like me even though he’s a gay …he always makes me feel special sometimes,inviting me in their house occasionally with his family but keep telling me that we’re just friends coz he’s a gay…do I need to give up my feelings ? Thanks

    • Heather R Barrett says

      The absolute best friends for a female are gay guys! Unless he is bisexual it is normal for him to have a ton of close female friends. You may want to pull the reign in on your feelings so you are not hurt. However he will be the first one by your side to help you fix this issue. Be honest with him tell him exactly how you feel. It will turn out for the best and at the same time you will not be alone through it all.

  27. Sarah says

    Oh mah God; this is soo true almost all that had happened between me and my crush!!!!!!

  29. Rachel says

    I have a crush on a really goofy boy, ive catched him staring at me many times, I’ve developed big feelings for him and we talk whenever we’re in a group with our friends. I’d like to talk to him more, he makes me smile a lot and I sometimes think he has a crush on me too, but I notice he’s only shy around me and my crush is really goofy and loud. He’s supper nice , funny and cute! This one time we were sharing chips and he kepts teasing me and idk why after that I kept dreaming about him now I have MORE Feelings. Does he like me back ???

  30. Karembo says

    Hey…m in a situationship…my married boss keep showing lots of signs here….n he is so intrested on meetin my boy friend…at same time he uses lots of coded language… leaving me confused not sure what to think of…i find it weird although in away i like him too…

  31. Anonymous says

    There’s this guy at my school, he’s my crush actually… and he’s tried to put his legs on me, not in a bad way. there have been times where I’ve caught him staring at me. and every time we have a conversation he always listens and looks me in the eyes. even during lunch, I would catch him making eye contact. but the only time we talk is in class.

    Does he like me?

  32. Anonymous says

    Plus a couple of friends asked if he liked me, first he said no and then another (which was a guy) he said as a friend. Today, He was the only that noticed I had makeup on. He’s real touchy too like he’ll find a way to touch me. Hand, wrist, leg, fingers, he’s even played ‘footsies’ with me sounds childish I know.

  33. Tris says

    Oh my gosh,
    Life is too short, just go out there and tell them ya love them and if they dont like you back then at keast ya’ll know.No wondering, no hestitation qnd no frustration. Hold yoor head high, (and always smile and laugh it’s attractive, make the biys think your a happy person,others like happy people not depressing ones). If it’s unrequited love then find someone new, do you know how many people are in the word 7 billion. I dont think you have a problem with “the girl who gets the girl” Good luck my fellow pepes(coming from a single gal) baiiiiiiiiii

  34. ANONYMOUS!!!!! says

    HE PROBABLY LIKES YOU BUT IS TOO SCARED THAT IT MIGHT RUIN YOUR RELATION WITH EACH OTHER.

    I TOO HAVE A CRUSH IN SCHOOL HE DOESNT TALK TO ANY GIRLS AND LOWERS HIS GAZE WHEN A GIRLS WALK BY IN ENGLISH HE LOOKS ME STRAIGHT IN THE EYE . BUT HE DOESNT TALK TO ME DOES HE LIKE ME?

  35. eArThLiNg says

    ……………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………………….,……………………………………………………………………………………..
    earthling says “i love you”

  36. beeeelllll says

    guys please help! I like this boy and I don’t see him that much. we do a school program together.the other day I was sitting at the bus stop and he came up and rode around me ( to scare me) and then grinned at me. his friend came over then started talking to him. he goes that bitch then looks at me and grins. then he says whoops sorry. he likes to tease me but we are only just getting to be friends again. we had some shit with each other and now we are friends again. I want him so bad and I don’t think he thinks of me like that. last time we had a proper convo he started talking about a girl he liked but wouldn’t tell me who it was( not me), but that was a while ago. I want him to like me too. what should I do?

  37. Livv says

    So I like this guy and we are always talking about random things and our conversations are rly funny. Hes always smiling and sometimes I catch him staring at me. Thing is I asked him if i would ever have a chance at dating him and he said he didnt know so like a week later I asked if he knew now or had thought abt it and he said he hadn’t thought abt it and that he didnt want to think abt it? Its confusing because we still talk like normal but I cant tell if his answer is a no or a yes? Help me?

  39. Princess Blaire says

    I actually agree of the above mentioned ……………scenarios and situation.This may not be applicable to all but at least I do have an idea if a guy has an interest on me…

  40. Dency PHILIP says

    A boy after being drunk he told my friend he wanted to devotes his soul to me.He told my friend he likes me. Since then when we passed by each other we feel nervous. He follows my movements and also stole glance from me. When I saw him I kind of do the same. Does that mean we like each other?

  41. Emma white says

    Hey so there was this guy I mean last year he’s been really weird lately. He’s says he’s not the relationship type but my friend told me he talked about me with a smile on his face and than another friend said the same thing and he’s been hurting alot and struggling and I can see it and he says I love you and he yelled at me once cuz I wasn’t doing better in the life.
    ,

  42. Lily John says

    What if a boy always keeps staring and staring but never,never talks.He tries to help me by little ways like picking up dropped things for me.He just says nothing but finds ways to come after me and always finds a seat in class near me.we never talked.

  43. Weird person says

    I met this guy last year we were friends and he always talked to me in class and this year he still does but now we hang out a lot more and he has been putting his arm around my shoulder and leaning his head on my shoulder he never done this last year, he also stares at me a lot I like him but I’m a bit scared to tell him does he like me?

  45. Kaitlyn says

    I’ve caught this guy looking at me many times. It’s been multiple times every single day for almost two months. We only have one class together and we always make eye contact even outside that class. I don’t know him though so I don’t know if it’s a crush or not. I just think it’s a bit off. Help?

  48. Veronica says

    This article is very helpful, there is a really hot guy at work and I really like him I’m giving him signals that I like him but I’m too scared to tell him that I like him but I’m not sure if he likes me back, because he always give me eye contact and he seems to smile all the time I cant explain it.
    what should I do.

  50. anonymous says

    So I have a friend and he tells me really personal info, I´ve never seen him use his phone when I´m around, he´s always stealing or trying to steal my stuff in a friendly way but he talks about what type of girls he likes does he like me or not ??

    I´M SO CONFUSED HELP!!!!!!

  51. Shardé says

    So, there’s this boy who I have a crush on and I don’t know if he likes me back, You see when we look at each other we always have a prolonged stare like two seconds or something. But he talks to the other girls normally, but with me he hardly talks to me we just look in each others eyes. He talks to my friends though and they are often nearby me. Please can you help me with this dilemma!!!

  53. Jane says

    I want to know that some guys just stares at you all the time but don’t talk with you and sometimes ignores you. What does that mean? I don’t think that they are interested in that girl

  54. Kate says

    I have a very close male friend who told me dat I’m his best friend.ive noticed him doing almost everything here…other people has also told me that he is deeply in love with me,,everyone
    around him including his x- girlfriend and the other Ladies interested in him knows that he loves me most and he also says it repeatedly dat he loves me most….yet,he hasn’t told me that he has feelings for me if he wants to date me…I even had to confront him buh he said dat he doesn’t have feelings for me
    The problem now is that I’m thinking of moving on with someone else buh I get confused wen I remember how genuine his love is and how he feels hurt when I’m getting attached to other guys….pls advice me on what to do

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