It’s too bad we can’t read minds when it comes to crushes! And asking someone directly if they have their eye on you is a bit aggressive.
The solution?
You can learn through trial and error and by paying close attention how to figure out if someone wants to be romantically involved with you or not.
Here are a few expert examples of sociological and scientific reasoning whether or not a guy has a crush on you.
Signs He Has A Secret Crush On You
Ginormous Smile
This one requires close attention to notice but if the boy in front of you is all smiles, I’m talking the bright ones from ear to ear, then he certainly might really like you.
Many people will smile unconsciously and aren’t really aware of it because they like someone. If he’s smiling and you are noticing it, then it’s worth a second glance.
Straight Up Eye Contact
If this boy is making more eye contact that normal, he may be indicating he has a crush on you. Usually, the eyes will naturally wander around the room but if it feels like he can’t take his eyes off you, then he just might be crushing over you.
Studies show when it comes to intimacy ,there are many different levels and in order to develop further intimacy, you need to pay attention.
What does that mean?
You need to pay closer attention and that includes more eye contact.
Mr. Fidget Appears
When a guy is nervously fidgeting or playing with his hair, this usually means he has a crush on you. Most of this is totally unconscious, he just doesn’t know he’s doing it.
When he is doing physical things, it’s his way of showing you he wants a romantic interaction with you. To what degree remains to be seen.
Touchy-Feely
When a man is constantly touching a woman, this normally means that has a crush on her. Physically he does whatever he can to touch you.
If a boy is always resting his hands on you, on your thighs or back or legs, this is a clear-cut signal he’s crushing on you. If he’s a hugger, you’ve got a winner.
This is just his way of showing you that he wants more, but he may not quite be ready to step it up a notch or two to the next level.
Gets Close To You
When a man crowds your personal space this is an important indicator that he has a secret crush on you. In other words, your space is his space and he thrives on getting closer because he wants that special connection with you.
If he stands too close to you or sits unnaturally close, this uncovers his secret desire to get closer to you.
Attraction and emotional closeness is a part of a crush and any romantic relationship.
Leg Crossing
This one isn’t just for girls! If a guy is criss-crossing his legs, this is an unconscious sign that he’s attracted to you. A little weird I know but worth looking for.
Stumbling With Words
When a guy likes a girl, there are probably going to be some nerves involved. He may have a hard time talking to you without jumbling his words, because he’s so nervous.
That’s a good thing as long as he can get passed this, because some men are so anxious they just can’t ever get comfortable around a girl. Extreme I know but you do need to take that into consideration.
Makes Time For You
This guy makes sure you know he’s stepping outside his normal routine to see you. He makes an effort to spend any extra time he can with you.
He Wants Your Opinion
He values your thoughts and opinions; maybe a little too much. If he happens to get a new hairstyle or is wearing a new shirt he always wants to know what you think. It’s important to him.
Wants To Pay For Things
He always steps up to the plate and insists on paying for things. This guy wants to pay for dinner, the movie, the drinks, he is just happy to take care of it, no questions asked.
Long Conversations
A guy that has a crush on you is going to be the one that texts you first. And when the conversation is ending, he will make sure it continues on as long as possible. This one will be pretty obvious.
Compliments You A Lot
This special man that has the hots for you is over the top with the compliments. It doesn’t matter whether it’s your personality or appearance, because this man that has a crush on you always has something super nice to say.
Remembers Every Detail
A man with a secret crush remembers everything you say. Doesn’t matter if it’s totally irrelevant or super important. When a man likes a woman, he is going to make it his priority to know as much as he can about you and part of that is remembering the small things.
Pay attention to this subtle but in your face tip that he likes you.
Wants To Hang Out With You Every Chance He Gets
This guy is going to hint as much as he can that he simply wants to hang out with you. And if he has the balls, he might actually ask you to go one on one with him on a regular basis.
Wants To Be There For You
When a man has a serious crush on a girl, he is going to come running no matter what. Even if you just need a shoulder to cry on at 2 am, a man with a crush will do it with a smile. He just wants to be there for you and that’s got to count for something right?
Lets You Know He Is Available
This guy with a crush is always commenting on how he’s single and available. He will always talk to you about how he can’t believe you haven’t got a man when you are so awesome.
Little Things Matter To Him
What this means is he will notice when you make any changes to your appearance. Whether it’s your hair or clothing, or any other feature, this guy is going to show you that he is paying attention and you matter.
His Friends Know All About You
Even the people you haven’t met, they’re going to know your name if a guy really does like you.
He’s Got Extremely Nervous Body Language
When a man is liking a girl, he is going to unconsciously show you this with his body language. This boy is always fidgeting with his clothing or brushing his hair out of his face.
Pay attention and see it for what it’s worth.
Likes Your Selfies
He’s the first one to like your selfies, with no exceptions. When a guy just likes your selfies, no matter what, that really does say everything.
He Just Loves Locking Eyes With You
I know we’ve touched on this a little but it needs a little more. If a man is holding his gaze with you as much as can, besides the moment he’s checking out your lips, he’s definitely got a crush on you.
Doesn’t Talk About Other Girls
A guy that has a secret crush on you is never going to ever mention another girl, no way. Even when you bring up another girl specially that’s cute and interested, he’ll just brush it off.
Wow, what a gem.
Gets Jealous
If you happen to “accidentally” mention another man, he will immediately get jealous. Even when the man is just a friend, it’s going to spark some interest with a man that has a secret crush on you, end of story.
Focuses Only On You
When the two of you are out with a group of people, it’s you that he comes to. There are oodles of other people he could talk to ,but he seems to be focused on you and only you.
He’s Always Looking To Impress You
This man that is hot for you will try and show off for you. He’s always looking to impress you. Sometimes it’s cheesy and other times it isn’t. If he’s doing this, he is definitely worth your time.
Chivalry Just Never Dies
If this guy pulls out your chair, gives you his jacket and does everything he can to make you feel special, he’s crushing on you.
Real gentleman does this for the ladies.
You Always Get His Look
You are the one that gets his look. That simple look says straight up he is looking to be much more than friends.
He ALWAYS Remembers Exactly What You Say
If he has a real crush on you, he is going to make it his job to remember everything you say and do. When a man is interested in you, he is going to listen and want to know all the little things in your brain – End of story.
This Man Will Initiate Conversation
When a boy likes a girl, he is going to be the one that starts the conversation and wants to keep it going . Sure, it’s tough to initiate conversation when you are nervous about a girl. But you need to understand if a man is doing this, there is a reason.
Just something for you to ponder.
This Man Is A Subtweeter
No doubt social media is the way of our world. So if you and your crush are active on social media and he is retweeting your tweets or following your every social media online move, he definitely thinks you are special.
Just beware of this one.
He Just Doesn’t Look At His Phone
This is a big one. We seem to be controlled by our phones these days and when a man takes a stand and leaves his phone alone when he’s with you, that means zillions.
This Man Considers All Your Needs In Minute Ways
So maybe you broke your chain lock on your place. But when this guy shows up with a solution, that means everything. As silly as it seems when a man has a crush on you, he is going to make sure you know he is there when you need.
Think about this one for a minute.
He Is Always Offering To Drive
This one is so super sweet. When a man wants to be more than just a friend, he will go beyond the call of duty to make sure you know he will do whatever it takes to impress you. He’s going to want to drive you wherever and whenever you like.
Stalking You On Social Media
Accidentally stalking you via social media isn’t such a bad thing but when you bust him for it, you need to hear what he has to say.
He might have been out with a few buddies and had a few too many. Be cautious and understanding please. If a guy is nicely stalking you online, that is not a bad thing.
He Will Open Up To You
No doubt, it takes major guts to step up to the plate and let a girl know you like her. It’s tough and seriously scary if the girl you like doesn’t like you back.
Too bad it comes down to that.
Bottom line…If a man is opening up to you and spilling his guts to you on any level, he deserves your attention. Listen to what he has to say and go from there. It’s the right thing to do.
Final Words
When you are looking for the signs and signals that he has a secret crush on you, it’s important you are aware of anything and everyone .
There are body signals and unconscious signs, along with habitual deliberate and learned pointers.
Look at the big picture, follow your gut, and you will strike gold.
Believe it and it WILL happen.
Enjoy the ride.
