When you’re interested in a woman, it may not be clear whether the feelings are mutual. Especially if you’re sensitive to the sting of rejection, you’ll need to figure out a few indicators regarding whether a lady wants to start a relationship with you.
Most people have basic ideas about signs that women will use to show you that they’re interested. In this article, we’ll dive into the world of female social signaling so that you’ll understand whether she wants to be your girlfriend or whether she’d rather be friends.
Is It Reasonable That She Might Want To Be Your Girlfriend In The First Place?
Before we discuss the signs she might want to be your girlfriend, it’s important to be reasonable about relationships. Most of the girls you meet will not want to be your girlfriend, even when you’re especially charming.
If you haven’t spoken to someone, they probably won’t want to be your girlfriend. Likewise, if you don’t get along with someone, there is only a very slim chance that they want to start a relationship with you.
Furthermore, if you don’t have regular contact with a woman, she probably won’t have the familiarity that she needs to want you to ask her out.
Don’t embarrass yourself by asking a woman to be your girlfriend when you don’t have an ongoing and positive rapport with them.
Finally, don’t annoy women you barely know to be your girlfriend — it’s incredibly obnoxious. Similarly, you should take “no” for an answer if a woman has already declined to go out with you or to be your girlfriend once before. There’s plenty of fish in the sea.
She Invites You To On Dates Or Date-Like Activities
One of the most obvious signs a girl wants to be your girlfriend is when she asks you out on a date. Women may not always explicitly tell you that the event they are inviting you to is a date, however.
Keep your eyes out for the following activities, which are often associated with dates:
- Long walks through pretty neighborhoods, especially at night
- Going to a romantic comedy or drama film
- Cooking your dinner
- Taking a one-off class together
- Going to a new restaurant
- Visiting an art museum
- Visiting a zoo
Importantly, it’s entirely possible for a girl to invite you to do most of these activities without her wanting to be your girlfriend. It’s also possible for a girl to invite you on a date and then realize that she is not interested in having a relationship with you.
The more of these activities and similar date activities which your prospective girlfriend invites you to do, the more likely it is that she wants to be your girlfriend.
She Casually Tells You She Is Available Or Asks If You’re Seeing Anyone
If a girl isn’t asking you on a date, but she still wants to be your girlfriend, she may use less direct tactics to try to get you to ask her out. These tactics can include telling you that she isn’t seeing anyone else at the moment.
Once again, it is rare that a girl will tell you explicitly that she is not seeing anyone else. Instead, she will probably slip in a comment or two regarding her present set of prospects.
If a girl tells you that she went out on a date with a guy who she wasn’t interested in, she may be trying to tell you that she’d much rather have gone out with you. If she mentions that she recently broke up with a boyfriend, she may be trying to explain that she thinks you’d be a better choice.
Girls won’t always talk about your competition when you’re around, however. Instead, they may comment on how they don’t have any plans for a particular day or describe how they don’t have a “plus one” for some important event where people are usually coupled.
If a girl asks whether or not you’re seeing anyone, it’s another sign she might want to be your girlfriend. As before, she probably won’t ask you if you’re taken so directly.
She may ask you if you’re taking anyone to an event that you mentioned or whether you plan on bringing a wingman to a social gathering where there are sure to be other single women.
A few women also attempt to suss out whether someone is single or not by asking them their opinions on other women.
Her Body Language Expresses Interest
Body language may be one of the most reliable ways of telling whether a girl wants to be your girlfriend. Importantly, body language is a communication medium that is only one part of the puzzle when it comes to assessing whether she wants to be your girlfriend.
Body language can tell you that a woman is interested in you, but it may be difficult to determine what kind of interest she has in you with body language alone. However, if she wants to be your girlfriend, she’ll almost certainly show it in her body language.
In particular, the single most significant indicator of interest is sustained and intense eye contact, especially in a one-on-one setting.
Eye contact is a powerful indicator of interest because it requires both you and her to consciously engage with the other person while knowing that they are choosing to engage with you.
Sustaining eye contact requires both interests as well as getting over any barriers of shyness. If she sustains eye contact only for a few moments before looking away, she’s probably a bit shy, but she might still be interested.
Hair touching or preening is also an expression of interest that girls perform when they’re interested in you.
Likewise, when a woman leans in while she is talking with you, she is probably interested. The closer that she voluntarily comes to you when there is plenty of space, the more likely it is that she feels safe around you and is interested in being your girlfriend.
It may also be the case that women are more likely to expose their neck to you when they are interested in you, but you probably shouldn’t read into it as much as with the other elements of her body language.
She Frequently And Briefly Touches You
When women want to be your girlfriend, they tend to touch you more frequently than they would otherwise. While not all women will touch you as an expression of interest, many will.
In contrast, especially if you notice that a girl touches you far more frequently than they touch anyone else, there’s a good chance that she wants to be your girlfriend.
The location of her touch is also a relevant factor in determining whether she wants to be your girlfriend or not. When a woman touches you on your forearm, it’s less intimate than if she were to contact you on your hand or on your bicep.
Making an excuse to have brief contact like high-fiving may also be a sign she wants to be your girlfriend. Especially if she decides to touch your hand for longer than is warranted than a high-five, she may be interested.
Likewise, when a woman touches you on your chest, it’s a strong signal that she wants to be your girlfriend.
Touching your back isn’t as strong of a sign she wants to be your girlfriend as touching your chest, but it’s still relevant, especially if she wasn’t doing it solely to get your attention.
You should try not to read too much into certain types of touching, however. If a girl nuzzles your hair with her hand, there’s a chance she sees you as more of a sibling than a potential partner.
If she bumps your hips with hers while you’re standing side by side, it might also be closer to friendship than a relationship. Confusingly, if she slaps you on the butt, it may also be a sisterly form of harassment rather than a genuine indicator of interest — but all women are different.
Getting bumped by a girl’s leg under the table is also not necessarily a reliable indicator of interest.
If a girl is frequently finding excuses to hug you, there’s also a chance she wants to be your girlfriend, especially if she lingers afterward.
She Gently Teases You
Women may tease you when they want to be your girlfriend. When women tease you, it’s a sign they are comfortable enough with you to push beyond the boundaries that uninvolved people have between each other.
Teasing can constitute gentle jabs at your looks, your habits, your preferences, or even your romantic life. Teasing from girls who want to be your girlfriend will usually be benign rather than pointed, but some women prefer to be rougher with their teasing than others.
For instance, if a girl says that you’re chubby and gives you a little poke, you shouldn’t take umbrage because she might want to be your girlfriend. If you’re smart, you won’t try to return a similar tease if you aren’t sure whether she wants to be your girlfriend or not.
Teasing can be friendly rather than romantic, however. Differentiating between the two requires interpreting the content and context of her teasing. As always, when you’re in a group setting with a girl, her teases will probably be of the friendly variety rather than the romantic variety.
Similarly, when a woman makes fun of the way you dress or the way you talk while she is laughing or smiling, she may want you to ask her out. However, if you are visibly irritated by her teasing and she still doesn’t stop, she may not be interested after all.
She Asks You To Do Things For Her
When girls ask you for help with simple tasks that she could probably do on her own like installing light bulbs or carrying heavy things around her house, it’s a definite sign that she is interested in being your girlfriend.
When women ask you to do things for you, they might be testing you to see if you are willing to buy into a potential relationship by exerting effort. They might also be trying to get some free labor out of someone who they think is their friend.
Judging between the two situations is all about the context. If the girl has asked a bunch of other people to help at the same time, you shouldn’t interpret it as her being specifically interested in you.
On the other hand, if she only asks you for help with a task that will require the two of you to spend a lot of time together working intensely, it may be an excuse to hang out.
Be sure to do your best to accomplish the task so that you can evaluate how pleased she is upon its completion.
Be careful when a girl is asking you to do a lot of things for her, however. Sometimes, women will consider each task as an opportunity to keep you interested in her without having any desire to be your girlfriend.
Her Face Says That She Likes You
Her facial expressions are also significant indicators that she wants to be your girlfriend. When women want to be your girlfriend, they will laugh at a lot of your jokes, slightly smile at you while you’re talking, and you might even catch them looking at you when you’re doing something else.
In contrast, if she wants to be your girlfriend, you probably will not see her face looking disgusted, unhappy, irritated, or otherwise negative.
On the other hand, if you notice that her sour moods tend to improve rapidly while you’re around, it can be a sign that she wants to be your girlfriend. The reverse advisory also applies.
If you have a knack for degrading her mood when the two of you hang out, she probably won’t want to be your girlfriend for much longer if she ever did.
Other facial expressions are more ambiguous. If she looks pensive while you’re speaking, it could be a good sign that she is trying to engage deeply with your words. It could also be a sign that her thoughts are elsewhere.
Mild amusement can be a sign which reads in either direction. If a girl is consistently mildly amused but rarely very enthusiastic, you may want to think twice about whether she would want to be your girlfriend rather than a casual friend.
If you find that her face is challenging to read, you’ll need to rely on other signs to figure out whether she wants to be your girlfriend. Even the most difficult to understand women will show you some positive facial expressions when they genuinely like you, however, so be on the lookout.
She Frequently Flirts With You
The line between flirting and teasing may be thin, but lighthearted banter with the occasional dive into a discussion of your preferences is a definite sign that she might want to be your girlfriend.
When women flirt, they engage you with a vibrant back-and-forth discussion which requires a careful yet seemingly effortless approach. If she keeps flirting with you even when you appear to be nervous, you can be sure that she is interested in you.
Women may also complement your appearance or other attributes when they’re trying to flirt with you. Especially if they sing your praises to third parties who are single women, you can be sure that she thinks you’re a catch.
In other words, if a woman shows you off to her friends, she probably wants to be your girlfriend, particularly if she compliments your less-obvious attributes. This is also true when women mention the beautiful things you did for them to their friends.
On the other hand, if you see her frequently flirting with other people, she may not be interested in being with you. Alternatively, she may be trying to get you to make a move by showing you that she has other options in which she is on the verge of exercising.
Use your best judgment when a girl is flirting with you. Flirting does not always indicate that a woman wants to be your girlfriend — she might want something less formal. However, a consistent trend of flirting over time is a signal that a girl likes you.
She Dresses Up For You
Many women like to dress attractively for the people who they are attracted to. In other words, if she wants to be your girlfriend, you’ll probably notice that she has put a lot of effort into her appearance so that you will be impressed by it.
If she thinks you haven’t appreciated how much effort she put into her outfit and appearance, she may drop you some not-so-subtle hints regarding how long it took her to get ready for your meeting or some prior event.
If you’re not clear regarding what constitutes a woman dressing up, consider their sense of style. Many women like to apply perfumes and more exotic makeup when they are trying to impress someone who they want to have a relationship with.
Not all women dress up when they’re trying to signal that they want to be your girlfriend, however. The most important thing to identify is how the girl changes your perception of her when you’re around versus when you’re not around.
Dressing down may also be a sign that a girl is comfortable enough with you to want to be your girlfriend. Many women won’t be seen in sweatpants with people who they don’t think are relationship material or a close friend.
She Tells You She Likes You And Does Nice Things For You
If you’re lucky, a girl will tell you that she likes you when she wants to be your girlfriend. She may even suggest that you should ask her out.
Girls are often less direct about telling you that they like you. Many girls will obliquely mention that they like someone who has certain traits that you have expressed that you have or that you have recently demonstrated having.
Especially when a girl is talking about traits she likes in the abstract that she knows that you have, it is nearly equivalent to telling you outright that she likes you. It’s also a sign that you’ll need to be more direct than her in your approach if you want to make her your girlfriend.
Acts of generosity are often a proxy for a girl telling you that she likes you. For instance, if you mention that you like pizza, and a girl brings you a fresh pizza, it’s a sign she may want to have a relationship with you.
When she is generous to you, she is communicating that if she were your girlfriend, you could count on her to continue the trend.
She may also tell you that she likes it when you do specific things for her. While telling you that she likes it when you do certain things is not the same as saying to you that she likes you, it’s still a good proxy for wanting to be with you.
Importantly, when a girl tries to bargain with you about trading favors or services, it’s a sign that she is saying that she likes you enough to haggle.
Asking Her Out
Now that you know all of the signs she might want to be your girlfriend, it’s time to put your newfound knowledge to use. Schedule a date or a hangout with your potential girlfriend and monitor her speech and body language carefully.
Remember not to poke fun at her if she admits that she likes you. Try to treasure every expression of vulnerability so that she will feel safe around you and continue to want to be your girlfriend.
After the first few dates are behind you, you’ll probably have a significantly better idea regarding whether or not she wants to be your girlfriend. Keep the same signals in mind and don’t be afraid to ask her about what she thinks of you more directly as your relationship progresses.
