When your girlfriend isn’t acting in the way that you expect, it may be reasonable for you to worry that she is losing interest. Much of the time, your worries may be at least partially warranted.
However, you won’t have a birds-eye view of the situation until you understand how women communicate that they’re losing interest.
In this article, we’ll discuss a number of the signs which may indicate that your girlfriend or casual partner is losing interest in you or the relationship that you share.
She Doesn’t Touch You
Women use touch to communicate their affection as well as their interest. Especially when you are accustomed to a female touching you regularly on the arm or elsewhere on your body, when she stops touching you as much, it can be a sign she is falling out of love.
This is especially true if she seems to be getting more touchy with other people who may be your romantic rivals. If you realize that she is touching someone else on the arm when she might generally be touching yours, there’s a good chance she’s not as into you as she once was.
Similarly, if she no longer initiates casual touch contact like holding hands or grabbing your arm while you are walking, she is probably less interested in you than she was before.
Remember that there are a plethora of reasons why someone might not want to touch you as frequently as they once did. If you have let your hygiene lapse, it’s completely understandable that your girlfriend would hesitate to contact you.
Likewise, if one of you has a cold or another infectious disease, don’t interpret a reluctance to touch you as a lack of interest.
She Criticizes You Frequently
When women criticize your looks, behaviors, choices, and past, it’s a sign that she is starting to see all of your faults in a harsh light.
When your relationship with a girl is strong, she may ignore your flaws or your mistakes. However, there’s a limit to how much someone can tolerate your downsides once the energy of an intensifying relationship starts to ebb.
If you feel like you can’t do anything right while she’s around, it’s a strong signal that she is losing patience with you as well as losing her interest in perpetuating your relationship.
By consistently injecting negativity into your interactions, she’s starting the process of emotionally extricating herself from you.
When a girl criticizes you for things that you can’t change, the situation is exceptionally dire.
While it isn’t the same as criticism, sometimes a lack of reassurance at a critical moment can also mean that a girl is losing interest in you.
If a girl would typically offer you a word of support when you express discontent about something and she doesn’t, it may be that she is divesting herself from the relationship.
Her Mind Is Always Elsewhere
If you can’t seem to catch your companion’s attention when you’re hanging out, it’s a sign she may be losing interest in you. This can manifest itself in a handful of ways.
Girls who seem to want to text someone else whenever you’re together are often expressing that they are losing interest, especially if you’re more accustomed to having her mostly undivided attention when you are together.
When you try to engage her in conversation, you may find that she answers you curtly rather than discursively. This can mean that there is something that is bothering her, or it might mean that she is struggling to remember why she was ever interested in you in the first place.
Getting a one-word answer to a long question is a big red flag when it comes to her level of interest. The more effort you put into communication, the more she should be putting in as well.
When communication starts to become asymmetrical, one of the two partners is losing interest or is otherwise too busy to make their partner feel appreciated.
If she seems distracted by something else whenever you’re together, she may not be interested in you enough to pretend to be focused.
Her Body Language Is Always Closed
Closed body language is a definite sign that she is losing interest, mainly when she uses closed body language the majority of the time.
Closed body language can be anything from leaning back in her chair to crossing her arms when you’re speaking. Alternatively, you may find that she rarely maintains eye contact with you anymore or that she rarely turns her head to face you when you call her name.
Similarly, if your girlfriend seems to be keeping more physical distance between the two of you, it is a sign that she is losing interest. Likewise, if she faces her torso away from you when she had the option to face it towards you, she is likely cooling in her passion for you.
Her body language in intimate situations is an even stronger signal of her level of interest. If you are sitting next to her in bed before going to sleep and she doesn’t turn to face you when you prompt her, she is probably not as engaged in your relationship as she once was.
Likewise, if when you are walking with her in public, she does not seem to turn toward you or to match your pace as you are walking, she may be thinking about leaving you and finding someone else.
The critical thing to remember regarding body language is that no two women have the same set of body language, however. Cultural factors can also make a massive difference in the level of warmth someone shows you with their body language.
Try to place your girlfriend’s body language in the context of the situation and their native culture before jumping to the conclusion that she is losing interest in you.
Many times, people use closed body language when they are struggling to process their emotions, and you need to remember that not all of these emotions will be about you.
You Keep Annoying Her By Accident
If you suddenly feel like you are walking on eggshells around your girlfriend, it may be because she is losing interest in you and lashing out to cover it up.
When innocuous actions are met with being brushed off or a sharp verbal rejection, you should be aware that she may be planning her exit or feeling disengaged with you.
It’s also possible that you keep doing annoying things and are thus pushing her away.
First look to your behavior to make sure that you are not the problem, then consider her responses in context to see if she is losing interest and expressing it by getting annoyed with you over trivial things.
She Isn’t Giving You As Much Attention
One of the most reliable signs that a girl is losing interest in you is when she starts to scale down the amount of attention that she gives you without being prompted.
Many women like to check in on their partners regularly via text message, phone calls, emails, or other forms of communication. When these ongoing communications ebb, it may be because she is losing the desire to move the relationship forward.
Attention has multiple dimensions, however. If your girlfriend seems to prefer hanging out with other people rather than you suddenly, she is probably losing interest.
Likewise, if when you do hang out, she prefers to be engrossed in anything other than you, there’s a good chance she isn’t as fascinated with you as she once was.
A lower level of sexual attention is also a significant sign that she is losing interest in you. While you probably understand her baseline level of libido, you probably also understand that if a girl becomes less emotionally attached to you, her desire to have sex with you will usually fall.
She Doesn’t Try To Impress You Anymore
Girls like to impress their partners by dressing extravagantly, performing acts of generosity, or creating things which other people find valuable. When your girlfriend stops doing these things, she is no longer trying to impress you.
In other words, she is no longer trying to improve her standing with you. She may not be interested in maintaining her pre-established standing with you, either. In these cases, she is most likely rapidly losing interest.
When girls are losing their interest in people, they scale back the level of effort that they exert when they are interacting. This scaling back is mirrored in the preparations that they make for the interaction or lack thereof.
If you have noticed that your girlfriend no longer dresses up when you go out on dates, she may be losing interest in you. She may also express to you that it is too much work to look beautiful while you’re on a date — but be aware she may not feel that way with everyone that she speaks to.
While it may be a positive sign that someone can finally relax around you and not try to impress you all of the time, keep an eye out for the difference between being relaxed and being disengaged.
Relaxed girls will laugh more quickly and be cordial without reservation. Disengaged girls will be less likely to laugh and less likely to be unreserved in conversations.
Pay careful attention to her tone. If she isn’t trying to keep you interested, she probably isn’t as interested in you as she once was.
She Doesn’t Seem To Be Having Fun Anymore
Girls like to have fun in their relationships, and if you’ve been paying attention to her, you know what she is like when she is having fun. When she doesn’t seem to be having as much fun as she was having at the start of your relationship, she may be starting to look elsewhere.
Not all girls value fun the same amount, however. If your girlfriend is a fun-loving type, you should be very worried if she seems to have lost her spark when you go on dates.
On the other hand, if your girlfriend tends to be more conservative, when she isn’t having as much fun, it can mean that she is becoming more secure in her relationship with you and expressing her true emotions more frequently.
She Says She Thinks Your Relationship Isn’t Going Anywhere
If she has been asking you about the future of your relationship and you haven’t had the correct answers ready to provide, she may start to lose interest and start to look for someone more prepared to commit to a serious relationship.
Before she asks specifically about where your relationship is going, however, she may provide you with several signs that she thinks you aren’t the right fit for her.
These signs can include probing questions about how you want to be living in the future as well as if you want to have children.
She Keeps Mentioning A Potential Romantic Rival
If your girlfriend has made a new friend who she can’t seem to stop mentioning, you may start to suspect that she is losing interest if the new friend is a potential romantic rival.
Much of the time, these potential romantic rivals are innocuous, and her mention of them is innocent. However, sometimes, when she mentions people in a positive light on numerous occasions, there is a threat to your relationship, and she is losing interest.
Especially when you are intimidated by the attention that your girlfriend lavishes on a potential rival, you are right to think that she may be losing interest in favor of the challenger.
Keep in mind that not all people who she mentions will be rivals that she is actively interested in. Sometimes, if a girl is losing interest in you, she may try to get you to revitalize the relationship by telling you about her other options.
While this behavior is immature, there isn’t much that you can do about it except to try to fulfill her wishes if you want to reverse her being disinterested in you.
She Doesn’t Want To Spend Time With You
Spending time together is the foundation of most successful relationships. Thus, when she doesn’t want to spend as much time with you anymore, it can be a sign that she is not as invested in your relationship as she once was.
When your girlfriend prefers to spend her time with other people rather than you, it’s yet another strong sign that she doesn’t value your relationship as much as she might have in the past. This is especially true when she prefers to spend her time with her single friends rather than you.
Keep in mind that she probably has legitimate reasons not to want to spend time with you, which do not indicate that she is becoming less interested in your relationship. For instance, if her family is visiting, it is reasonable for her to want to spend time with them rather than with you.
Likewise, if she has a lot of errands to run and she is very tired, she may prefer to hold off on spending time with you so that she can recharge. However, it’s important to note that if she can’t make any time for you whatsoever, it’s a sign she is losing interest.
Put differently, girls will always make time to spend time with people who they really cherish or who they are genuinely interested in, but they won’t go through the same effort for people who mean less to them.
If you’re number one on their list, you’ll know when they had to move mountains to see you.
She Rejects Your Advances
When women start to lose interest in you, they tend to reject your advances and your proposals more frequently than they would if they were falling hard for you.
Propositioning her for sexual activity or even an intimate conversation can result in failure when she is less crazy about you than before. You can expect your attempts to initiate sex to fail if you have been feeling emotional distance with her recently or spending less time together.
On the other hand, rejection is a spectrum. If she doesn’t wholly reject you but seems less enthusiastic about intimacy than before, she may be feeling less interested in your relationship than before.
Similarly, if she often initiates intimacy but begins to waver, it may be the case that her mind is on someone else. While this doesn’t constitute a rejection, it can readily lead to future rejections when she continues to stray further from you.
Rejections often take the form of excuses, many of which are legitimate. If your girlfriend claims she’s feeling sick and doesn’t want to be intimate, you should take her at her word.
However, if the rejections start to pile up and changing your tactics doesn’t have any results, you should begin to seriously consider that her level of interest in you may have plummeted below the point where she is interested in being intimate with you.
Advances are not exclusively sexual, however. If you reach out to hold your girlfriend’s hand, and she brushes you off when she might typically accept your grasp, she may be tired of the relationship.
Likewise, if your suggestions for potential dates are increasingly met with apathy or rejection, there is a chance that she is not as interested in you as she was originally.
Your Jokes Fall Flat
When a woman is deeply interested in you and enjoys your company, they tend to laugh at your jokes and your comments, even when you aren’t exceptionally entertaining.
If you happen to notice that your old goofs aren’t getting as much of a reaction from your girlfriend as they were when your relationship was new, it’s a sign that she has become accustomed to your style and is potentially becoming less interested in you as a result.
While it isn’t reasonable to expect that you will always have a joke ready to make her giggle, it’s a courtesy to at least guffaw when a partner invests a lot of effort into trying to entertain someone.
As women lose interest in people, they don’t feel as much pressure to express positive emotions, meaning that they won’t laugh as frequently.
This is especially true if you happen to notice that she has no laughs to spare for your best jokes, but plenty of laughs to go around when a certain rival is doing a tiresome gag.
You should also be attuned to the tone and type of laugh that she returns when you do land a successful joke. When women start to lose interest, they may still laugh at jokes which they find to be genuinely funny.
However, their laughs may seem significantly more bitter or less engaged than they sounded when you were first dating.
If you’re especially unlucky, you may catch that the laughter feels forced, indicating that she is willing to extend the courtesy to you but not if it means genuinely engaging.
If you aren’t a funny type or your girlfriend is not the type to laugh very much, you shouldn’t put as much stock in a lack of laughs when it comes to assessing her interest.
Is It Possible To Recover When She Loses Interest?
While it may be more uncomfortable than reading this list, talking to your girlfriend is the easiest way to figure out if she is losing interest. Having a frank discussion about your relationship and how things are going will quickly reveal whether or not she is still fully invested.
If you think that she is losing interest, you may have a few options for turning things around. Start communicating more, work on the trouble areas in your relationship, and try to improve yourself to address her concerns.
If all else fails, don’t try to reel her back in with an over-the-top display of commitment which your relationship wasn’t ready for. Remember, life is long, and there are plenty of fish in the sea.
