You start dating a girl, you like her, and you wonder if she’s in it for the long haul. How can you tell if she’s committed to you or not? You watch for the signs of not wanting to commit and then – when you feel the signs are there -you ask her about it so that you can know for sure.
I have spent a lot of time in relationships where my partner didn’t want to commit, and I kept my eyes shut, pretending that they were just warming up to me and would eventually decide that I was the perfect one for them. I wish I hadn’t done that!
When you see these signs of not being committed, you need to pay attention. If not, you could end up wasting months or years with the wrong woman and then regret it later on as you say things like, “It was so clear that she wasn’t into me for the long-term!”
I want you to keep in mind, though, that even if you recognize signs of not being committed, she may still be someone who wants to be with you for the long run. She may just be scared of commitment, which doesn’t mean that she doesn’t like or love you. So, you should really talk to her about your concerns and ask her to be honest so that you are not just guessing how she feels, but you know how she feels.
Four Big Signs That She Doesn’t Want To Commit
1. When Things Get Serious She’s Out Of There!
When anything important gets brought up, she changes the subject or gets out of the conversation altogether. This can include future plans, meeting your parents, or talking about how you really feel about her. All of these things could potentially cause your relationship to go to the next level, and a woman who is scared to commit will not want to broach these topics at all.
2. Her History Speaks For Itself
If she has a ton of short-lived relationships, and she is a pretty decent person, then she very well could be scared of commitment. She has probably left her past relationships when they became too serious and scary for her.
Often commitment-phobes will say their exes were crazy and wanted too much out of them, such as marriage or children. The chances that all of their exes were psychotic people and were trying to get her to marry them quickly are very slim. So if she talks about almost all of her exes as too clingy or needy, then the problem may not