I know I need all the help I can get when it comes to relationships. And knowing tips and tricks and clear cut signs my ex wants me back is only going to help me find the right guy for me.
But relationships are anything but easy and often the strongest unions come from the get together and breakup process.
Is your ex sending you mixed messages?
Do they say they are over you but you know deep down in your heart they aren’t?
If you were honest with yourself do you still really love them?
These are fair questions that may be rolling through your brain as I type. Good news is you are about to learn a few simple but effective signs your ex really does want you back; if you want them.
Let’s get started.
Signs That Your Ex Wants You Back
According to some relationship experts:
If You Are In A “Friends” Situation…
You’re Ex Is Constantly Contacting You
Without encouraging him or her, if your ex is calling, texting or sending you private messages at least 2-3 times a week this is a sure signal they are still into you.
Simply Keeps On Telling You About His Life
If they are writing or telling you about their life like you are still together that’s a loud and clear signal they are still thinking about you and want you in their life regardless.
It’s Obvious Your Ex Still Wants To Know What You Are Up To
If your ex wants to know how work is, who you are seeing and what you are up to in general, that’s a ginormous signal they still want you in their life.
Playing The Jealous Card
The experts say if your ex is stuffing the internet world with their party nights and they are pretending to be happy without you, then you need to understand they are just trying to get you mad, make you jealous.
You deserve more.
They Are Calling You Specifically To Complain About Work
Are you kidding me? Okay, so they aren’t sleeping with you anymore but when they are yapping about work, OMG?
Could this be because they need you and trust your judgement? Think about it for a minute, pretty please.
Wanting To Meet You For A Drink
This is a tough one because it doesn’t obviously mean you’re getting back together. They could be lonely or just assume you want to get back with them. In hindsight that’s playing the “desperate” card.
Only go for a drink if you “really” want to.
You’re Simply Always Bumping Into Him – Or Her…
Okay. If you just happen to be bumping into your ex in the weirdest places…It’s likely planned. Not a bad thing if that’s what you want but if you truly want to get away from him it gets complex-eek!
Passed The Friend Thing? In A Zero Contact Situation? Here’s A Few More Telltale Signs Your Ex Wants You By Their Side
You’re ex seems to keep in touch mysteriously with your family and friends – Lots!
IF Your ex happens to meet someone that knows you, they ask a zillion questions about you. What’s up with that?
“Accidentally” your ex winds up at the same place as you – Again and again.
Nonchalantly, the friends of your ex happen to mention the fact that he’s not seeing anyone. Eeek-How convenient.
If your ex is commenting in your social media, he still wants you inside out. Aka…he wants to know who you are with and what you’re up to.
Back to the Facebook’s stuff. Your ex is whining about how empty life feels, or how tired they are of having nobody. This is a tried, tested and true signal he wants you back – pronto!
Next Up! Oodles Of Clear Cut Signals Your Ex Wants You Back!
Signal One – Ultra Emotional
Perhaps you won’t notice it but your friends definitely will. If your ex gets emotional; angry or upset, sad or mad; with even the mention of your name, they want you back bad. The reason they are emotionally wrecked is because of you. Take this to the bank and smoke it. When people react, negatively or positively, it’s because they still care. That’s all I’m gonna say on this one.
Take action or don’t. It’s your choice.
Signal Two – Consistent Communication
Regardless of the fact they have anything intelligent to say, they are still going to try and communicate with you.
What’s this say?
They want any little piece of you they can get. And if you have a new person in your life, they are going to consciously find any excuse they can to reach out to you, to grab your attention, don’t say you weren’t warned.
Signal Three – Single Forever And A Day
If your ex still wants you back, it’s pretty safe to say you are the one they want. Whether they are willing to admit it or not is another story. Ultimately they want you to know they are still available – that says wonders.
Signal Four – Drunkhead Calls
I’m willing to bet you have been in the scenario of receiving those drunk “text love” calls. That’s just what I happen to call them. Bottom line is, we let our guard down when we’ve got a few drinks in us and that’s when the truth overflows.
If your ex is texting or calling you after a night out – They want you – Period.
Signal Five – Crazy Competitive
If for instance you aren’t paying attention to your ex and he wants ALL eyes on him, that’s a straight up sign he wants you back. If your ex is flirting with anyone right in front of you that’s a lame way to show he wants you but is too insecure to tell you that face to face.
Just be wary please.
Signal Six – What You Think Matters…
If your ex happens to come into a life crisis or a serious life decision and they come to you, that’s a straight forward signal they want and need you in their life. This clearly says they miss you but to what degree is uncertain.
You obviously still have value in their life if they are coming to you when they need advice or an opinion. Just saying…
Signal Seven – Affectionate Terms
When couples break up one of the first things to cut like a knife is when you hear those special terms of endearment you used to use with each other. “Boo”…”Baby”…you get the picture. Now here’s where it gets interesting. If your ex is still using those terms with you like you are still together, that’s his inside the heart voice wanting you back.
Signal Eight – Never Far Away
Your ex is always trying to stay in contact with you but it goes a heck of a lot further than that. The second you text them, they reply back. If you happen to call, they grab before the first ring finishes. If you need them for anything, they drop and run to you.
If an ex is over you, there’s going to be oodles more lag time before they reply to your immediate needs, if ever.
Signal Nine – Creativity Light Bulb
This isn’t a trick question. If you are missing someone but can’t see them, what do you do? Well, you start to get creative! If your ex is writing poetry about you or reflecting emotionally about you on his social media accounts or just in an email to you, then it’s pretty clear they want you back.
Signal Ten – Smoochy Smoochy
This one usually comes a little later down the road after a breakup. If you happen to run into each other, you might hug but if your ex holds the hug a little too long or even softly touches you or brushes your hair from your face, they’re still into you.
If you don’t like someone you’re first of all not going to hug. Secondly, that touchy-feely emotional stuff isn’t going to happen.
BEWARE – Emotions and logic don’t mix. Both can’t physiologically show face simultaneously, according to WebMD specialists.
Signal Eleven – Going Back In Time
An in-your-face signal, your ex still wants you back if they will consistently without hesitation remind you about the amazing memories of the past you created together – It’s called reminiscing.
Signal Twelve – All Eyes On You!
Chances are you’re not going to tell your ex about every detail of your life but they still inquire regardless. This may be annoying at first but what it means is your ex is NOT over you and they want you back. They want to know what you are up to, who you’re hanging out with, and any other top secret information you will divulge.
They may even go so far as to ask your friends what you are up to. Essentially, they may be stalking you for their own reasons. All crazy strong indicators they want you back.
Signal Thirteen – Party Socialites No More
If your ex suddenly seems to be staying in on Friday night and isn’t going out as much, it may be because they simply want to be with you. What they are secretly doing is trying to paint a bleak picture to you of how lonely they are.
Bottom line…they want you back bad.
Signal Fourteen – Find You Anywhere
It’s safe to say your ex knows your favorite hangout spots and when they show up unannounced time after time, they want you back.
What they are trying to tell you, is they want you to know they are making an effort to be in your face. Ultimately they’re hoping the feeling is mutual and you want them back too.
Signal Fifteen – Holding Your Stuff Hostage
If your ex is taking their sweet old time getting your belongings back to you, it’s clear they want you in their arms.
Your personal possessions are an intimate link between the two of you and that’s something they just don’t want to let go of, if that makes sense?
Clearly they don’t want to totally kick you to the curb.
Signal Sixteen – Straight Up Telling You
One of the ginormous reasons your ex wants you back is if they bite the bullet and tell you straight up, face to face. When they open up to you and tell you they miss you and why they still want you in their life, they are seriously still hung up on you.
Pay attention to these signals. If there’s a chance you seriously might want your ex back, you need to be straight up and tell them.
If on the other hand, you are totally done with them, you need to set all feelings aside and let them know. Shut them down if you have to because it’s NOT fair to lead them on.
Time for you to take action. Follow your heart and you’ll do just fine. Pinky swear promise.
As Important As It Is To Know The Signals Your Ex Wants You Back, You Also Need To Know When To Run Far And Fast
There are a few key signals you need to kick your ex to the curb forever fast and move on.
Maybe you’re in the common scenario where everything is going great, you meet the family and friends, talk about the future and believe you’ll be together forever. Then suddenly everything comes to a halt for one reason or another. It’s over.
The question running through your brain might be “now what?”
You need to take control of you and stop getting caught up in the ex rut. It’s high time you see things clearly.
Straight up are a few signs you need to open your eyes to the clear-cut truth and move your booty on…
Your “Past” Man Has A New Gal
Wake up and smell the coffee. I understand, it’s tough when you are fogged out missing someone. I know it’s crazy hard. But if your ex is with another, you need to drop it, get over it and move on right now.
When your ex brings a new chick into the picture, this is telling you straight to your face that he doesn’t want anything to do with you anymore. Just think of it as being dismissed if you like.
You have no say here, understand that.
Your ex has moved on and it’s not with you and you’re best to accept that and move on when you’er ready.
I’m not saying it’s easy but you MUST do it for you.
The Distance Card Is In Play
Like me, you’ve likely stayed in touch with an ex for awhile. Of course, we changed the amount of contact we had considering the circumstances. Distance is hard but it’s VIP in the breaking up process.
Often people choose to not hook up on any level or form with their exes after you’ve broken up. If you’re been dumped you might have to add difficult to the situation. No matter what, if you are feeling distant, it’s time to start distancing your brain too. Period – Just do it please.
The Anger Card Is In Play
In real life, you’re not going to hang out with people that get crazy angry and pissed off, so why would you let your ex get away with it? That’s a fair question.
It really doesn’t matter whether or not he’s ticked, you broke up with him or he’s just disappointed with his own life, you need to step aside and let him deal with his crap.
No matter what he has to deal with his own problems. They are NOT your responsibility.
Beware that getting angry and upset is a part of the grieving process. Yes, it’s tough for everyone involved but you do not have to accept and deal with the anger card. End of story.
As hard as it is, if your ex isn’t returning your calls, replying to your texts or social media attempts, they really aren’t interested in you at all. I’m sorry but it’s true.
Try to open your mind and understand that it will take time but you really need to move on. You are seriously better than this!
Stop waiting by the phone. Stop responding to texts. Just switch gears in your mind – get sober – and understand you need to move on for you.
Bigger and better is just around the corner. Go get it!
You’ve Done Your Hardest To Get Him Back
It seriously doesn’t matter whether or not you’ve been trying to get him back or not, because at some point if it’s not working you’ve got to call it quits, according to relationship excerpts at psychology.com.
If there is something you obviously need to fix in your relationship and you can’t do it, then you need to call it quits. Sad but crazy true.
Particularly if he doesn’t feel for you like he used to, it just needs to be done.
You Can Only Think Of The Fabulous Times
Beware because this is super dangerous territory. If you find yourself remembering the happy times, the giggles and laughs – forgetting totally the crappy times – You need to run far and fast.
Truth – We are naturally programmed to block out the crap and accept the good. This isn’t necessarily a good thing. Just beware please.
What’s important is you understand that being in love and just missing someone are two VERY different things. Hopefully you get that.
Here Comes The Boring
Often when you are head over heels in a relationship, it’s very difficult to realize it’s really not the best thing for us. Sometimes as crazy as it sounds we are totally bored!
I’m going to tell you straight up, minus the hurt, if your ex bores you, that’s a clear sign you need to move on right now. There are people that just don’t want to experience life at all and you need to step away, as hard as that is.
Here Comes The Hurt Again
Holy crap -Breaking up is crazy hard. The pain leaves us afraid to take a step forward – that’s normal. Bottom line – If you want to feel love, you need to open your mind up to accept and thrive positively from it. You need to love yourself inside out to move on.
Time To Move On Full Speed Ahead
When your breakup is recognized, it’s simply time to move forward. Now it’s totally time to break free and move forward with a smile on your face. It’s all about loving yourself and believing in yourself as cheesy as that sounds
Seriously, this is the most difficult part of forgiving. You need to understand your own self worth to start.
It really doesn’t matter whether or not you brought your relationship to the end or not. You need to forgive yourself and move forward with a smile on your face. You need to understand who you are and believe in your positive parts that will attract the partner of your dreams.
It’s mind over matter here.
Safe to say, you’re going to end up in your own negative traits during a breakup. Sucks but it’s true. Focus on positive talk and understand what you deserve. Take it to the next level with an open mind.
When your ex wants you back, they are going to let you know in your face with straight up signals. Pay attention and take action.
You deserve to have what you want, when you want it. End of story.
Best of Luck!