If you have struck out with a woman on the approach, getting the number, on the first date, or beyond, then you have hit a goldmine!
Seriously, if you view it as a failure, then you are viewing it all wrong. Yes, you failed in the moment, but from that failure comes a lesson that will help you succeed over and over again in the future.
Failure Equals Devastation Or Success – It’s Your Choice
I cannot stress how important failure is to your success.
In the dating game, you are either improving or getting worse – you cannot stay the same. That is essentially what happens in all areas of life, you are either getting better or worse, but you never stay exactly where you are in your life.
So, if you are getting worse, then you are looking at your failures as – well, failures. You are letting them get you down, and you are starting to tell yourself that you ARE a failure. This doesn’t improve your game with women at all; instead, it makes you develop bad dating habits such as desperation, anxiety, and playing games.
Another route you may take is making the same mistake over and over again. The same failure repeated also has a negative affect on you. It can lower your self-confidence and make your scared shitless to approach a woman.
BUT, if you take a failure and learn from it, then you will start to improve your game with women. You will have more confidence as you interact with women, and you will start to have more success with women.
In short, with every failure you have you will have the chance to get closer to the man you want to be!
How To Handle A Failure With A Woman
Step 1 – Accept the failure for what it is. You didn’t get the woman, but you also didn’t die. You simply didn’t do everything right.
Step 2 – Pinpoint the reason you failed. This requires honestly, which may be hard for some people, but self-acceptance is required for personal growth. Be honest with yourself. Did you talk too fast? Did you say something wrong? Did you use your body language wrong? Were you rude? Figure out exactly what you did or else you can’t fix the issue.
If you are not sure, make an estimated guess based off what you know. If you are reading this, then I am sure you are learning as much as you can about women. Use that guess to help improve your approach, conversation, or whatever, and see if you have better luck next time.
If you are really brave, ask the woman! What will it hurt? She already rejected you, so ask her to be honest and tell you why so you can work on yourself. Tell her that you are a big boy and you can handle it…chances are she will tell you at that point, and she may even admire your ability to admit failure and learn from it.
Step 3 – Fix the issue. Learn how to be better at (fill in the blank) or learn how to not sound (fill in the blank). The point is that you need to look for the information, and then use what you find to improve yourself. Trust me, if you look, you will find it.
That’s it! Now, try your luck again and see what happens. You may have several (hundred) failures before you succeed, but guess what – every time you learn from those failures, you will become a better version of yourself, and that is worth any rejection you may face with a woman you hardly know or who doesn’t really like you.
Your life and your happiness should always be number one, and learning from your failures will help you make them number one.
