Are you scared by the awkward silence? Are you constantly talking about the same old, same old until you’re bored out of your skull?
You can be head over heels in love with each other, but if you don’t have fresh new things to talk about, you are heading for troubled waters. When your relationship gets boring, you start heading away from each other fast. You’ll start to fade away, and that’s not good for two loving people.
Chin up! When you ask the right questions, you will get yourselves together. Here are the straight-up questions you need to ask to keep your boyfriend and build a stronger union.
Things To Talk About With Your Boyfriend
Question One – How Do You Act When You Don’t Get What You Want?
There’s no doubt we all have different desires we hope to find in a partner. Often, disappointments create frustration and sadness. If you are with a man that’s confident and secure, flexible and innovative, and he doesn’t react first with anger, he’s got the traits that stand strong in a long-term relationship.
This type of man will talk about his feelings and be fair in the fighting department.
Results from asking him this question.
Awesome Answer – I’m not afraid to admit there are times when I pout. One thing is for sure; I’d never want you to do anything you really don’t want to do. There are many different roads to get what I want, and they shouldn’t make you uncomfortable.
Ok Answer – It all depends on whether it’s really important to me and my partner has the ability to give it to me. If she is holding back because she is mad or something, that just doesn’t sit well with me.
Sucky Answer – If I really want it, I will push as much as I can to get it. I deserve what I want.
Question Two – When You Disagree With Your Girlfriend, How Do You Convince Her To Jump On To Your Side?
You can’t be in a relationship without disagreements. When two people are looking to grow together, there are bound to be issues that will rise to somewhat of a heated argument.
That’s just the way the cookie crumbles in the dating world.
Awesome Answer – The perfect solution is for each of us to listen to each other carefully and understand what the other needs and wants and then figure out how to meet halfway.
Sometimes, I have to give, and other times, she does.
Ok Answer – I open the door of opportunity to give her the chance to convince me she is right. If she can’t, then I believe she should flip to my side.
Sucky Answer – If she tries to disagree with me over something that’s very important to me, I normally just back right off and make her think I don’t care. I know I can get back at her in many other ways.
Here are a few more topics every girl should discuss with her man.
The difference between a happy relationship and a sad one is the kind of conversations you have. Communication is everything in a relationship, and when you talk openly and honestly with each other, you will create a much deeper trusting bond.
It’s normal in any relationship to have dry talk spells, where you run out of things to talk about, whether you are texting or you’re out for dinner. When your relationship is new, it’s easy to talk because you are both still learning the basics about each other.
On the flip side, if you are in a seasoned relationship, you might be used to the comfortable silence and aren’t paying attention to whether you are talking. Regardless of whether you are new to each other or have years behind you, it’s vital that you communicate to move closer together. It’s too easy to drift apart in this hectic world we live in.
Most of the topics of conversation between the two of you can be revisited many times. And each time the question pops up again, the information will be different.
Topic One – Your Weekend Plans
This is a go-to conversation you can visit just about any day of the week. Even on a Monday, you can always set your sights on what you are going to do on the weekend. This sort of talk is exciting and fun, something to look forward to that helps you get through the week.
Topic Two – Compliment Him
Everyone likes to hear nice things about themselves. By talking about the things you like about your boyfriend, you are going to make him feel good. Tell him how much you appreciate him, whether it’s his kind nature or soft heart that made you fall in love with him.
Topic Three – Normal Worries
It’s always nice to get things off your chest, and your boyfriend should be aware of the things in your life that are troubling you. Not only will it help to explain some of your moods, but it will also make him feel special because you are reminding him you love and trust him.
Ask him if there is anything worrying him and tell him when things are bothering you. Being there for each other, listening and not judging, is key to creating that extra special bond that stands the test of time.
Just be sure not to make the mistake of dwelling on your worries because that will cause damage quickly. Acknowledge, discuss, and move on.
Topic Four – Work Time
No doubt, there will always be something to talk about when it comes to work. Every day is new, and often, there are new challenges you need to get off your chest. When you listen to each other about your work life, you are taking steps to understand each other better.
The good news is there will always be something new to talk about when it comes to work.
Topic Five – Deep, Dark Secrets
Well, they don’t really have to be dark secrets, but it’s always fun to confide in the man you love. This helps to deepen your intimacy and strengthen your foundation of trust.
Try making a game of it, where you reveal a new secret to each other. Talk about lots of fun!
Topic Six – Television Drama
There are so many shows on tv it’s enough to make your head spin. So, there will always be something new to talk about with your favorite shows.
Topic Seven – Eating Out and Dining In
We all have to eat to live. Even if your boyfriend isn’t interested in your amazing cooking, you can always ask him what he likes best and maybe what he wants for dinner. I’m sure there are a few good restaurants you’ve been dying to try. Ask your partner if he has any in mind.
This can also lead to a special weekend date or a night on the town someplace new. That’s a part of what keeps your relationship exciting.
Topic Eight – Your Dreams
This is something some men might laugh at, but the only way to find your true happiness is to dream and believe that dreams do come true. Let him in on your visions and goals, even the silly ones.
This shows your partner just how special you are, and perhaps, he can jump on board and help you achieve your dreams.
Topic Nine – Getaway Plans
This is something the experts say helps keep a relationship exciting and alive. Don’t be afraid to plan your weekend getaways and vacations months in advance. Plunk the dates on the calendar and highlight them, so you have something to look forward to together.
Think of this as mental therapy. Everyone needs to escape their everyday life from time to time to recharge and gain perspective.
Topic Ten – Interests and Hobbies
What you do on your own time is something your boyfriend should be interested in. Let him know your thoughts and wants. Chances are you will have a few similar interests or hobbies you can get excited about together.
Topic Eleven – Family and Friends
It’s important in any relationship to know as much as you can about each other’s friends. This helps you interconnect on a deeper level and get to know more about what you both do, your tolerances and preferences.
Topic Twelve – Your Proud Times
Ask your boyfriend to tell you about moments in his life when he was really proud. It could be childhood memories or a promotion at work. This will bring up happy moments that draw you closer.
Topic Thirteen – Open the Door to Help
When you love and care for someone, you should be interested in their “big picture” well-being. It makes sense that you want to help him any way you can. Ask him if he needs help with anything. This reminds him that you’re there for him, which can only make him more grateful to have you in his life.
Topic Fourteen – Discuss Your 5 Year Plans
This one applies if you’ve been seeing each other a while. Don’t talk about the future if you’re only on your second or third week together.
So, if you’ve been dating a while, you should talk about where you see yourself as a couple down the road. When you have shared goals, they will strengthen your relationship and give you a direction to work towards.
Topic Fifteen – Improving You
By opening up to your boyfriend and letting him in on your flaws, the areas you want to improve, you are helping your partner relax and perhaps not be so uptight about the things he doesn’t like about himself.
This will help him break down his walls because you are showing him you are okay taking down your walls.
Topic Sixteen – Issues Behind Closed Doors
This one is always interesting. Just make sure you don’t portray it in a light that will be offensive to him. You know men are very sensitive about how they perform in the bedroom, and there are ways to let him know he can improve. Just make sure you aren’t too matter-of-fact with him.
Under no circumstances should you sweep the bedroom problems under the rug. When you do this, you both know it will come back to haunt you. Keep the door open, so you both know you can talk about anything together, even the tough stuff in the bedroom.
Topic Seventeen – The Sexy Talk
If you want your relationship to last, you have to talk about sexy talk. Let your boyfriend know your fantasies and things you’d like to try. Not only will this be exciting to talk about, but it will help to connect you closer. When you are talking about sex, you are opening the door to your vulnerability, and when this is out on the table, it makes you that much closer.
Topic Eighteen – General Wellness
It’s not easy to talk about personal health issues, many of which are totally embarrassing; however, this is a great way to move closer together. You need to know this sort of stuff because it’s important in the big picture of long-term good health.
Topic Nineteen – Straight Up Advice
Sharing advice is an excellent route to learn more about your boyfriend. Don’t be afraid to ask him what he thinks about certain things in your life. It matters that you have a vested interest in what’s going on in each other’s lives.
Topic Twenty – The Past
When you are committed to a special guy, it’s always exciting and often funny to talk about the total screw-ups you were once with. Make sure you also talk to him about your childhood and growing up, so he can better understand you. Let him know your dreams, wants, and desires and discuss if you are on the right track.
Topic Twenty-One – Fast Forward
It’s important to know what’s in front of you, and you should be able to discuss this with your boyfriend. He should be interested in what you have to say. These are conversations that will hopefully help you grow closer. If not, it’s better to find out sooner than later.
Topic Twenty-Two – Simple Preferences
When you choose to talk about each other’s likes and dislikes that are always changing, you will move forward in your deep connection. The more you know about the guy with whom you are smitten, the better.
Topic Twenty-Three – United Goals
I can guarantee you won’t have the same goals, but you will have at least a few that are on the same page. Open the door to discussing your goals and see where he fits. Figure out a way to created united goals, and you will make it work in the end. Common interests are a large part of what makes a relationship healthy and forever.
Topic Twenty-Four – Your Opinion
If you truly love this man, you should never hold back, even if he doesn’t want to hear what you have to say. Say what you feel, and this will help you show him beyond a shadow of a doubt that he is the man you want and deserve.
Next Up…Questions Never to Ask Your Boyfriend
#1 – How Much Do You Love Me?
This is the question you should never ask a guy. He will do whatever it takes to prove he loves you, but he will not answer this question. This makes you look weak. Just don’t ask it, please.
#2 – Are You Willing to Give Up Your Hobby to Spend More Time with Me?
What are you thinking?
If you seriously don’t like this guy and have decided you don’t want anything long-term, then ask away. If not, don’t you dare cut him off from his passions just to be with you. Choosing will leave you in the dark, guaranteed.
#3 – Do You Like to Masturbate? If So How Much?
You have your head in the sand if you don’t know that all men masturbate. It doesn’t matter if they have a happy sex life or not; they still do it. Just stay totally clear of this question, and you still have a chance.
#4 – Do You Think Your Mom and Dad Are Going to Stay with Us After We Are Married?
If you ever ask this question, you will be kicked to the curb fast. Just don’t do it, please!!!
#5 – If Your Ex Wanted You Back, Would You Ditch Me for Her?
Are you serious? What sort of question is that?
If his answer isn’t an obvious no, then he’s not the dude for you.
#6 – If You Could Change Anything You Wanted About Me, What Would It Be?
Do you really think he has the balls to tell you?
I can guarantee he doesn’t want any drama, and he doesn’t want to cause any issues with you. Stay away from this question, and you will be just fine!
#7 – What Will You Do to Prove Your Love for Me?
What do you expect him to say? He’s not some fancy dancer/actor making millions in Hollywood. Actually, he shouldn’t really have to do anything.
#8 – Please Tell Me What You Like the Most About Me
Guys are not calculative. They really don’t like to quantify things. So, he really can’t point out one thing he loves most about you because there are many on a bunch of different levels. He just doesn’t want to complicate what’s going on. If he didn’t want to be with you for many reasons, he wouldn’t. Find your happiness in that, please.
#9 – Can We Still Be Friends?
If this guy has seriously loved you with all his heart, there is zero chance you are going to be friends. That just doesn’t work.
#10 – Will You Give Me Your Money?
I’m not going to say much more on this one. If this is the question you are asking your boyfriend, you are in big trouble.
#11 – If I Died, Would You Date or Marry Another?
This screams insecurity, and that’s so unattractive.
#12 – Can You Remember the First Time We Kissed?
I don’t know about you, but my memory really sucks. When you expect a guy to remember those special moments just because, you are setting yourself up for disaster.
He’s human, and he might miss a date or two…no worries.
#13 – How Many Women Have You Slept With?
Seriously, never ever ask your man this, unless you want to make him feel like a cornered cat. You should also know, if you ask him this, he is going to be forced to lie to you. Do you really want to know? You’ve been warned.
#14 – How Many Kids Do You Want?
This is a question you should never ask if you are new in your relationship. It will make him run far and fast. Even if you’ve been with him for quite some time, you need to be very careful. Lots of guys are naturally programmed to get scared with the topic. Use your judgment and follow your gut.
If you want your relationship to grow, you’re going to have to talk with each other. Sometimes, you will have to ask the tough questions. Other times, to keep the conversation flowing, you might want to have a cheat sheet list in your phone or in your purse. That way, you don’t have to think about things to talk about because you’re prepared.