If you break up for a reason that you need to know about, a woman should tell you why she broke up with you. Honesty beats every excuse and lie in the world. But not every woman has the courage to tell you the truth, especially when the truth could really hurt you.
So what do women do when they don’t want to tell the truth?
- Some women will just leave it open-ended and break up with you for no apparent reason.
- Some women will give you some crap saying, “It’s not you, it’s me!”
- And some women will tell you that they just don’t have time for a relationship, which is also complete crap. They would make time for a guy they really want in their life.
Why Did She Break Up With You?
If you feel that she was lying to you about why she broke up with you, then the likelihood of it being one of the 5 following reasons is pretty high.
1. You Annoyed Her
You have a habit that she just can’t look past. Maybe you chew with your mouth open, or leave your clothes all over the place, or watch too much TV.
The problem is that when she is really, really annoyed, it is not just something that she can get over – it actually irritates her and makes her angry. Those two feelings do not go well with a relationship, and eventually she will feel that breaking up is better than staying together and nit-picking everything you do.
2. You Are A Jerk
Even though many women seem to stay with jerks, some women, believe it or not, have a backbone and will not put up with a jerk for weeks, months, or years. If you are too much of a jerk, and don’t show any signs of changing, some women will dump you.
But, most women will not tell a jerk that he is a jerk. Why? For two reasons: First, it may go over his head, and second he may react like a jerk to it and be mean, which is not something a woman wants.
How do you know if you are a jerk? Following are a few common examples of a jerk.
- You think about your needs only
- You treat her poorly
- You flirt with other women
- You put her habits or her beliefs down in any way, shape, or form
- You comment negatively on her appearance
3. She Is Interested In Someone Else More
If everything seemed fine in your relationship, and suddenly she breaks up with you, then she may be interested in someone else more than you. Another guy may be showing her more attention, display more of the traits she is looking for in a guy, or just get her more excited.
While it’s easier said than done, it’s important to remember that she did the right thing in this case. She can’t help her attraction towards another guy, and there is no point staying with you when she has stronger feelings for someone else.
She could’ve cheated on you and played you while she dated this other guy – so breaking up in this case was the right thing to do. And, telling you probably would have just resulted in a huge fight and a lot of pain.
4. Her Friends Don’t Like You
No woman wants to admit that her friends or family dictate who she dates, but if her friends really don’t like you, then she may just be inclined to break up with you.
Over the years, most women learn that their friend’s opinion is usually pretty important. This is especially true if you don’t wow her on a level where she can look past her friend’s opinion of you and see you for the truly special guy you are.
5. You Are Bad In Bed
If you have had sex, then this is a very plausible reason for a woman breaking up with you but not giving you a real reason why. Women know that men try very hard in bed and don’t want to make them feel bad about their efforts, no matter how horrible they were.
There are a number of reasons you can be bad in bed:
- You are a bad kisser
- You focus on your pleasure more than hers
- You focus on your pleasure first
- You can’t give her an orgasm
- Your dirty talk is really bad
Do You Really Want To Know Why She Broke Up With You?
You have to ask yourself if you really want to know why she broke up with you. Do you want to know that you annoyed her? Do you want to know that you were bad in bed? Or, would you rather just move on knowing that, for whatever the reason, you two were not meant to be?
The biggest thing to remember is that if you learn from the mistakes of your past relationships, you will always become a better man and boyfriend in your future relationships. So, take note where you think you may have screwed up, work on fixing that issue, and look for a woman who wants to be with you.
Thomas says
need a girlfriend please
Bellaisa says
Don’t tell me, tell yourself and get busy doing something about it!
Midas says
hahah…always women are victim, when they broke or not
admin says
What are you talking about? Not sure I understand what you mean.
Shade says
I just don’t fit with #1 and #4. I used to be a guy that would break up over small miscellaneous things. To breakup with someone just because they annoy you can be quite self-centered. Because indirectly you can annoy your partner as well. Women do things all the time that annoy a man, but we are taught to endure them; since childhood. We are taught to put a woman’s happiness before ours in some cases. Usually these type of people break up with good men/women. They find little negative nit-pick things and capitalize on them to use them as a catalyst from a potential breakup. But also, these same people will have every excuse in the book on reasons to keep a bad guy/girl around.
With #4, I’m 50/50 on. I like a woman with a mind of her own. Her parents and friends could have biased reasons or hidden agendas on why they don’t like me. But I am not dating them, I’m dating her. If she can see the good in me then why not? I shouldn’t have to wow her for her friend’s opinions, my wowing should be for her own virtue. It’s spineless. It’s like me breaking up with a girl because she cannot impress my friends or family. Shouldn’t matter, she impresses me and that’s all we need.
Stev says
Thank you sir
Nathan says
She broke up with me because I was not attractive enough I basically didn’t show no dark traits she broke with me because I was not an ass**le ): how’s that for f*cked I was better then her in everything a s she broke up with me because am to kind giving amazing person f*ck her men that hurts ):
brokenh says
My girlfriend dumped me after 4 months and I don’t really know why.
The first month and a half was great. She seemed extremely in love with me. We didn’t have sex though, I didn’t want to rush into it, another time we didn’t have condoms, stuff like that, and we didn’t do it. I used to give her orgasms though, with oral sex (maybe around 10 times in that month and a half).
After the first month and a half she shut off all phyiscal contact that could lead to intimacy. No more passionate kissing, no more letting me her undress her. We slept together some nights, but she was reluctant to letting me touch her.
The next 2-3 months were like that, with her pretty much out of the relationship. One day she just stopped talking to me, didn’t even tell me that she wanted to break up or anything. She just disappeared.
She never complained about anything, and I thought I was improving and starting to understand her better as time went on. I could see things going downhill though, but I remained calm and was always nice to her.
Any ideas? Would you lose attraction for someone because in one month and a half you still didn’t have sex? I cannot really understand what happened, and her total silence didn’t help at all. I asked her a few times what was wrong and she avoided answering or responded like “huh?”, as if I was crazy.
Would love an unbiased, honest female opinion here.
Thanks!
admin says
Sounds like she was thinking something that she didn’t want to share with you because it was too embarrassing. Maybe she lost attraction for you. Maybe the sexual stuff that you did do wasn’t good for her. Maybe you just didn’t turn her on. She wouldn’t want to outright tell you those things because it would hurt your feelings.
Or, maybe you did something around the month and a half mark that made her reconsider her relationship with you. Maybe you said something that offended her or hurt her feelings. Maybe you did something that offended her or hurt her feelings. And maybe she hoped that you would fix the issue, so she waited around to see if it would get better, but it didn’t.
Look back in the relationship and you may be able to find the answer without her telling you.
In the end, it sounds like she really didn’t want to confront the issue, so she just disappeared instead of having to talk to you about it. That’s too bad because if you knew what you did wrong, you could fix it for your next relationship. Or, if you knew it was all about her and nothing to do with you, you would feel a little bit better.
charlie says
read the traits of a narcasist,that is how they roll
Rob says
I honestly do want know the reason
Brasen says
I think it was either #1 or #3. Although I don’t really have that many annoying traits unless getting pissed off when someone messes up my car is an annoying trait. I personally think it was very normal of me to do so. But she did kind of get nervous when I wasn’t really sure but I thought saw her holding hands with some other chick, and just two dates before she all of that she came out that she was bisexual to me all of the sudden after she had been telling me she was straight and I was accepting but I also did ask if she was being appropriate with her friends, she told me that she was but of course I was too anxious to ask her a trial of questions. When I went to a choir concert (she never goes to the school choir concerts) I was texting one of our mutual friends to come and see me (she’s in choir) and instead of my friend, my girlfriend shows up and points down at the bottom of the stairs. She said “can I talk to you” this was the first time she ever directly communicated to me how she felt and she said “I don’t know how to say this but I want to break up with you” and I said “can I ask why?” And she replied “I just am not as in love with you as when we first started going out”. To me it just seemed too carefully orchestrated, I can’t help but wonder why she broke up with me this way. It’s so odd.
Eddie Suave says
My guess is she has been thinking about breaking up with you for a while. A girl breaking up with you is not something she conjures up in the spur of the moment. Use this time to evaluate what might went wrong – were you at times getting too clingy? Perhaps acting too jealous around her friends maybe? These are all things that could set her off.
Jeiy says
actually I’m in the same situation my girlfriend broke up with me last month I had not done anything.infact the previous day before breaking up with me some girl texted me and I told them I had a girlfriend….but I guess she had planned that for so long it’s been three years ….I feel heartbroken now she have hooked up with a guy she has been talking about saying that he is her best friend….for me I am planning to move on without her since she is the one who made the wrong move….thanks in advance. For your amaxi
Mike hawk hurts says
This whole article is BS XD
Just a woman who got hurt by a man and takes it out on random guys to make them feel inadequate. This is why feminism is so hard to believe. When the quarter flips the woman won’t take responsibility she’ll play victim.
John says
Thanks for the great tips. Every guy knows that the best way to dump a woman is to get her to dump you. That way, she can think it was her idea and won’t go psycho on you. Doing all the things you suggest should have us guys rid of you in no time!
Fergal Kavanagh says
Agree with some of the points, but 3 and 4 are just plain stupid. If your in a committed, serious relationship, you can’t just run off whenever someone who looks more attractive comes along. I get that temptation happens, but people who are like that are as reliable as a rickety rope bridge and will always be looking for ‘better.’
And 4 has already been ably commented on.