This is a tough one. When a man says he misses you, it might send your heart a fluttering. That’s a good thing but only if he’s saying it for the right reasons. Sometimes, the lonely factor kicks in and a man might tell you he is thinking about you just because he wants some company.
When he tells you he misses you, he might be trying to get in your pants, or he might be sincere.
“I can’t stop thinking about you.” Of course, we’ve all heard this at one time or another. Too bad you’ve got to keep your guard up because lots of men will say they miss you and not actually mean it.
What Does It Mean When A Guy Says He Misses You?
First, here are a few tried, tested, and true reasons he might be telling you he misses you and really mean it!
Clue One – He Doesn’t Go Over The Top
When a gentleman tells you that he misses you, he might be telling the truth, but it might not be reading like that. If this guy really misses you, he’s not going repeat it a zillion times.
It’s emotional when you let someone know you miss them. And when it’s real, the sincerity will come through. Follow your gut.
Clue Two – Non-Stop Contact
This one is difficult because everyone wants to be wanted. However, when a guy keeps reaching out to you and just won’t stop, even when there’s no reason to do so, you’ve got to ask yourself if it’s necessary.
If he really misses you, he will want to keep the connection going. To do this, he might keep asking you questions.
Clue Three – Face To Face Online
When a man is missing a woman, he just might try FaceTiming or Skyping her. It’s easy for him to send you a voicemail or text, but when he takes it one step further and gets you virtually face to face, you can be sure he really is missing you.
Clue Four – Social Media Stalker
I mean this one in a good way. When a guy is liking your photos and maybe even commenting on your social media accounts, he most certainly misses you. There’s no doubt, when you are missing someone, you are curious about what they are up to, and social media is the way to figure it out.
Clue Five – He Says He Wants To See You
When a guy is missing a girl, of course, he’s going to talk about wanting to see her. Make sure you don’t jump to conclusions because some men say one thing and do another. Just be wary of this, please.
Bottom line…When a man makes an effort to see you, there’s a chance he is being completely sincere.
Clue Six – This Guy Actually Makes Plans To See You
It’s sweet enough that he says he misses you, but when he actually makes plans to surprise you with something just to see you, it’s magical. That’s rock-solid proof he is missing you.
This is one of the most concrete signs he is missing you. One time, I had a guy fly out to see me as a surprise. That was a clear-cut sign he missed me and wanted me back.
Clue Seven – All Of A Sudden, He’s Mr. Homebody!
Normally, when you are sad, you don’t want to go out and socialize with anybody. You likely just want to stay home and eat ice-cream and watch movies, something along those lines anyway.
If you notice he hasn’t gone out in a while and is not hanging out with his friends as often, there’s a good chance he really is missing you.
Clue Eight – The Beer Goggle Call
There’s no doubt you’ve likely got that drunken call from a guy telling you he misses you. Sure, he might just be looking for sex, but often, his true feelings are coming out when he’s half in the bag.
If he tells you he misses you and loves you, chances are pretty good he is telling the truth.
Did you know that a drunk guy’s words are simply a sober guy’s thoughts?
Clue Nine – Mr. Jealous
Let’s just say you went out one weekend and got a few shots with some super-hot guys and you posted them on Facebook. Innocent, of course, but that’s not what he’s thinking. He’s going to like your photo, but his brain is saying you look flipping hot, and he is all hot and bothered that you are not on his arm.
He just doesn’t want you to flirt with other guys at all.
This tells you he clearly misses you and wants you and only you.
Clue Ten – This Guy Asks You For Photos
I’m not talking about the dirty naked kind. When a guy wants to see you au natural, whether you are in your PJs or wrapped in a blanket on the couch, it’s a solid signal he misses you.
This is his way of remembering how much he misses the mornings he got to wake up with you in his arms. Think about it for a minute or two and don’t forget to follow your gut.
Clue Eleven – His Anger Suddenly Gets Out Of Control
This one is a little tough to pinpoint. However, when you are hanging out with a guy, and suddenly, he gets mad without any reasonable explanation, it’s a sign he is mixed up in his feelings and really misses you.
Anger is often a signal that he really does miss you. Just something to think about.
Clue Twelve – Heading Down Memory Lane
This is another signal he’s definitely missing you. Perhaps he’s been posting special signs on his social media pages that the two of you shared. When a man is going down memory lane, you can rest assured he is missing your arms.
Clue Thirteen – He’s Crazy Excited When He Sees You
If a man is in a romantic relationship, it’s completely natural for him to get overjoyed when he gets to see the girl he is head over heels for.
There’s no hiding emotion. When a man misses you, it’s because he really does. So, when he gets excited to see you, it’s important you take this in stride and consider the fact he really does miss you.
Why would a guy pretend to miss you? That’s not going to happen unless he is a total loser, which usually isn’t the case.
Bottom line…When a man says he is crazy excited to see you, it’s likely true.
Clue Fourteen – Interrogation Galore
The guy that’s really missing you will be super concerned about what you are up to, whether he’s straight-up about it or nonchalant.
If this man didn’t care, he wouldn’t ask. He just wants to know what you are up to, and this is an opportunity for him to slip back into your life.
Now it’s time to face the fact that, sometimes, a man doesn’t miss you, and he definitely doesn’t love you.
Here are a few clear-cut signals you need to walk away fast:
Signal One – Missing The Small Things
When a man isn’t missing you, he won’t care about the details in your life. If he doesn’t want to hear about your crazy boss at work or how you felt totally embarrassed at your meeting, then you need to walk away.
Signal Two – The Connection Is Lost
When a guy doesn’t want to be with you, he will make sure he’s not connecting with you on any level. This means he really doesn’t want to make the effort to make things better with you. He just does his own thing and makes sure you know he’s okay with that.
Signal Three – Picking Fights Over Stupid Stuff
If he’s picking fights over silly things and doesn’t give you rhyme or reason, he certainly isn’t missing you and most definitely doesn’t love you. This is totally destructive and takes a toll on your relationship.
Signal Four – Buying Just For Him
When a guy starts buying things for himself that he knows you won’t like, it’s a fairly clear indicator he really doesn’t care what you think. Of course, this also means he most definitely doesn’t miss you.
Signal Five – Forced Transformation
You should love and accept yourself as you are, and this applies to your partner. When a man tries to change you into something he wants, this shouts he doesn’t love you or miss you.
Signal Six – Focused Only Forward
When a guy is only talking about life down the road, not about what’s happening now, it’s a solid sign he’s not missing you. If he was, he would be talking with you about the immediate future because you matter to him.
Signal Seven – Random Contact
When a man wants a woman, he will make sure he puts effort into contacting her. Often, this occurs routinely. So, if he’s texting you all the time, and he suddenly stops, chances are pretty good he isn’t thinking about you at all. You deserve to be appreciated, loved, and missed.
Signal Eight – You’ve Never Met His Parents
Of course, there are exceptions to the rules, but if a man makes a point of never introducing you to his parents, he doesn’t love or miss you. This one is a straightforward no-brainer. Your man should want to show you off to his parents if you are important to him.
Don’t shrug this one off, particularly if you’ve been with him for more than a few months. Make sure he isn’t playing you.
Signal Nine – Not Sure About Love
Some men are just afraid of the “l” word. However, at some point, he’s got to figure out whether or not he loves you, and he needs to tell you. When a man loves a woman, he’s going to make sure he tells her. If he’s missing you, he loves you.
You’ve got to ask the tough questions if you are going to figure out what you want, need, and deserve.
Signal Ten – No Forward Goals Together
Most people who wind up together have at least a few things in common. That just makes sense. However, if you don’t have any plans or goals together and you aren’t talking about them, this guy needs to go because he’s just not into you.
Signal Eleven – No Middle Ground
Successful couples that last understand compromise is an important part of keeping the flame alive. If you have a guy who makes it his way or the highway, then you aren’t with the man you deserve.
Time for you to say good-bye.
Signal Twelve – Still Fishing
Any guy who makes it clear he wants to play the field a little longer to make sure there’s nothing better out there is a total creep. He’s not missing you nor does he love you. If he missed you, he wouldn’t be looking for a new model or another woman to warm his bed.
This type of guy is likely a player. At least, he’s straight up about it.
Signal Thirteen – No Trust
When a guy shows you or tells you he just doesn’t trust you, please take that as a clear sign he’s just not into you. At this point, it doesn’t matter if you are wondering whether he misses you because he’s clearly not the man for you on any level.
When he accuses you of things and tells you he doesn’t trust you, he’s taking the focus off his lack of love for you. Maybe he’s feeling guilty that he doesn’t miss you.
Beware because this is one of the oldest tricks in the book. If a guy doesn’t trust a woman, he shouldn’t be with her. All healthy relationships are built on the foundation of trust. That doesn’t mean it’s always going to be perfect, but some level of trust needs to be established.
Signal Fourteen – He’s Deaf In The Listening Department
When a man doesn’t ask about your day and doesn’t seem to care about the things in your life that you want to talk about, you can rest assured he doesn’t miss you and certainly doesn’t love you the way you deserve to be loved.
This move is just nasty.
When you love someone, you should want to know as much as you can about them. What matters to you should matter to him. End of story on that one.
Signal Fifteen – Talk Triggers Fighting
Any relationship that’s going to work must have regular discussions about the issues that arise when two people become intimately connected. I don’t care how perfect you think your relationship is, at some point, you need to sit down and talk, so you can resolve issues before they boil over.
This is just a decoy for a man to try to leave you with all the guilt and blame, and it’s something you can’t let him get away with.
Relationships are hard work, and if he’s not willing to open up and put in the effort, then he’s not worth it. Get rid of him because he’s interfering with you finding your own happiness.
Signal Sixteen – Zero Interconnection
This is another sneaky way a guy tries to hang onto a girl for all the wrong reasons. If a guy puts little to no effort into making sure your lives intertwine, it’s a clear indicator you aren’t the one for him.
Some men stay with women just for comfort, and that’s not what you deserve.
If this is the scenario for you, then you need to give your head a shake. Couples that last are always growing together.
Signal Seventeen – Continuously Forgetting The Little Things
When a man just doesn’t seem to bother with the little things, you can be sure he really doesn’t miss you. A man who loves you will make certain you get wowed on your special days, and he’s never ever going to forget them.
This doesn’t mean he’s got to be perfect, but you need to remember that excuses get you nowhere fast. If he wants to be with you, he will show you. That’s a fact.
Signal Eighteen – Hurting You Comes Easy
When a man has no issues making you feel like an arse in public without a second thought, he’s labeled himself a selfish creep. Any guy who loves you should never purposely try to hurt your feelings.
Yes, there will be times when he slips up, and that’s okay. However, if this is the rule and not the exception, then you’ve taken a wrong turn, and he needs to go.
You deserve to be respected and understood.
Signal Nineteen – Fair Fighting
There will be conflict with any relationship, but there are rules to govern that. Couples need to learn how to fight fair in order to feel like they are being heard and to find agreeable solutions to issues.
If your man is the guy who likes to fight dirty, then he’s showing you he doesn’t miss you, love you, or care about you at all.
Signal Twenty – Super Critical
When a man tells you that you need to lose weight or dress better, he’s a jerk! These are well-known issues that most women are quite sensitive to. So, if a guy tries to put you down about your weight or clothing, you need to accept the fact he’s just not for you.
Make sure you are proud of who you are, body, mind, and soul.
Any man that deserves you should be supporting you and lifting you up, not knocking you down and running you over a few more times.
Signal Twenty-One – Ego In The Bedroom
If your guy looks to pleasure only himself in the bedroom, then he’s not the guy for you. Sex is a two-way street, and you should want to please each other. If your man looks to take care of his needs and then falls asleep, you know what you have to do.
Signal Twenty-Two – His Boys Come First
Yes, there will be times when a guy wants to go out with his boys and not you, and that’s perfectly fine. However, if he is always choosing to make plans with everyone but you, you need to take a good look in the mirror and ask yourself if that’s what you really want.
Any guy that does this most certainly doesn’t miss you.
Final Words
It’s tough to figure out what it means when a guy says he misses you. Understanding both sides of the coin will help you connect the dots and figure out why he’s telling you he misses you and what you should do about it.
Like women, men are pretty complicated, and this means you will have to follow these signs and your gut to figure out why he says he misses you. It’s never easy, but you’ve got to start somewhere.
