Will he come back? That’s the zillion dollar question I’m sure you’ve asked yourself at some point in your love life.
Is he going to come back to me or not?
Do you really want him to come back to you for the right reasons or maybe you are just scared to be alone?
Sure it may hurt right now if your man left but I pinky swear promise it will get better. And one thing for certain is I don’t want you to forget the only person you control is you. No matter how bad you want him back, he’s only going to come back if he wants to.
Let him decide on his own because the last thing you want to do is guilt or pressure him to make his way back to you when his heart is telling him otherwise. That’s a recipe for disaster.
Information is knowledge and knowledge is power. We’re going to have a look at various key indicators of whether or not your man is coming back wagging his tail behind him. Or if he’s already taking action to move on or maybe isn’t quite sure what to do.
First up, here are a few pretty clear signals your man is coming back to you.
Clear-Cut Signals He Will Come Back To You
Sure it would be nice if there was a master dating guidebook that could give you the heads up on exactly what your man is thinking and feeling. Holy crap, that would get rid of a whole lot of heartache, miscommunication, and pain.
But that’s not the case, at least that I know of.
Basically, it’s like a jigsaw puzzle or master mystery. You’ve got to learn what signals to look for and plug that into the factual behavioral information you already know about your ex. From there you’ll be able to get a pretty good idea in your brain of whether your man is coming or running, according to
Let’s get started…
Signal One – Non-Stop Contact
You may think this is an easy peasy sign your ex is coming back but not always. He may just be bored or looking for something to do when he sends you texts or makes comments on your social media platforms.
On the other hand, he may really be missing you and trying to find a way back to you. In general a man isn’t going to put any effort into communicating with you unless he likes you, at least to some degree – That’s fact.
Another assumption according to relationship specialists, is that men generally don’t have any issues moving away from someone they don’t want anymore. Where girls normally have more trouble just because of those natural strong emotions that often override logic.
Bottom line is…
If your ex-man is contacting you when he really doesn’t need to, it’s fair to say he likely does want you back. Whether that’s a positive or negative is up to you to decide.
Signal Two – He’s Consistently Curious About How Your Day Went
This is another subtle but often true indicator that your ex-boyfriend misses you. When he seems to want to know how your day is going, that’s telling you straight up he still misses you.
If he didn’t care, why would he ask?
He would have moved on and never bothered to contact you again, at least on a regular basis, if he still didn’t have feelings for you. That’s the truth.
Often you’ve got to separate to understand for real if you really want to be with someone.
Newsflash…If you’re thinking about him and he’s reaching out to you, then you can be pretty sure he wants you back.
Signal Three – Finds Time To “Catch Up” With Your Friends
eHarmony relationship experts believe if your ex is conversing with your friends, that’s a ginormous hint he wants you back. In the least, he wants to take the awkward “ex” factor out of the equation.
Think about it for a minute. If he didn’t want to have anything to do with you, why in world would he want to communicate at all with your friends? Well, he wouldn’t!
What he’s probably doing is trying to feel connected to you and fishing for any little tidbit of information he can get on you. This might also be his subtle way of hoping your friends will pick up on the fact he still wants you.
Maybe he wants them to relay the message just to get an idea of what your thoughts are.
If he didn’t want you back, he’s not going to make any effort to stay connected with your friends – Period.
Signal Four – Family Ties Are Still Strong
Hands down one of the worst things about breaking up is dealing with the family, particularly if you were close. It’s downright tough when you’re close to your ex’s family and he’s close to yours. Yikes!
Truth is, if you don’t want to get back with your ex, you aren’t going to hang out with his sister and mom anymore, right? That’s all I need to know! If your ex-boyfriend is still hanging out with your family, then you’ve got to consider the fact he’s really not over you and wants to hook up again.
Don’t you think it’s kinda weird your family is exchanging texts and going to the movies with the guy you are trying to make your past?
Sounds like he wants to be involved in your life as much as possible and no matter what’s gone down, he still isn’t over you and wants to get back to relationship status. Something to ponder.
Signal Five – He Basically Suffocates Your Social Media
It’s not just girls who stalk social media these days, the guys are a close second. When a guy has the hots for a gal, one of the first things he will do is let it be known via social media.
How you might ask?
Well, by liking your posts to start and eventually paying you compliments for the world to see. Technology rules these days and one of the most popular slick routes to let a girl know you like her is to follow her, virtually speaking.
If he still wasn’t thinking about you, he would do everything in his power to NOT get noticed on your accounts. So if he’s the first one to like your posts and consistently makes comments, he certain has his door left open for a reunion.
This isn’t a slam dunk he will come back but it’s an excellent sign.
Signal Six – Consistently Comments
This is a bit of an expansion from the previous signal but if you have a thumbs up for signal five and six, your guy seriously wants you back. If your ex is taking the time to comment specifically on your social media posts, it’s safe to say he wants you back.
If he wasn’t entertaining this thought, he wouldn’t take the time to say anything.
Beware, if the comments are jealous in nature or just plain weird, that might be a whole other can of worms. But if, for the most part, they are positive and constructive, my bet is he wants to be your other half again.
Balls in your court to make your move. Just look both ways before you cross the street because nobody wants a heart crushed twice by the same guy.
Signal Seven – Trust Your Gut
Psychology Today experts report one of the most important factors in relationship decisions is to trust your gut, what your mind and body are telling you. This isn’t a science but you can normally tell when a guy does or doesn’t like you.
Try setting all the interfering external stimuli to the side and listen to your gut feeling. Often your first impulse is right.
If you’ve just got that vibe he wants you back, you’re probably right. Now whether he admits to that or not is a whole other ball game.
Why would you think he wants to get back together with you if he doesn’t want it too?
We are creatures of habit and often complete cowards. Neither person wants to admit they are still in love or want to get back together for fear of rejection and embarrassment.
Been there, done that and I’m still doing…
Perhaps you need to take control here and tell him what you are thinking. You deserve what you want and if you still want him, why don’t you just go for it?
Signal Eight – Rinse And Repeat
If you’ve gone down this path of breakup before and gotten back together again, that increases the odds dramatically that you’re going to do it again. It’s not for certain but you’ve got a better shot than the newbies for sure!
On again, off again relationships are quite common. I’m not saying this is healthy or anything like that but sometimes it’s the time apart that smacks you in the face and makes you realize just how much you love each other.
Totally weird but true.
There’s gotta be a reason you keep doing this right?
So if you’ve broken up before and gotten back together, there’s a good chance you’re going to do it again. Perhaps this time it will be till death do you part!
Signal Nine – Simply A Break And NOT A Breakup
I can’t do this but some couples can. It’s where you decide to step away from each other for a set amount of time and reflect on your relationship. Technically, this isn’t an actual break up but rather a little time apart to see how you truly feel.
I would like to think the guy you are with is the guy you don’t ever want to see yourself without. But to each his/her own!
In hindsight, there must be a very good reason why you didn’t call it quits and just chose to break for a bit instead.
If this is your situation, it’s highly likely you’ll get back together or at least try. Maybe this is what you both need to recognize just how important he is to you and vice versa?
Time will tell.
Signal Ten – You Experienced REAL Love
I’m not talking puppy dog love here but the real deal. If you and your partner experienced that kind of true love, you don’t want to be without, the magical kind, there’s a good chance he wants you back.
Life has hiccups and sometimes they get in the way of what you both really want. If this guy is your soulmate, there’s no way he can let you go.
True love will bring you back together in time. He has his reasons but if this is the case for you, there’s not a lot to worry about because he’s not kicking you to the curb. What a dumb move that would be.
Signal Eleven – He Hasn’t Hooked Up Yet – At Least Not Officially
If some time has passed since the two of your detached and he hasn’t got another girl, that’s a pretty good sign he wants you back in his life.
I don’t think you’re reading into things too much here because if he was a player, he would have a new girlfriend within days. If he still wants you then he has no reason to search for another.
There are so many reasons relationships don’t work out, many of them are seriously silly. If your ex is still single, there’s a reason and chances are that reason is you.
Make sure you run this one by your friends before you take action. Trust me, you get better results in numbers.
Signal Twelve – Your Heart Aches For Him
If you ex keeps popping into your brain, the memories you shared, that has meaning.
This isn’t the case all the time but if you truly love and care about someone, it’s usually the same on both ends. Bottom line is, if you are missing your ex then he’s probably missing you too. How much could be the deciding factor here.
You may want to consider going out on a limb here and talking to him.
Without risk, there’s no reward.
Signal Thirteen – Only Minutes Have Passed
If your breakup just happened, you can be pretty sure your ex still wants you back. This is all about reaction time and making the right choices in the heat of the moment. Beware, this is what I call an “intuitive” moment.
We often act on impulse and it may not be the best to jump back into your relationship just because. Sure, this is a surefire signal he wants you back but you do have to ask yourself if it’s for all the right reasons.
Let’s look into signals he doesn’t want to be with you…hurtful but true.
Clear Signs He Doesn’t Want You Back
Many experts believe there are obvious signals your man just doesn’t want you. The sooner you accept this, the better.
Do you have that deep down gut feeling your guy just doesn’t want you anymore?
Does your inside the head voice tell you something just isn’t right?
Has a switched been flipped and he’s just not looking at you with those loving and excited eyes like he used to?
VIP-This is the time to be brutally honest with yourself.
Sign #1 – Just Doesn’t Know
OMG – If I had a dollar for every time I’ve heard this, I’d be a millionaire! Trouble is brewing if your boyfriend has fessed up and told you he just doesn’t know if he loves you anymore. What this is, if I can be brutally honest, is that he is not in love with you anymore and doesn’t want you.
Don’t play into this one and give him time to figure it out. Seriously, just give him his walking papers as harsh as that sounds.
Sign #2 – Table Turner
I’m sure you’ve been here before and just haven’t wanted to accept it. Experts at Men’s Fitness say if your boyfriend starts ignoring you or acting really distance, he likely doesn’t want to truly be with you.
Does this hurt? Yes, it does.
Trust me on this one, your’e better knowing sooner rather than later.
You deserve to be loved for you, now and forever. No matter how much it breaks your heart, you need to walk away from a guy that turns the tables on you and tries to pin you for his change of heart. End of story.
Sign #3 – Priorities Suddenly Change
Does your boyfriend do any of these things?
A – Shows you with his actions you aren’t a high priority anymore.
B – Starts ignoring your calls and texts and makes up dumbo lame excuses.
C – Chooses to hang out with his friends all the time instead of you.
This is what experts call a “fading” breakup. It’s when he still wants you around for comfort sake but has really lost interest. Sad but true.
Run far and fast from this one please.
Sign #4 – He Always Seems To Be Crazy Busy
Couples that are truly in love, make time for each other no matter how busy they are. They set plans up ahead of time and make sure they happen.
If your partner all of a sudden decides to stop making plans with you, it’s time for you to start questioning his intentions. Chances are he is not into you anymore and looking to move on when he gets the guts to do so.
Walk away – Period.
Sign #5 – Suddenly Everything Is Top Secret
If all of a sudden your “boytoy” starts hiding things from you, particularly if he used to be open with you, that’s a clear sign you are done.
The best outcome here is hat he just doesn’t love you anymore.
The worst outcome is he already has another chick on the side and that’s why he’s been so sneaky.
Follow your gut with this one please. Don’t hang on.
Sign #6 – Seriously Has The Balls To Check Out Other Woman Right In Front Of You
If your man rudely checks out other women in front of you, it’s time to ask yourself whether he’s really worth it or not.
Of course, guys are naturally programmed to notice women. We’d have a procreation issue if they didn’t. However, there is a fine line between discreetly checking out beautiful women and not caring about whether they offend you or not.
In other words, there is a right and wrong way to do it.
For me, there’s a lack of interest if he’s commenting boldly on every rack that walks by, just saying.
Sign #7 – Affection Has Disappeared
If the fun flirting and hand holding has disappeared and there’s no kissing and cuddling, you have to entertain the idea that your man doesn’t want you anymore. He might very well have lost his feelings for you for a variety of reasons.
Think about it. If you want to be with someone in a romantic sense, don’t you want to be openly affectionate with them?
Understand, there are exceptions to every rule. However, if you have the gut feeling your man is becoming distant, always seems to be busy and doesn’t make you a priority, in the least, these are in-your-face signals your man needs to move on.
Consider all of these signs and signals and figure out whether or not your man is worth fighting for. Ultimately, you know your man and you know your relationship. Follow your heart but understand you deserve to be loved for you, inside out.
Best of luck!