A woman who is bitter about her ex is a woman who has not dealt with the issues from her past relationship. In other words, she has a lot of baggage that she will be bringing into your relationship, and that is going to suck big time!
Why Women Stay Bitter
They have been hurt in some way and can’t get over that hurt, pain, or frustration. Today, more than ever, women and men have outlets to stay bitter for a long time before they finally deal with their emotions and move on to a happier and healthier place. For instance, http://myex.com makes it incredibly easy for women and men to post pictures of their ex for everyone to see that should never be posted online.
This is just one of the sites out there like this, but all it does (besides provide entertainment for non-bitter people) is perpetuate the anger over and over again in the bitter person’s mind.
Add Facebook, Twitter, and all the other social outlets people have to complain and moan about their ex, and it is much easier to stay mad than it is to overcome the breakup.
Why Bitterness Will Affect You
If she comes into the relationship bitter, then she is going to place labels on you unfairly. For instance, if you laugh in the same that her ex did, then she may label you as a cheater – just like her ex, and you will have to constantly fight against the label when you shouldn’t have to fight at all.
Also, if she is bitter then she is still focused on her ex. Do you really want to date a woman who has a lot of focus on her ex still? Wouldn’t that focus be better used on you?
She will still be the same woman her ex broke up with. Until she lets go of the bitterness she is not going to be able to overcome any issues that she had in the relationship and, therefore, she will carry them forward into your relationship. If they affected her past relationship you can bet they will probably affect yours.
She will be stressed from all of that bitterness, and that stress will be your burden to bear. She may be emotionally stressed, where she becomes moody and upset for no reason. She may be physically stressed, where her body gives out consistently and gets sick. Either way, you will have to deal with the stress that she is going through, and many times it will replace what should be happy moments with stressful and negative moments.
All of these reasons are why it is always better to avoid bitter women and, instead, date a woman who has dealt with the break up in a mature way and has taken some lessons on how to be happier from the break up she encountered.
Note: A woman who is bitter may deal with her anger soon. You can still date her later on. It is really better to let her work through her issues before you start dating her though. It will help you and her create a solid foundation instead of a rocky one.
How Can You Tell If She’s Bitter?
When you meet her she will probably not be posting a pic of her ex on a site or talking negatively about him, but she will say something eventually.
- She may roll her eyes when her ex is mentioned.
- She might crack a sarcastic joke about her ex.
- She may laugh about her ex hysterically when she hears that he was hurt.
The point is, she will react in a negative way when his name is mentioned. If you see any bitterness during your conversations with her – or possibly a diary that says “Die! Die! Die!’ on it, then move on and wait until she has dealt with her anger before you start to date her.
