Not all women hate you playing video games, but some do. Why? What do they have against you playing video games. I mean if you were not doing that, you would be doing something else, right? Well, following are a few explanations of what it may have everything to do with you or nothing at all.
Why Your Girlfriend Or Wife Hates You Playing Video Games
When it comes to your intimate partners, there are 3 main reasons that they would not like you playing video games.
1. You Focus More On The Video Games Then Them
This is the obvious choice. Video games can be addicting, and that can cause you to push your woman to the back-burner when they want to talk to you or hang out with you, and that makes them feel unwanted and unappreciated.
In an intimate relationship, you need to be available to your woman. She needs to know that you do not put video games – something that is mechanical and will eventually be a past time, ahead of her. If you can’t do that, then you are going to affect your relationship negatively, and you could even lose her.
2. They Are Needy
If you play video games during your free time, but still pay attention to the woman in your life, then that’s okay. But if a woman is always whining about you playing video games and tries to get you attention while you play, then chances are she is needy.
For instance, if a woman is sitting beside you pouting as you play instead of doing her own thing (reading, walking, working, whatever) then she is depending on you for her happiness and entertainment. It may be time to look for a more independent woman in that case because being clingy towards you will only get worse.
3. They Are Controlling
If the following question resonates with you, then you may have a controlling woman on your hands.
No one has the right to control what you do in your free time. If you like to play a few hours of video games, and your woman gets mad at you specifically because of that, then she is trying to control how you spend your free time, and that is not cool.
It is important to tell her that she can’t dictate how you spend your time. If you don’t tell her, then you are going to find a lot more of ‘you can’t do this!’ in the future.
Why Does Your Mother Have A Problem With Your Video Games?
Your mother is concerned about you. She has been since day 1 and she will be until she dies.
Video games seems like a big waste to her, and she may feel as though you could spend your time doing better things – going after the career of your dreams, dating, etc.
The thing is your mother doesn’t control your life either, and even though she has your best interest at heart, she can’t dictate how you spend your time.
You have to really be truthful with yourself. If your video games are interfering with you getting the life you want, then you may want to stop playing them so much. If they are not, then let your mom know that you have it all under control (prove it to her if you can) and then let her do what she wants after that point.
Remember, you have no control over how she feels, how stressed she is, and how happy or unhappy she is about your life.
Are there any other women in your life who hate you playing video games? Share in the comments below.
Amber says
Let me give you an accurate idea of what it is men folk since you seem so clueless. It’s because, yes just like your mother, she is having to pick up your slack while you act like a mindless child. (Noooo she isn’t!!!) YES she is. Four bags of trash , three loads of dishes and 6 bottles for the baby later your weak sad child a$$ is still sitting there pushing a button while she does your bit and everything else. ( HuhUhhh, I so do that stuff to help.) NO you do that stuff after she’s asked for 3 hours and then you finally go do it, sometimes, or forget meanwhile she’s done eighty other things, like you are her d@mn offspring she has to care for. If you don’t share a household here’s why she hates it; because she seems some redeeming quality in you, GOD KNOWS WHAT, but you’d rather click a button for like a trained hamster for 8 hours after work and then go to bed than be an adult male. There is no respectable, admirable, handsome, or manly quality to it. PERIOD… So yeah, she needs to get a grip alright, AND RUN the F*!$ away and find a grown up because what you really want is a f*@!able maid/mommy and you aren’t a man.
Briana says
Thank you Amber.
Seriously though, I hate it when my husband plays video games. It is such a worthless way to live life. It contributes nothing to the real world, but is simply a self-gratifying, empty endeavor. When yes, there is plenty to be done of value in the real world. I have very little respect for adult men who play video games. It is selfish and worthless and a complete abdication of responsibilities that men have to do good in the world. To love people, to contribute to society, to do ANYTHING of value. Its as bad as being an alcoholic, or a drug addict, a gamer is a man who runs away to live in lala land. Even if you are still getting “stuff done”, there is so much more you could be doing, and so many better ways to spend your time that will actually count for something when it’s all said and done. Drop the mouse, and go love on someone, the world needs it.
KJ says
Women have their hobbies, why can’t we have our hobbies? Just because you don’t like it, doesn’t mean that it is wrong. Many of us are financially successful, good fathers, and hard-working husbands. The fact that I like to play a video game for an hour before bed shouldn’t change anything. To say that you can’t respect an adult male who enjoys video games is completely ridiculous, and I think it says more about you than it does about your guy.
L says
Briana, what part of “its a hobby” do you not understand? Seriously, why do you see video games as something different from other hobbies? A hobby is basically required to be a happy and healthy person. Your SO has one, and you need to realize that there is nothing wrong with it. I can’t believe you compare playing video games to being a drug addict, as there is a multitude of evidence to suggest that video games are actually beneficial for your brain, very much unlike drugs. “Drop the mouse”, seriously? You’re basically saying he should leave a perfectly normal hobby just because YOU said so? Yup, that my dear, is known as being controlling. Perhaps your husband is the one who should drop you instead. Lastly, “I have very little respect for adult men who play video games. “, as KJ said, this says far more about you than anything else, and it’s quite troublesome that this is how you see your husband as well. Let me close this off with a question, what do you do in your spare time? Now imagine if your husband said he “didn’t respect” any adult women who did that. How would you feel?
Wolfgang Sprung Jr. says
What difference does it make? All women do is play childish head games with men in the dating scene, and often in a relationship.