You know those movies where it seems like two completely incompatible people end up falling madly in love? Just think of that romance as what a Cancer and Aquarius goes through. The beginning will be rocky, but they’ll end up crazy for each other before they know it.
How Do the Cancer and Aquarius Get Along?
It’s going to be awkward at first.
You might not think you’ll have a lot in common. Aquariuses are naturally gregarious, extroverted people. They’ll want to chat your ear off or quickly bond over a drink at a bar.
A Cancer may be more reserved. Cancers love people too, but their sensitivity makes them put their guard up when meeting new people — especially people who seem too outgoing too quickly. Sorry Aquariuses, but it can put up red flags for someone’s who’s been hurt by such a fast connection before.
Because Aquariuses are such sociable people, though, they’ll eventually pull the Cancer out of their shell (pardon the Zodiac/crab pun). Once the connection has been made, a Cancer will be their charming, caring, and loyal selves.
The Cancer’s caring nature and the Aquarius’s eternally young means they go along great together. While the Cancer will be more cautious and reserved regarding the daredevil experiences an Aquarius will be attracted to, the Cancer will be there should the Aquarius gets hurt — or just needs someone to listen to how great the experience was.
Are an Aquarius and Cancer Mentally Compatible?
While they might differ on how to spend a night out, an Aquarius and Cancer connect very deeply on a mental level.
They’re both idealistic people who love talking about some life philosophies they’ve come up with. Cancer’s are romantics and Aquariuses have big imaginations, so the two can bounce ideas off each other and take each other seriously when they think no one else will.
An Aquarius and Cancer are both like connecting socially, though in different ways. A Cancer enjoys getting to know someone vulnerably. What they’re scared of. What their deepest fears are. Cancers naturally forge intimate relationships with someone because Cancers like knowing who people are, not who people pretend to be.
An Aquarius likes knowing everything about you, though on a more surface level sense. They can talk for hours about common interests with you, and their energetic speaking style makes you want to keep the conversation going.
The two balance each other well mentally. The Cancer will teach the Aquarius to consider their deeper emotional states while the Aquarius will remind the Cancer that they don’t have to get deep all the time. You can get to know someone by just talking about their favorite baseball team, for example.
When the two come together and connect on a deeper level, an Aquarius and Cancer will find that they have more in common than they thought previously. They just needed the other to tease out that unknown part of themselves.
Where do the Aquarius and Cancer Quarrel?
Sometimes, the Aquarius will be too much for the Cancer to handle. Cancers are shy and traditional, and they don’t like going outside of their comfort zones. Aquariuses are pretty much the opposite, so the two will probably disagree on how to spend a night out.
The Aquarius will want to go someplace exciting. They’ll favor a dance club, a concert, going to a crowded place, or any other place that gives them the intense stimulation their Aquarius brains crave.
Cancers, on the other hand, will want to spend the night inside cuddled up with a movie or good book. While they can make themselves go to a concert or two, the loud noises and excessive people will wear the Cancer out. The Aquarius and Cancer will have to compromise on how to spend their evenings together, so no one feels overstimulated or cooped up.
Another quarrelsome aspect is how much physical time to spend with each other. Cancers love to romantically touch their partner, and will crave hugs, kisses, hand holding, or pretty much some time of contact from their partner.
The Aquarius, however, prefers personal space. They’re the type of person to turn off the light and roll over in bed so that they’re on the edge away from the Cancer’s cuddly grips.
Physical intimacy is another potential problem in the relationship. Just as with the going out example, the Aquarius and Cancer will have to talk about when they can meet each other’s needs without compromising their own. That’s a key lesson to learn for any long-lasting relationship.
Are Cancers and Aquariuses Sexually Compatible?
Sex could be one of the biggest problem areas in a relationship between Cancers and Aquariuses.
Cancers need a deep mental connection with someone before even entertaining the idea of having sex with that person. For a Cancer, sex is about communicating their desire for that person through their body. Without that love their, sex will just be a meaningless task.
Aquariuses don’t think the same way about sex. Aquariuses are capable of having sex with someone without a deep mental connection because to the Aquarius, sex is something two people do to feel good.
The Aquarius can recognize that there’s the kind of sex that also involves feelings and communicating love, but they won’t want to invest the time to get that connection when they could feel just as good without it.
So, if the Cancer and Aquarius have sex, the Cancer might be worried that the Aquarius doesn’t feel what the Cancer feels. The Cancer will worry if they’ll have more feelings attached to the relationship than the Aquarius, which could potentially cause the Cancer to put their walls up to prevent being hurt.
The Aquarius, however, will wonder if the Cancer is reading too much into things. It’s just sex, after all, so the Aquarius might want to keep sex more casual, even if the Aquarius loves the Cancer deeply. The Aquarius will believe there are other ways to similarly express love.
To get over this, the Aquarius and Cancer will have to figure out where each others’ sexual boundaries are before, during, and after sex. They’ll have to figure out if both of them are ready to have sex, which really means if the Cancer trusts the Aquarius enough to forge a sexual connection with them.
Then during sex, each partner will have to figure out how to please the other. Again, a Cancer is traditional and will want plain, straightforward sex. The Aquarius might have to refrain from adding that spicy move they read up about online until they both talked about adding new things in the bedroom.
After sex, each partner will have to talk about the experience to make sure they’re on the same page. Did the Aquarius enjoy it as much as the Cancer? Is the Cancer more affected by what happened than the Aquarius?
Once on the same page, both the Cancer and Aquarius can figure out how to navigate each other’s preferences and forge a strong, healthy sexual bond.
What’s Good About an Aquarius and Cancer Relationship?
Since you two will have to talk all the darn time about whether you’re on the same page, your relationship will be an immense opportunity for growth.
When you talk to a partner, you not only have to force yourself to listen to their words (which is hard in the age of the iPhone), but empathize as to how your behaviors could have made your partner feel that way.
Let’s say the Aquarius was having a bad day and the Cancer sat down to listen. The Aquarius, for whatever reason, got snappy and took out their frustration on the Cancer. The Cancer, the ever-sensitive sign, walks away feeling hurt and betrayed by their partner.
Once the Cancer plucks up enough courage to tell their partner what they feel, the Aquarius will have to listen to why the Cancer feels the way they do. It might be hard for the Aquarius to empathize with something they feel is trivial, such as the same remark that, if said to the Aquarius, wouldn’t hurt them in the slightest.
Listening to your partner and reflecting on your own behavior is the best formula for growth. This growth can transcend the romantic sphere and can help improve your professional, platonic, and internal relationship.
Can a Cancer and Aquarius Last?
After getting over the initial awkwardness, a relationship between a Cancer and Aquarius can be one of the most fulfilling and growth-inducing between any two zodiac signs.
Because of your different levels of outgoingness, you’re forced to talk to your partner about pretty much everything, including how to spend a night out, how sex was, and so on. With that communication comes self-reflection and other avenues of growth.
But if you don’t have communication down, your relationship isn’t going to last. If one of you is closed off and won’t share your thoughts with the other party, the relationship will lead to more frustration and anxiety than it’s worth.
If a Cancer and Aquarius can figure out how to get past their differences, they’re in for a fulfilling, long lasting romantic bond.
