People often say that the Cancer man and Aquarius woman are will have a challenging relationship. Like many signs, these two have their differences. For some signs, the opposition is complimentary. For this pair, the obstacles will be more pronounced.
On the bright side, they both take such a relaxed approach to dating that they won’t rush into anything. They’ll get to know each other and perhaps even learn from one another so that the relationship can work.
Why Do the Cancer Man and Aquarius Woman Make Such a Tough Pairing?
The Cancer man and Aquarius woman differ in one major respect: their emotions. The Cancer uses his feelings to navigate the world. He isn’t an intellectual; he is the kind of person who leads with their heart. The Aquarius woman has a heart, but she has ignored it for so long that she doesn’t use it very often.
It’s not that she is mean-spirited or hurtful. The Aquarius woman simply leads with her intellect. If she can’t explain something, she assumes that it’s not something worth telling. Emotions confuse her. Therefore, she avoids them.
Their love languages are very different. The Cancer man needs to hear words of affection. He needs someone who is patient and will be there even when he is feeling moody and not making sense.
The Aquarius woman has a standoffish vibe. She doesn’t like to get too close to people. When she does, it’s because they have the ability to hold her captive with conversation. When she gets into the murky waters of emotion, she feels stuck, stagnant and uncomfortable.
How does the Aquarius woman show love? By sticking around. She assumes that the Cancer man is reassured by the fact that she hasn’t broken up with him. But he spends his time worrying that she isn’t truly in love with him because she doesn’t show it even when he begs for her to express herself.
Are These Two Completely Incompatible?
Although the emotional distance between these partners is profound, it can be salvaged. When these two helpers come together, they appreciate the other’s compassion.
These individuals both have a drive toward humanitarianism. The Cancer man can’t help it. He has so much empathy that he feels uncomfortable if he can’t help people with their troubles.
The Aquarius woman is a problem solver. She feels as though she has the answers, and she is generous with her wisdom. She wants everyone in the world to benefit from the solutions that she has come up with.
Because the Aquarius woman believes that power should be shared, she strives to make everyone feel like equals. She believes that the world should be balanced, and she is willing to take from the rich to give to the poor.
Because she believes that everyone is special, she doesn’t make extreme efforts to make her lover feel extraordinary. This can be frustrating for the Cancer man, who wants her to place him on a higher pedestal than her father, friends and pets.
She doesn’t judge her partner for wanting more from her, but she tends to love everyone equally. She recognizes how people plug into her needs, and she chooses a variety of relationships to fulfill her. One person will never be her everything.
They Have Different Social Needs
The introverted Cancer doesn’t always know how to handle the extroverted Aquarius. The Aquarius woman brings up topics of conversation that she finds fascinating, but the Cancer man isn’t usually in the mood for a conversation. He can read her like a book, though. He often knows what his partner is feeling before she says anything.
When it comes to developing friendships outside of the relationship, the Cancer doesn’t put in much effort. He isn’t the type of guy who needs a lot of friends. He may be closest to his family, or he might have one best friend to whom he confides everything.
The Aquarius woman is a people person. She surrounds herself with friends as often as possible.
However, she doesn’t have a lot of close friends. She avoids getting close to others so that she doesn’t have to hurt them when she leaves them. She is known for taking off when things start to get boring.
If she is emotionally invested, she will try to make things work. But if the honeymoon period is over and there doesn’t seem to be a solid bond that can take a relationship through the years, she will look for something more interesting.
The Cancer man holds some mystery. His profound emotional depths are uncharted territory for someone like her. She might stick around to try to figure him out. However, this relationship could lose its spark.
An Intimate Relationship May Take Work
These individuals have strong core beliefs surrounding intimacy. Whereas the Cancer needs someone to pay attention to his emotions, the Aquarius woman is uncomfortable with intimacy.
She wants to be free to do her own thing. She can’t stand it when people try to turn her into something that she’s not. Delving deeply into her emotions is not the norm for her.
The Cancer man is one of the most sensitive in the zodiac. He’s in tune with his feelings, and he needs someone who can look out for them.
Because the Aquarius is unfamiliar with emotions in general, she might not be up for this task. If she can’t handle emotional intimacy, she may never satisfy her partner. However, if the Cancer man hounds her for attention, she won’t want to stay around anyway.
They can bring some intimacy into their relationship through sex. For the Cancer man, a physical connection is an extension of his emotions. He uses sex to get closer to his partner, and he can lose himself in the experience.
The Aquarius woman sees sex as an opportunity to try new things. It’s exciting because she can’t always control what her partner does. When he brings his heart into the bedroom, the Aquarius woman doesn’t mind. She recognizes that a physical relationship needs more than two bodies to go the distance.
One of the problems that can arise is that the Aquarius woman doesn’t have a high libido. She’s often so busy doing other things that sex seems like a waste of time. If she snubs her Cancer man when he wants to get intimate, his feelings might be hurt.
She will often try to appease this need in her man, though. She might even act more romantic than she normally would because she knows that it’s important to her partner.
What Do They Appreciate About Each Other?
The Cancer man will adore the Aquarius woman. Because she is so compassionate, she will recognize and honor this devotion as long as it doesn’t become based on jealousy or suspicion.
The Aquarius woman is in awe of the Cancer man’s kindness. It’s likely that she’s never met someone so big-hearted, and she admires him.
The Cancer man may be shocked that the Aquarius woman can be so aloof. He may never have met someone so independent. When he gets together with her, he sees the soft spots in her heart.
He appreciates that she doesn’t wallow in her emotions, or they would both be tempted to go to dark places and stay there. But he helps her access her feelings in a way that she may not be able to do on her own.
The strengths of this relationship may not be obvious to others. For the individuals involved, it seems almost mystical. They feel a pull toward each other, but it’s deep below the surface. The Aquarius woman might never admit that the Cancer man’s emotional affection soothes her.
What Do They Need to Work on?
The Cancer man’s moodiness could dull the beauty of this relationship. The Aquarius woman understands that people aren’t happy all the time. She can have her own moody spells. But silent sulking drives her crazy.
If her partner is feeling emotional, the Aquarius woman wants him to put his thoughts into words. She can’t help him if she doesn’t know what’s wrong, and she is a solution-oriented person. She is an air sign, and all she wants is a little communication.
As long as they work on their verbal communication, these partners can establish a solid relationship. Speaking up for himself may be difficult for the Cancer at first, but the Aquarius woman will guide him with her compassionate heart.
She will never judge him for saying what’s on his mind. All she wants is to be able to understand him and his deep well of emotions.
Because the Aquarius is a fixed sign and the Cancer is a cardinal sign, this couple is bound to try to make things work. Neither partner gives up easily. They will pour themselves into the relationship, especially if they’ve made a commitment.
But they won’t rush into overarching promises. The Aquarius woman will wait until she’s sure that this is the one before she agrees to settle down. Otherwise, she could break her Cancer man’s heart.
