If you can’t get a girlfriend, then I’m willing to bet that you have a short or long list of reasons why. For example, you may tell yourself that you are too short, fat, socially anxious, nice, or bald. All of these reasons may actually be a fact of life for you (right now), but they don’t have to hold you back from getting a girlfriend for life. Let’s talk about these excuses and how you can overcome them.
1. Can’t Get a Girlfriend Because I’m Short
If you are short, you can have a hard time getting a girlfriend. There is no doubt that the socially accepted norm is that women are shorter than their men.
Many women fear what others will think when they are taller than a man. Why? Because those women are superficial.
Worse, short men are often judged harshly on their height alone and not viewed to be as manly or capable as their taller peers. Of course, that is complete bullshit, but it is something that happens nonetheless.
So what can you do…besides getting surgery to extend your limbs to increase your height? Yes, you can do that. Watch what extending limbs entails in the following video…the height issue starts around the 3:00 mark.
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Yikes! Would you really want to go through that just to get a girlfriend?
If you don’t want to go through the pain of this surgery, and you don’t want to spend the money, then you have accept your height and move forward; otherwise, you will spend your life hating yourself and pushing away women.
When you hate your height, it shows. When you feel unworthy, it shows. And, the way you feel about yourself rubs off on other people.
The only way to build up your self-worth is to talk to yourself differently. For instance,
- There are women out there who are shorter than I am
- Some women like short men
- There are plenty of happy couples where the man is shorter than the woman (Jerry Stiller and Ann Meara comes to mind!)
- I have so much more going on than just my height
As long as you tell yourself that your height is an issue, you will never believe otherwise and you will continue to push away women.
2. Can’t Get A Girlfriend Because I’m Fat
It is true! Some women will not date you because you are fat. It is also true that those are not the right women for you anywase!
I can’t tell you how many fat guys I know that have girlfriends. And, some of those guys have gorgeous girlfriends. Seriously, one of my friends who was sought after by SO MANY men is now married to a HUGE guy. Granted, he is a fat guy who has a lot going on for him. (He owns his own business, is frickin’ hilarious, has confidence, and is an overall nice guy.)
Some fat guys I know have smart, funny, and pretty girlfriends. My point? Fat guys can get girlfriends!
I’m not going to sugar-coat this one. If you hate your weight, and you feel as though it stands in the way of getting the girl you want, then you have to lose weight. There is no way around it. If you don’t, you will forever be fat and complaining about it.
Now, I’ve always said that you can still win over a girl if you have the right attitude. The following video backs up that theory.
The women in the video thought they were coming to meet a normal sized guy, but instead they end up meeting a fat guy. According to someone in the comments, this guy is a European pick-up artist. You can tell he has confidence and some game – so watch how the women react to that.
Point? If you have the confidence, then you have a good shot of picking up women no matter what you look like.
3. Can’t Get A Girlfriend Because I Have Social Anxiety
Worried about how other people view you? Hate interacting with other people? If yes, then you are probably going to have a hard time getting a girlfriend. There is no surprise there.
First, I want you to know that you are not alone. According to the Social Anxiety Institute, millions of people suffer from this. In fact, they say it is the third largest mental health care problem.
The good news is that it can be overcome.
The bad news is that you have to put yourself out there in order to overcome it!
You have to get out and seek the help and avenues that will help you banish social anxiety and start interacting with women on a level that gains their attraction and interest.
Scared? I wouldn’t doubt it. But, is finding a girlfriend enough motivation? If you are still reading this page, then I would have to say yes.
Always remember your desire to find a girlfriend as you go out and seek help to overcome your social anxiety. Hold the image of being happy and in a relationship in your head. That goal will help you keep moving forward.
I love this guy’s video on social anxiety. This is really something to consider if you feel this is a problem for you. He gives 3 great tips to overcome your social anxiety.
4. Can’t Get A Girlfriend Because I’m Too Nice
Bullshit.
Sorry, but there is no such thing as too nice.
Women want a nice guy.
Women do not want jerks!
Stop being jerks!
The problem is NOT that you are too nice, it is that you don’t have confidence or a sense of humor or a masculine attitude or intelligence or something else.
Maybe you smell bad.
Maybe your haircut is ridiculous.
Maybe your self-esteem is really, REALLY low.
I have no idea! But, I do know that being nice is NOT the problem.
You only end up in the ‘friend zone‘ when you don’t display common traits that women like, or when you display traits that turn women off.
Figure out what is really turning women off and fix that. Don’t become a jerk. It will just cause more problems in the long run.
5. Can’t Get A Girlfriend Because I’m Bald
Lastly, this seems to be a huge complaint among men who can’t get a girlfriend. They think their lack of hair (or thinning hair) is causing their problem.
Again, some women may not be attracted to a bald guy, but being bald is not going to cause you to not get a girlfriend in the long run.
There are plenty of bald men with girlfriends. In fact, there are plenty of bald men that are sex symbols.
This is a self-esteem issue, not a bald issue. If you feel like you are not good enough because you are bald, then that attitude is going to influence how women view you, and yes – you probably will have a hard time getting women.
In the above video, he says that being bald is a sign of maturity, and I couldn’t agree more! So, stop worrying about your head of hair (or lack of it!)
Do you believe you can’t get a girlfriend for another reason than listed here? Please, leave a comment and let me know what it is.
