Communication is everything in any relationship and when it comes to good night text messages, you can strengthen or destroy your connection. The thoughts you put into your partner’s head just before their head hits the pillow is important. And it really doesn’t take much to say plenty. Less is more. Keep it simple and straight to the point and you will decrease the risk of miscommunication. And understanding how to express your feelings is also critical when it comes to dating.
The number one cause of relationship breakup is not being able to comfortably communicate with your partner, according to Healthy Living experts. People that consciously put an effort into openly communicating with their love interest, are the ones that create more successful relationships. Learning tips and tricks to strengthen your relationship skills, gives you the power you need to succeed in love, romance, companionship, or just f-ing around.
First Up…Good Night Text Messages You Should Know
If you happen to be a shy person one of the worst things you can do is not send a good night message. If you’re unsure what to send, just shoot off a safe text to start and work your way up.
If you’re already in an established relationship and just looking for something fun and inviting to send, these should work perfectly. You get to express exactly how you feel and make your partner feel very loved.
*I love you forever.
*Sleep tight, dreaming of you.
*Having trouble sleeping because I need to tell you I miss and love you.
*I love you more every day and get excited just thinking about how much more I will love you tomorrow.
*Goodnight handsome. Think of me wrapped around you.
*You are my everything, never forget that. Goodnight.
*Know I’m always thinking of you, especially when I’m sleeping.
*Sleep tight and dream big. Love you.
*You show me each day why I should love you. I will do my best giving you reasons to love me.
*I know you are the one for me because when I’m not with you, my heart aches.
*You are in my head always. Sleep well sweetheart.
*Sweet dreams my love. I am thinking of you.
Soon To Be Couples…
These are the night messages to send if you aren’t officially dating but know who you want to be with. It doesn’t really matter who this person is, just as long as you signal to them you are falling head over heels for them. Think subtle first and you’re on the right track.
*Today was perfect. Sweet dreams.
*Sleep tight and dream big.
*Thanks for the smiles.
*Thinking of you.
*Miss you. Night.
*Someday I’d like to fall asleep beside you and wake up with you.
*I believe dreams come true. Dreaming of you.
*You are in my dreams. Sweet dreams.
*I want to be the girl you don’t want to be without.
*I love losing sleep because I’m thinking of you.
*Want to say goodnight beside you.
*Hope I’m in your sweet dreams.
Both Established Couples And Couples To Be…
There are some text messages that work for both couples and people hoping to hook up. Some are gentle and sweet and others bold and daring. It’s important to let your special someone know how you feel so you might as well go for it.
*You are always the last thing I think about at night and the first thing I think of in the morning.
*When I dream, it means I’m not really apart from you. Goodnight sweetie.
*Starlight, star-bright, you’re my star each and every night.
*I never want to sleep because my reality with you is amazing.
*My deepest desire is to sleep beside you tonight.
*When I hug my pillow, I pretend it’s you. It’s not the same.
*Sleep tight beautiful.
*Want you to know I’m thinking of you. Nite.
*Zillions of hugs just for you. Sleep well.
*Can’t sleep. Missing you.
*My heart beats better with you in my arms – love you.
*The only thing missing in my bed is you – I love you.
*Wish I was there or you were here – together every night.
*My love is only for you.
Romantic Sweet Dreams Texts For Your Partner
These good night text messages are reserved for the couples that have established connection and appreciate that romantic touch that’s deep and meaningful. Just don’t try these messages on someone you are just getting to know because they are a little over the top for that, according to relationship experts at FutureScopes.
*Just the thought of being with you tomorrow carries me content through the day and night.
*It feels so amazing knowing that you are mine and I am yours. Sleep well sweetheart.
*The moon doesn’t shine without the light and I can’t fall asleep without wishing you good night.
*I am thinking of you tonight with happiness and sadness. Missing you my love. But happy you are my one and only.
*I slipped into bed tonight but was missing something. My day is not complete unless I say sweet dreams to you, my love.
*Feel my arms wrapped around you right now, forever and always. Sleep well. Oxo
*I’m so busy in love with you, it consumes me. Miss you. Love you.
*Cross my heart and hope to die, it’s with you I want to lie. Love you.
*Dream big sweetheart. I am dreaming big of you. Ox
*Close your eyes and think of me holding you close and telling you how much I love you.
*My days are hectic.
My daily schedule is quite tight.
But no matter what
I can’t sleep without saying good night to you.
Nite my love.
*Twinkle twinkle little star,
how I wonder how you are.
Up above the moon lit night.
Love you lots and wish you good night.
*Close your eyes and let’s dream together. Love you forever.
Pure Gold Rules Of Text Messaging (SMS)
Neediness and constant attractiveness are two key factors in communicating via text messaging in a romantic relationship. You need to know how to skillfully play each one. And when it comes to social media communication, there are a zillion ways you can screw up royally, so you want to be sure you stick to a few rock solid rules when you text.
Here are a few rules to get you started, that Long Distance Lover dating experts swear by.
Regulation One – Rule Of Reciprocity
If you don’t pay attention to this rule you might end up in the forbidden land of neediness. And if you want to kill romantic attraction in any relationship, neediness will do it.
Overdoing it on the number of text messages you send indicates a high level of neediness. That or you’re bored stiff and don’t have anything else to do. Both of which are not doing you any favors.
If you happen to be the general instigator of texts or the one sending the majority, you need to pull back. Tell your partner you love getting texts from them and this will set the tone to increase the frequency.
Remind your love interest to shoot you a text whenever they are thinking of you; when they see something that reminds them of you.
This involves a little bit of game playing and a whole lot of conscious control, but it’s worth it to ensure you aren’t the needy one and you are encouraging her to think of you and text you often.
Regulation Two – Shoot It Off And Forget It!
How often do you send a text message and expect a response ASAP? You keep checking your phone every 2 seconds to see if you’ve got a response.
That’s gotta stop!
Even if you’ve got your ringer set to let you know when a text comes in, you still check it and might even turn your phone off to reset it just in case. That’s crazy nuts.
Doing this is not only stressful but it’s incredibly needy. Keep in mind, there are two sides to every coin and if it’s your girlfriend or boyfriend who happens to be hours or heaven forbid days before she/he replies to a text, then you’ve got an issue. That signals she/he really doesn’t give a crap about you and perhaps you should move on.
Stuff always comes up and it’s very important to remind yourself not to read too much into getting text replies fast. Your best rules of thumb are…
*Write your text
*Shoot your text off
*Forget about it
Send him/her texts to give information, not to expect a reply back. Write more statements in your texts than questions.
Regulation Three – Easy On The Numbers
Especially if he/she’s not answering, you don’t want to go crazy with the number of text messages you’re sending. Sending a text every 3-4 hours is okay, just make sure you’re not looking too needy by sending any more than that.
And make sure you respond to a text before you fire off another one. It’s too confusing if you are texting and trying to figure out which text messages he/she’s responding to.
Regulation Four – Keep It Deep And Diverse
Don’t send her the same old texts over and over again. Diversity is the spice of life, right? Keep it spontaneous and alive and make sure you are always writing your messages differently. Shooting them off at different times is also a wise-owl move. If you’re sending the same text messages at the same time every day, it gets old fast. Boring is not the objective and will get you kicked to the curb fast.
Regulation Five – Teasing Is Good In And Out Of the Bedroom
Teasing is likely one of the most undervalued powers of texting in general. And when you use it in your texting game you’ve tapped into the gasoline that keeps the fire burning. It takes almost zippo effort to send your love interest a saucy text that will keep them hot and bothered.
Heck, you don’t even have to say anything, you can just use some sexy emoticons. Of course it all depends where you are in your relationship as to the degree of sauciness required. If you’ve had sex, you can venture deeper. But if you are just getting to know each other, you should start with the safe stuff.
“You really are a smart girl/guy…sometimes!”
“You’re so beautiful/handsome…I can’t help my mind from wandering.”
Those are safe but suggestive and picture perfect.
Regulation Six – The 20 Minutes Rule
It’s ultra-important that you don’t answer his/her texts back too quickly all the time. Wait at least 20-25 minutes or more before you respond at least half the time.
What does this do?
According to Chatelaine magazine, this will help increase your attractiveness. Translation – It will make him/her want you more. This will teach your boyfriend or girlfriend to wait patiently for your texts and increase the excitement when he/she reads them, and you aren’t going to look like the needy one that’s sitting around with nothing better to do than wait for the text messages. That’s loser-ish.
Regulation Seven – Don’t Ever Have Text Messaging Battles
You never want to forget that texts are very impersonal and super easy to misinterpret. Simple texts can be taken the wrong way and create an argument that never ever in a zillion years would have happened face-2-face.
If you are feeling a little tense with your texts, you should ring each other, face-time, or even Skype, so that you can clear your communication lines and not create a conflicting mountain of trouble out of a mole hill.
Experts report up to 85% of communication is through body language, and up to 55% of that is facial expressions. So it’s a heck of a lot more than just words and finger punching if you are looking to build your romantic connection positively strong.
Another factor to consider is that text battles last a heck of a lot longer than a normal fight does. With regular in-your-face spats, you get it all out on the table and then have a chance to cool off, so you can put your head on straight to figure it out. With texts, there really is no finish line and the negative emotions brew for much longer than they should. This stresses your relationship and often destroys trust, all because of often silly misunderstandings that doesn’t get resolved ASAP.
Psychology Today experts report these negative messages also prologue the fight and bring it back repeatedly because they are saved on the device. Visual proof of anger thoughts. Some people even create folders to save these nasty hurtful disagreements in, so they have ammo to throw back at their partner when they need to. Unfair and dumb when you think about it but that’s reality for many.
Your best move here is if you feel a texting issue coming on, to stop immediately and agree to talk about it. And make certain you both delete the conversation right away.
You may also like our article: Good Morning Text Messages.
Texting Do’s And Don’ts
There’s no doubt text messaging is an excellent tool for communicating in our crazy busy fast-paced world. When used correctly, texting enables you to reach out and touch your partner or love interest when conventional means just aren’t practical. Can you imagine sending a girl a letter in the mail to ask her out? Or hopping on your bike or running over to her house or where she works, to see if she is free one day so you can take her out? That just doesn’t work in our world today.
Understanding the positive and negative of texting will help you better communicate with your love, whether you’re sending him/her good night text messages or telling how much you miss him/her.
Do Not Ever Guess – If you don’t clearly understand a text message, just don’t try and dissect it. There’s too much left to the imagination with texting and that’s where you can slip into treacherous waters. Find a way to meet up so you can clear it all up.
Don’t Go Nuts On Abbreviations – Text messages are meant to be brief but make sure you use the basic terms and abbreviations people know. If you start making up your own or use uncommon ones, you’re going to eventually get yourself into hot water. It’s not fun receiving garble.
Don’t Overdo Flirting – Check Your Teasing At The Door – Texting is an awesome platform for flirting but that doesn’t mean you should let it get out of control. Make sure no matter how innocent, that when you’re flirting you are honest and sincere. The last thing you want to do is get sassy and raise expectations that are only going to hurt your text flirting partner, or lead someone on you want nothing to do with.
Do Not Send Angry Texts – If you are a little frustrated that’s okay. Just make sure you don’t shoot over a big long angry text with a whole whack of miniature eruptions. That’s just going to give you a large wet mess to clean up after you’re done with your tantrum.
Do Not Text Serious News – It’s just not classy to dump your girlfriend or boyfriend via text. And it’s really rather lame to break any type of bad news with your fingers – cowardly. It won’t take long for the news to spread in our social media whacked society and that will be your label. It’s just not worth it.
If you want it, here it is, come and get it. Otherwise just don’t do it.
Do Make The Time To Text Sweet Nothings – It’s crazy tough in our world today to pick up the phone or even shoot off an email at times. Work may be strict and many couples work opposite shifts; you might be sleeping while your girlfriend is in work mode.
Send a sweet text during your busy day to let them know you are thinking about them simply because it means a lot. In recent surveys, up of 55% of people said the text message they enjoy receiving most is “I’m thinking of you.”
Do Send Texts Long Distance – Long distance relationships are hard and it’s truly powerful the sort of immediate connection a text can create even when you’re a zillion miles apart. This is in- the-moment messaging that doesn’t have to cost you, not like long distance calling anyway.
Do Text Goodnight And Good Morning – A great way to start off your day is by receiving a quick text from your love interest. Make a habit of sending off a morning and night text and you’re going to make sure someone’s thinking about you from when they wake up till they fall asleep and every minute in between. That may be a bit of an exaggeration but you get the picture.
Do Try To Text Before You First Date – Just make sure you keep the questions fun and alive. Nothing too serious. Sending a few text messages before the first date will help to ease nerves and make it a little more comfortable on your first date.
Do Reply Immediately – Most people live with their phone attached to their hip. If you don’t answer the text within 30 minutes or so your love interest will assume you’re ignoring them. That’s a complete turnoff. If you get to the text late, make sure you message you’re sorry and just got the text. It’s very important you keep the communication clear on this one so you don’t create miscommunication by being lazy.
Do Thank Them For Texting – It’s critical you play your manners card and thank your girlfriend/boyfriend for thinking of you and texting from time to time. Everyone likes to be appreciated, right?
Whether you are sending good night texts or learning the basics of clear communication via text messages, it’s important you take the time to learn proper text etiquette before you let your fingers fly. Think of texting as very sensitive. It doesn’t take much to rock the boat if you aren’t careful.
Use these pointers to help you nail down romantic texting and you’ll quickly have the ability to strengthen your bond, minus the drama of miscommunication. And never forget that texting can be used to keep the connection alive, to fuel it, but it can’t replace real life communication right beside or across from one another.
Good luck with your finger punching, you’ll do great!