Dating a Scorpio man is an intense experience. Widely regarded as being one of the most unpredictable, emotional, and hard-to-deal-with of the signs, Scorpio men bring many positive and negative things to the table. While it sometimes takes a particular person to become their perfect match, if you can manage to tame a Scorpio man, you’ll have a partner more loyal than any of the other signs.
The Mysterious Scorpio
Scorpios tend to be challenging to read, and sometimes, even more difficult to understand. However, this is part of what makes them so appealing. They’re mysterious at the best of times and downright confounding at the worst. However, underneath all of this mystery is a soul that’s not impossible to understand – not in the least.
Dating a Scorpio man makes this process a bit easier, but also more obscure. While Scorpio men tend to be simpler to understand than the women, they tend to be better at hiding things, too – and thus, they’re even more mysterious.
Believe it or not, despite their bad rap, Scorpio men are not as complicated as people make them out to understand. Like any other human being, Scorpio men are driven by their own desires – arguably more than any other sign. However, because they sometimes tend to keep their internal goals and aspirations close to their chests, they can come off as enigmatic.
If catching and dating a Scorpio is your goal, it’s definitely possible. However, Scorpios can be callous, fickle, and strong-willed. If you’re not determined to be in it for the long haul and to do it right, you likely won’t be able to do it successfully.
Catching a Scorpio Man’s Eye
As we said above, Scorpio men are driven strongly by their desires. If there’s something they want, they’ll work hard to get it for themselves. As such, if you’re looking to date one, you’ll have to become tempting to the Scorpio you want. If he has no interest in you, it’s likely that he won’t have much time for you, either.
The question is, then, what do Scorpio men like? Unfortunately, this question isn’t always easy to answer. All people, Scorpios included, tend to have different personal preferences between them. However, as a general rule, Scorpios’ interests tend to be piqued by:
- Intelligence
- Interesting conversations
- Attractiveness
- Mystery
Just as Scorpio men are mysterious and interesting, they enjoy finding others who are just as exciting. When they see someone or something that interests them, they’ll pursue them until either their interest wanes or they discover the mystery.
As such, your job when trying to catch a Scorpio is to capture and hold his interest. However, figuring out how to do this is the problem! With some careful observation of the Scorpio in question, you should be able to get a good idea, but it will inevitably be a long and challenging journey.
Of course, one universal key to keeping a Scorpio’s interest is not to give too much away all at once. You must maintain the mystery for as long as possible if you want to hold a Scorpio long enough to get him hooked.
Another thing to remember is not to craft a fake personality to attract your Scorpio! Scorpios are intense and determined, and they will eventually figure you out. If they find out that you were disingenuous with them throughout your relationship, they’ll lose an incredible amount of respect for you.
If you’re just looking to have a little fun with the Scorpio male in question, this is a viable tactic, however. Crafting an intriguing persona is a great way to hold his interest for a while until you’ve had your fun with him. However, do keep in mind that, if you fall in love with him in the process, you’ll be in a tough situation! Once he figures out that you’ve been deceiving him, he’ll likely lose interest and decide to pursue other things (or people).
Of course, the key to crafting a persona that piques the interest of a Scorpio male is first to figure out what he likes! As you already know, keeping things mysterious is a great way to get started. However, every Scorpio is unique, so you’ll need to get to know him better to really figure out what makes him tick.
Shared interests are a great way to get started. However, be careful not to have too many common interests with a Scorpio – male or female. Too much similarity will be uninteresting to a Scorpio, as they take great pleasure in debating the finer things in life with others.
Figuring Out a Scorpio Man
Scorpio men are endlessly interesting, and if you get the chance to spend the rest of your life with one, you should count yourself as blessed. You can spend a lifetime with a Scorpio man and still be finding new things about him years later. This is one of the benefits of catching a Scorpio man for yourself, but it’s not an easy thing to accomplish!
Figuring out a Scorpio man should be done carefully. Scorpio men are willful and unexpectedly sensitive, so they’re not a sign that you can push to learn more about. Some Scorpio men are more interested in sharing things about themselves than others, but regardless, you should never push hard for them to share when they aren’t ready to do so.
While Scorpio men are emotional and sensitive, they often don’t feel confident or comfortable with this sensitivity. They’re happy to use that sensitivity to get closer to and figure more about others, but they don’t like being confronted about their own sensitivity.
Like all of us, Scorpio men want to feel special. However, with the attention they get from friends and suitors alike, the Scorpio you’re pursuing will likely be used to feeling special. As such, you should be using this for your benefit!
A great way to get your Scorpio’s attention is to shut him down just a little bit – and strategically. Many Scorpio men don’t mind bragging about their desirability, especially if they’re doing to impress you. Reacting like he’s not as unusual as he thinks he is is a great way to throw him for a loop.
However, if you want to throw him for a loop in a good way, you need to be careful about how you’re treating your Scorpio man. If you shut him down too much, he’ll get discouraged or disgruntled and move on to something else. However, if you don’t shut him down enough, he might not take your efforts seriously.
This is made all the more difficult by the fact that every Scorpio man is different. If the Scorpio you’re interested in has a big ego, he might be able to handle more than others. However, if your Scorpio has a deeper sensitive side, too much shutting him down will make him lose interest. The only way to do this correctly is through trial and error or simple observation.
What do Scorpio Men Want?
Like we’ve said earlier on in this article, Scorpio men aren’t too difficult to figure out. After all, difficult as they can be, Scorpio men and women are human beings, just like you. Each one has their own unique set of dreams and desires, even if they might not be discernible right away.
Some Scorpio men might just be looking to find a pleasant partner to settle down with. Others might be looking to travel the world and see it all before they settle down for good. Still, others might not be interested in ever settling down at all. This is part of the beauty of a Scorpio man; they tend to be much more unpredictable than many of the other signs.
However, this creates some difficulties for their mates, too, as it’s difficult to figure out what the Scorpio in question truly wants. This is only exacerbated further by the fact that he isn’t likely to tell you, either! This makes trying to woo a Scorpio man a significant risk, depending on what your intentions are, of course.
However, just like all humans, Scorpio men are people. If you show them honesty, love, and consideration, they will respect you. While there’s no guarantee that they’ll see romantic interest in you by being yourself, you’ll definitely have their respect.
Scorpio Intensity
Scorpio men are so intense that this character trait warrants its own section. They bring this intensity to all aspects of their life, and when you decide to be a part of their life, you’ll automatically become a part of that intensity. However, this can manifest in many different ways, some which you might find desirable, and others which you might object to.
One way that this intensity can manifest is through drama. Some Scorpio men like to indulge their more carnal desires, and as a result, they may have many partners. They can even have a new partner in and out of their residence every day if they so choose. While you can get a lot of fun out of these Scorpio men, you might want to avoid them if you’re looking for a long-term life partner.
Another way that a Scorpio’s intensity can manifest is through their zest for life and activities. Some Scorpios have a deep-seated desire to see the world. Still others channel their passionate energy into activities or work. Fewer still use their passion to further a cause or goal of theirs. As you can see, Scorpios are an incredibly exciting and varied bunch.
The intensity of a Scorpio man often manifests as perfectionism. They never do anything halfway, and when a Scorpio man puts his mind to something, he will do it perfectly. If for some reason, he doesn’t do it correctly, he’ll either shift the blame away from himself or take it exceptionally harshly.
Unfortunately, this can result in narcissism in some Scorpios, too. If they’re too used to doing things perfectly, they might eventually start to believe that they’re incapable of doing things imperfectly. However, most Scorpios shouldn’t fall prey to this trap, as the root of this perfectionism is an incredibly harsh view of themselves.
On the outside, a Scorpio man might seem confident, in-control, and calm. However, on the inside, he might be much more unsure of himself. It’s the specialty of a Scorpio to hide this insecurity so that he comes off as flawless instead of as flawed as he feels.
In fact, many Scorpios tend to view this emotional vulnerability as a weakness. However, he’s much more understanding of this vulnerability in others than he is in himself, strangely enough. This double-standard is typical with many of the rules that a passionate Scorpio man holds himself to.
The Scorpio Man: In Control
One trait that’s incredibly common among Scorpio men is that they like to be in control. This hearkens back to their desire to do things perfectly, as they often don’t trust others to do something as well as they do.
This means that your Scorpio man won’t be afraid to woo you to the best of his ability. He’ll be one to shower you with affection, take you on lavish dates, and do his best to learn you inside and out. His interest in you will be apparent right away, and you won’t have any questions about it!
However, there are specific ways to undermine a Scorpio man’s control without upsetting him, too – and this is the best way to get him to pay attention to you! The easiest way to do this is by piquing his sexual interest. As you know, Scorpio men are ruled by their strong desires, and their sexual desires are no different.
Your Scorpio man will very intently make sure to control every aspect of your relationship that he can. However, that doesn’t mean he’s unwilling to work with you on sharing control, either. Once your Scorpio man gets to know you and respect you, he’ll trust you enough to let you control various aspects of the relationship, too.
