Aquarians and known for their assertiveness, easy-going nature, creativity, and intellectual nature. But what’s it like to date one? Here’s everything you need to know when dating an Aquarius man.
What’s It Like to Date an Aquarius Man?
He Can’t Control His Creative Nature
Aquarius men are bursting with ideas. He’ll most likely want to write books, create art, or in some way, be connected to a creative industry. He loves books of all sorts but especially fiction. He simply loves how creative humans are and needs to immerse himself in original ideas that boost his own creativity.
An Aquarius man employs his creativity in all parts of his life. Employers love him because he’s constantly coming up with great ideas to improve a project or creating zingy catchphrases to help an audience understand what his company is going for. He has a great sense of humor as well since he’s able to say witty and outlandish things that can make anyone laugh.
He’s also one to come up with great ideas for meals, transforming the stray items in the fridge and pantry into a delicious meal. Wherever the Aquarius is, his technicolor creative shadow follows him. He seems to get these genius ideas randomly, which is why he could be in the middle of a conversation but need to write down a good idea before he forgets.
If you want to be constantly intrigued by your partner’s brain, look no further than an Aquarius man. He’s constantly coming up with original ideas that he then uses in his professional, personal, and romantic life. You’ll never get bored with an Aquarius man. He’ll always find a way to say something funny, make a situation better, or add some spice to your life.
He’s Intelligent
You’ll be surprised at how much an Aquarius man knows about what seems like an infinite amount of topics. His curiosity leads him to read up on certain topics that other people would find quite intriguing, but he manages to make those esoteric subjects interesting to a lay audience.
In addition to the subjects he knows, an Aquarius man is observant and clever. He knows the best statement to say or the best course of action to take. He’s the guy who will point out a flaw in your argument and gently correct it. He’s also the one with a genius plan to fix most situations.
Aquarius men love the cerebral and gravitate towards it. If you go to his place, he’ll probably have stacks of well-loved books by his bed or in his living room. He craves learning more and talking about those interesting things with intellectual people. It can be intimidating to enter if that’s not your scene, as such intellectuals can be snobby.
The Aquarius man, though, ever the socialite, will make sure you feel comfortable and that others don’t make you feel bad for not knowing as much as they do.
He’s Incredibly Social
Aquarius men like having different groups of friends for different purposes. He’ll have his intellectual friends but also his friends for the various different interests he has. Aquarius men are open-minded and have lots of different hobbies, so he’ll have groups of friends for each of those activities.
He’ll happily introduce you to his friends, but you might find it difficult to keep up with them. Which group did you meet Steve at — yoga or rock climbing? It’s something that will take some getting used to, especially if your social circle is smaller and more intimate.
You might wonder if all these friends are a symptom of something deeper. Perhaps having lots of friends hides the fact that he doesn’t have a few core friends on whom he can truly lean on. This might be due to the fact that Aquarius men have trouble connecting emotionally.
He Has a Weird Relationship with Emotions
While charming, intellectual, and kind, Aquarius men will throw up their walls when the topic of emotions comes up.
Aquarius men are likely to hide behind a joke or change the subject when emotions come up. Emotions are too squishy and don’t make sense to him. He can’t rationalize the emotions he feels, so they’re one of the few things he can’t completely understand. As a result, he’ll want to avoid that confusion as much as possible.
If you force an Aquarius man to open up about what he’s feeling, he’s likely to fall back on emotional idealism. Things are deepening between you and him, so he can have high standards of what you and he are supposed to feel. You’re supposed to feel infatuated with each other. If you don’t feel such intensity, he might take it as a sign that things aren’t working out.
So it’s a bit foreign to non-Aquarians to view emotions in such a way. If you’re a water sign, especially a Cancer or Pisces, you’re very emotionally aware and know how to communicate your feelings effectively. You’ll probably grow frustrated if you break through the Aquarius man’s walls only to see he has a warped view of emotions.
It’s something he’ll be willing to work on, though. Aquarius men are obsessed with self-improvement and growing to be a better person. Since emotions are so central to a human’s life, he’ll find it important to change how he views his feelings to improve all relationships — especially the one between you and him.
He Won’t be the Most Affectionate
Aquarius men are very much in their heads, not in their bodies. He wants to make sure that he knows the most about a subject and can say the wittiest thing, but he fails when it comes to flirtation. Unless he has a more suave zodiac sign in his chart, like Leo, Libra, or Cancer, he’ll probably be an awkward flirter.
Aquarius men will verbally let you know that he thinks you’re attractive and would like to date. But when it comes to the nonverbals of flirtation, he’s lost. He’ll forget that the body is just as important to dating as the words. He probably won’t be the guy to sweep your hair behind your ear or hold hands in public.
But in the initial stages of dating, the Aquarian’s inability to factor in nonverbal romantic cues in dating can work to your advantage. It means that the cues you do see, like shiny eyes and feet pointing toward you when you’re chatting, it means they’re genuine since he’s not consciously trying to control these behaviors.
Even once the relationship deepens, and you two are dating, he’s not one to enjoy public displays of affection. In fact, he might not be that into making out, cuddling, or even sex, depending on how strongly his intellectual impulses are.
An Aquarius man can learn to control his heady interest in favor of the body, but he can be so in his head that he lets bodily pleasure fall to the wayside because of his cerebral pursuits.
Therefore, the best way to better engage an Aquarius man during sex is to bring that element of mental stimulation into the mix. Incorporate role play, a coy game of cat and mouse, or other mental games into the bedroom. He’s sure to enjoy playing someone he’s not and pursuing a character to get him out of his head and into his body.
He Needs Open Communication
If you feel a certain way, you need to make it known. Aquarius men are kind and friendly people, but they have no patience for beating around the bush. Aquarius men don’t mince their words, so they appreciate it when others don’t as well.
If you find it hard to communicate with a partner, you’re bound to run into problems with an Aquarius man. He won’t understand why you can’t articulate an issue you have since he can do it so well. He’ll have some patience with you in allowing you to think and collect your thought, but he’ll want to see your communication skills grow over the course of the relationship.
If you can’t communicate with him, he might grow so frustrated that he ends the relationship. He’ll have no issue stating what bothers him and how he believes certain aspects of the relationship can improve. As a progressively minded person, he’s constantly thinking of ways to improve everything around him — including his romantic relationship.
Stagnant communication skills are the death of any relationship but especially with an Aquarius man. Bolster your communication skills to make the relationship with him last.
He Doesn’t Like Complainers
Aquarius men don’t understand complaints. If something bothers you, you should fix it rather than just talk about it without taking action to improve it. Aquarius men rarely complain about things themselves. It makes them feel ungrateful for everything going right in their life. Complaining also makes them feel like they don’t have the competence to fix their own issues.
If you complain of something to an Aquarius partner, he’ll likely respond with a list of improvements you can use to fix your problems. If you were listing your grievances because you were looking for validation and emotional support, you wouldn’t find it in an Aquarius man. He’ll want to help you fix your problems and won’t understand why you’d want to commiserate.
In addition to not understanding complainers, he could quickly grow annoyed with them. He’s an open-minded guy, sure, but that doesn’t mean he doesn’t have annoyances. It annoys him when people won’t fix their own problems and would rather wallow in pity instead of improving their lives. Aquarius men constantly work to improve their own, so why can’t others?
Complaining is a bad habit to have because, unless it’s a big issue, people most likely don’t care about what you’re complaining about (the Aquarius man included). It also surrounds a conversation with negative energy, which can bring down the mood and make people want to quickly avoid talking to you so that they can bring up the energy again.
Be mindful of your complaining and be sure you’re only doing it when fully warranted. If you’re complaining about something just to have something to talk about with someone, try to find more interesting things to say.
It Will Take Him a While to Trust You
Aquarius men are known for their aloofness. They’re intellectual and creative, but they’re not ones to wear their emotions on their sleeves. They’d rather keep their emotions to themselves and be sure the person they’re sharing that part of themselves with fully deserves their emotional vulnerability.
It’s already difficult for Aquarius women to open up, so the masculine element to Aquarius men further complicates how easily they’ll show off their emotions.
You have to play the long game with Aquarius men to ensure they open up to you. If an Aquarius man finally does, don’t treat that lightly. It took a lot of trust and vulnerability to show you his deeper emotions. If you mishandle them, you could make it much harder for him to trust people in the future.
Don’t take too personally the high walls an Aquarius man builds in front of you. He’s really a deep guy, but he’s scared of getting hurt. He wants to make sure you’re not going to make fun of him for what he feels, and that you’ll stay with him once he shows you who he really is.
He’ll Overthink Ambiguous Parts of the Relationship
Aquarius men are notoriously cerebral. If there are any gray areas in the relationship, he’ll obsess over what all the possibilities could mean. This is because an Aquarius really trusts that what you say is what you mean. It helps them build clarity. If the Aquarius man doesn’t know how you feel about something, they’ll constantly worry they’ve done something wrong.
Be clear to the point of being blunt when talking to Aquarius men. It will actually help them out a lot.
Aquarius men are easy to fall in love with. It’s hard to maintain a relationship with them, though. Keep these things in mind when dating an Aquarius man, and you’re sure to have a long-lasting relationship with him.
