A while ago there was a post written about what to do when a woman plays hard to get and it has received a lot of interest. Apparently there are a lot of women out there playing hard to get with you guys!
But, a question came up in the comments that I wanted to write a post about. The question was about how to tell the difference between a woman playing hard to get and a woman not interested. Good question!
When She’s Playing Hard To Get
When a woman is playing hard to get, you will see some signs that she likes you. These are common signs that women show when they are interested. A woman will have a tough time hiding these signs because they are done pretty much unconsciously.
For instance, a woman who is interested and playing hard to get will still send subtle signs of flirting such as:
- Flip her hair
- Bite her lip
- Look at you from the side or top of her eyes
- Straighten up when you are around (stick her chest out, stomach in, and butt back)
- Give sweet little smiles that are uncalled for
- Play with her lips with her fingers
- Lick her lips
Or, a woman who is interested, trying to play hard to get, but nervous will:
- Be awkward in her movements
- Talk about weird and random things
- Talk too fast or too slow (usually too fast)
- Laugh awkwardly
- Look at you differently (too long, too short, weird expression, etc.)
Still not sure? Try this: Get yourself into a situation where you can see her with her friends or other people.
- Watch her movements.
- Watch the way she holds herself.
- Watch the way she laughs, talks, and gestures.
For the most part, this will be her normal behavior around other people.
If you can watch her interact with people a few times, do it, because the more you see her interacting with people, the more you can really pinpoint what her normal everyday interactions are like.
Once you know what she looks like in her everyday behavior, enter the room and watch to see if she changes. If she straightens up, fixes her clothes, smooth’s down her hair, or even just becomes very serious and quiet, then you know something is up. She is monitoring her behavior around you for some reason, and if she stays in the room and interacts with you on some level, the chances are good she’s interested.
As far as energy goes, you will be able to feel some tension around her. It will be good tension, the kind that makes your heart flutter – or other parts flutter. So, pay attention to that.
- Look for odd behavior around you that isn’t normal when she interacts with others
- Look for awkwardness
- Look for subtle signs of flirting
- Look for good tension
When She’s Just Not Interested – In That Way
If she’s not interested in you, then you will be treated just like every other person in the room. Her behavior will not change because she is not monitoring it – she is just acting and reacting without over-thinking it.
She still may hug you, touch you, smile at you, etc. But it will be in a friendly way, and there will be no sexual tension there.
As far as she’s concerned, you are a friend or acquaintance at this point.
When She Hates You
There is another possible scenario if you feel she might be playing hard to get. She may just not like you and that is why you are having a hard time getting her!
If a woman really dislikes you, she will show some distinct body language signs as well. For instance, she may change her behavior when you enter the room, but it will be cold. Her arms will cross, her legs will cross, and she will look away from you. When she does look at you it will be with annoyance or a cold stare. Her words will be short and her eyes will probably roll.
Are There Exceptions To The Rule?
Yes, but it is not usual. The above examples are pretty standard across the board.
However, a woman playing hard to get may try to play too hard to get and send off signals that she hates you.
How can you tell? Back off! If you back off from a woman who is actually interested in you, she should realize her mistake and come back towards you. A woman who hates you will just be relieved you are gone!