There are a lot of jerks teaching other guys how to be jerks – or at least portray a jerk. I see them all over the place, but because they seem confident, tough, and like the kind of man who gets a lot of women, a lot of guys sign up for their bullshit.
I don’t believe in playing hurtful games and using tricks to pick up women. I don’t believe in acting like you are better than women to pick up women.
I do believe in the power of self-confidence, seductive communication, and positive attitude. I also believe in understanding women, and using that knowledge to your advantage.
But, in my opinion, guys who promote violence or abuse (mental or otherwise) should not be allowed to charge hundreds or thousands of dollars to teach guys how to use their methods.
That said, there are some dating coaches who seem to teach pretty decent stuff, but then joke about being a jerk to women. And, this can backfire big time too!
Guy Accused Of Teaching Abuse IS Someone To Learn From
If you haven’t heard about Julien Blanc, let me tell you what I know about him. He is a dating coach that put up some offensive pictures and videos and ended up offending a ton of people. Following is a video talking about him.
I don’t know him. I’ve never been to one of his seminars. I don’t know if he’s a jerk or a decent guy. But the impression I have of him is not a good one, and a lot of people agree with me.
The point is, I don’t follow him and get a balanced view of what he is about, so if he sends out some (or a lot of) messages that sound sexist or hateful, the chances of me not liking him are high.
The following tweet includes a picture Julien Blanc made. As far as I can tell, he claims that this was supposed to be funny, but is this really something a sane person would post as funny?
A disturbing slide from @RSDJulien‘s ‘how to control women’ seminar that men pay $1000s for. #takedownjulienblanc pic.twitter.com/L2dMVgMfpo
— The Daily Rupert (@TheMurdochTimes) November 7, 2014
The truth is that he was promoting abuse, whether he admits it or not.
Whether he is joking or not joking, it offends women and, to be honest, it may just seep into the mind of some insane guy who thinks that this advice is something he should use. (You can’t tell me that there are not some guys who may take this advice literally!)
Bottom line: It’s not something that should be said jokingly or otherwise.
People were pissed off about this and social media quickly became a campaign of shutting this guy down. Following is a protest outside one of his seminars that actually got it shut down.
On the flip side, following is a video compilation of him giving his seminars, interacting with people, and the news accusing him of being an abuser. As you can see, he seems to be giving some pretty decent non-violent advice.
Don’t Joke About Being A Jerk
I think in this day and age, there is not a lot of tolerance for hate or arrogance of any kind.
Most people will not let someone make a hateful comment or a hateful joke in their presence. Most people are not drawn to a guy who seems to be pushing his will on other people.
In short, it is not okay to be offensive, because too many bad things have happened (and are happening) to people out there.
(Check out the comments on this article to see how pissed off people were about this.)
It’s just not funny, and you will offend people if you go around acting like a jerk. They don’t know the real you and what you really believe. They only see a part of you, and that part is hateful and ugly. It’s just not a chance you want to take for any reason.
In fact, you may offend a woman who would actually really like the real you and be a perfect fit for you. Why take that chance?
So, take a lesson from Julien. Even if a dating coach tells you to be a jerk, remember, you may impress some people by pretending to be a jerk, you may get a few laughs from some dumb guys who think it’s funny to joke about issues that women actually fear, but you will most likely do a lot of damage to yourself in the long run.
