Gemini is a notoriously tricky sign to date. Passionate and warm one minute, cold and distant the next, you’ll be asking yourself what you did to get her to have such a mood swing. The chances are you didn’t do anything wrong, but there are certain things you should do to make a Gemini woman more likely to stay.
Top Gemini Traits
Before diving into how to attract a Gemini woman, it’s best to know these traits about Gemini.
- Impulsivity
- Indecisiveness
- Constantly changing moods
- Outgoing
- Curiosity
- Superficiality
- Unreliable
- Lack of direction
- Lack of seriousness
Overall, Gemini is here for a good time, not a long time. Her natural bubbliness and humor are contagious, and it’s easy to like her. She’s bound to form friendships with everyone around her, but these friendships rarely move past emotionally safe topics. Her relationships — platonic and otherwise — tend to be superficial, as she’s inherently afraid of commitment.
Her interests change all the time, so she tends to bail on plans at the last minute. Don’t ask her to decide where to go for dinner, as it’s unlikely she’ll come to a decision before you both starve. Gemini has the sign of twins for a reason, so her dueling personalities lead to conflict within her. One twin feels one way, the other a different way, and a stalemate lies between.
Her indecisiveness can lead to her float through life without any serious commitments. It’s perfect for maintaining her impulsivity and “live in the moment” philosophy, but it can start to feel lonely after a while. If she doesn’t get her stuff together, she can feel purposeless and like she lacks direction.
This air sign needs someone to ground her, maintaining such a commitment to solidity scares her, so she floats around from whim to whim until she feels compelled to come down.
It’s difficult to get Gemini to settle down, as she can often feel suffocated under commitment. But there are ways to convince a Gemini woman that you’re the one for her.
Tips for Attracting a Gemini Woman
The initial stages of a relationship are crucial for attracting a Gemini woman. If you make a mistake here, it’s likely that she’ll bail on you and try to find someone else. So while you should be cognizant when a relationship gets serious, pay extra special attention during the first few weeks and months.
Keep the Conversation Going
This is where a lot of people lose Gemini women. A lot of people meet over dating apps and try to get each other over text before meeting in person. If you can’t keep up a good text conversation, a Gemini woman is likely to ghost you.
Here’s How to Have Good Conversation Skills Over Text
- Always make it easy for someone to respond. If you text one-word responses to people, you make it incredibly difficult for them to respond to you. How would a Gemini woman respond to, “My day was good”? She’ll probably reply with a one-word response like, “Nice” and that will be that. If the conversation continues, it will be like pulling teeth.Instead, send texts that are a little longer and provide a lot of interesting information that someone could inquire more about. If nothing else, you can include a question in your message so that the other person has something to respond to.
Lots of people have poor texting conversation skills without meaning to then wonder why they don’t have any dates. If you’re curious and have something interesting to say, you should be fine. Just remember — the Gemini woman will have lots of other options and doesn’t have to respond to you, so you have to be worth her time.
- Sprinkle in jokes and wordplay. Do this whenever it’s possible — don’t make it feel forced. A joke goes a long way when employed properly, and Gemini women will like knowing that you have a sense of humor.No one likes reading messages that sound as if they’re copy-pasted from Wikipedia. Add some personality and humor so that it feels like there’s a real, live person on the other side of the phone.
- Respond within a reasonable amount of time. We get it. You’re busy. But if you take a week to someone’s casual question, it sends the message that you don’t have time for this person. Gemini typically is busy as well, so she can take a while to respond as well, but be upfront that you’re busy and shouldn’t expect quick responses.A little communication keeps people from guessing why you’re so unresponsive and sets up some healthy expectations. She’ll respond to you when she remembers to, so it would be nice to have the same standards you’d like to see from other people.
Match Her Wit
Gemini women are observant, funny, and clever. She’s used to being the funniest person in the room, so she’ll enjoy being with someone who makes her laugh just as much as she makes other people laugh.
You’ll earn some brownie points with the Gemini woman if you can match her wit. She’ll remember you as the person with a great sense of humor and want to keep chatting with you. Everyone loves to laugh — especially Gemini women.
If you’re not naturally witty and funny, though, don’t fret. There’s still a chance for you to win over a Gemini woman, but don’t force wittiness and cleverness if it doesn’t come naturally to you. It’s always easy to tell who’s trying too hard to be funny, and it’s a pretty potent turnoff.
Put Effort Into Your Looks
Looks aren’t everything, but caring about yourself is. How someone grooms themselves is a sign of their personality and mental health. If someone doesn’t care about how they look, they tend to have an apathetic point of view toward themselves or have low self-confidence.
Confident people tend to care more about how they look and dress since someone looking sharp makes them mentally feel sharp. You also tend to look at someone dressed smartly and have a higher opinion of them versus someone dressed in ill-fitting or dirty clothes, even if the two have the same confidence levels.
Gemini of any gender tends to want to put their attention toward things that grab their eye. These can be events, hobbies, items, and even people. If you don’t look like you put effort into yourself, it’s unlikely that a Gemini woman will as well. But that goes for attracting anyone of any sign. People want to date people who show they respect themselves.
Spending a little money in your clothes is, first and foremost, an investment in your self-esteem, with the added benefit that it gives people a higher opinion of you. Eating well and exercising shows that you care about your body and want it to be healthy, with the bonus that you tend to slim down as a result.
Do things that show you care about your health and well-being, and your looks will improve as a result. That sends the sign to the Gemini woman that you care about yourself and are thus worth investing time in.
Flirt Copiously
Gemini women are used to being the outgoing one, showing interest in people they find interesting. They can also charm most partners with their excellent flirting skills. Therefore, they like it when someone is able to play their game with them.
Flirt smartly. This means maintaining the proper amount of eye contact and touching the Gemini woman’s arm when it makes sense in the conversation. If you’re sitting across from each other, put your foot against hers (don’t play footsie, though. No one does that anymore, and it’s kinda weird).
The charmer likes being charmed but finds that lots of people can’t do it. Master the art of flirting, and you’ll hit it big with a Gemini woman.
Play Hard to Get
You should be good at flirting without coming off too strongly. In fact, you should show her that you’re not easily won over just like her. Nothing captures a Gemini woman’s attention more than someone who’s not easy to get.
Wait an extra hour or two to respond to her texts. Put some extra time between your dates. Hold back a little when she flirts with you, and show that though you’re interested in her, she still has a long way to go before she can keep you.
Playing hard to get is hard — especially when you’re catching feelings for the Gemini woman. But controlling your emotions and acting like you’re less interested than you actually are goes a long way. Keep at it, and you’ll eventually move past casual dating to exclusivity.
Be Open-Mindedness and Vigorous
Gemini women love trying new things, whether it’s eating new food, going to a new town, or having a new experience. She doesn’t like people who prefer to have the same kind of day over and over. She doesn’t want a vanilla lifestyle and prefers that her partner doesn’t either.
Gemini women will do better with people who are adventurous and willing to try new things, someone who thinks it’s fun to show up to a new city with no plan and just ready to see where the day takes them. She’ll love being with someone who’s as outgoing and energetic as her to have these new encounters with.
A Gemini woman will feel bored if you end each day sitting on the couch and watching TV. She’ll want those quiet days as well, but that can’t be her routine. Show that you like adding spice and excitement to your life, and she’ll want to join you on all your adventures.
Have Ambition
Gemini, in general, tends to feel purposeless because their indecisiveness leads to a lack of direction in their life. As a result, they admire people who know what they want to do and have a plan to obtain it.
Two directionless people can make a relationship work, but it’s best if at least one party involved knows what they’re doing with their life.
Stay Curious
Gemini women love learning new things, so they’d like to share that curiosity with their partner. If you like to learn new things too, you can always keep on a conversation with your Gemini partner.
Biggest Turnoffs for Gemini Women
Possessiveness
Some people can find a little bit of possessiveness endearing, but not a Gemini woman. She doesn’t like feeling like she’s tied down, so your constant possessiveness will make her feel like you’re a ball and chain. Nothing will make her want to slip out and run away faster.
Possessiveness tends to stem from low-confidence. Be okay with your Gemini partner having different interests and trust that she’ll remain faithful. Anything else and she’ll want to end your relationship.
Stubbornness and Inflexibility
Do you hate having your plans change at the last minute? Then a Gemini woman’s flakiness is going to infuriate you. You have to be able to go with the flow just like she can. Otherwise, the constantly changing plans will drive you crazy.
Thirstiness
There’s a difference between showing interest in someone and coming off as too thirsty. Thirstiness is another term for being too desperate — throwing yourself at the Gemini woman and trembling whenever she shows you attention. Stay cool, and don’t come on too strongly.
She’ll want a bit of a chase, and so she’ll lose interest if she thinks she can win you over easily.
The Desire for a Routine
It’s okay to fall into a routine. In fact, some of the most successful people on this planet set up a routine. But there’s a difference between going for a run before your morning coffee every morning and being okay with living the same type of day for the rest of your life.
Nothing makes a Gemini woman antsier then knowing what her next week will look like. She’ll crave disruption and novelty. She doesn’t want to settle into repetition, so she won’t want a partner who wants that.
Those were some of the best tips to attract a Gemini woman. Use some of these tips, and you’ll increase the odds of winning her over.
