How to tell if a girl likes you is one of those questions that can send shivers of doubt up and down your spine. But so can finding out a girl is bad news for you.
Should you ask for her phone number? See if she wants to go for a movie? Or should you go away?
The Truth…Don’t feel bad if you don’t really know if a girl likes you because they really do come programmed with mixed signals! And don’t beat yourself up if you fall for a girl that’s just plain psycho.
It’s much easier to interpret the relatively simple eat-sleep-sex thought process that seems to control every guy’s mind. But it’s ten times harder to understand the emotional subtleties and complexities of a woman’s mind. Which works twofold in giving you an excuse for missing the signals a girl is hot for you, or just picking the wrong one.
What you interpret as a smile of interest may actually be a sly smirk to keep your distance. When she turns red and starts to stutter, that could mean she’s majorly crushing on you. Experts from Psychology Today say understanding how a person communicates is the key to a healthy relationship. When you understand how someone interprets and processes information, you can better understand their feelings and intentions toward you. And keep in mind that nasty women are often great communicators; at least with what they want you to know.
Practice makes perfect and I’m afraid boys, the art of dating is something you are going to have to perfect by testing the waters. The more you screw up or misinterpret the signals, the closer you are to figuring whether a girl has the hots for you or if it’s just a figment of your imagination. And when you are royally screwing up just think of it as moving one step closer to getting it right.
Here are a few telltale pointers to help you figure out whether you should go for a girl or beat it.
How To Tell If A Girl Likes You
Signal #1 – Laughter And Their Undivided Attention
Men’s Fitness conducted a study and found when a girl is secretly in love with you she will do her best to make sure she’s laughing when you’re within listening distance and she’ll be super attentive with whoever she’s yammering to.
Make note of this subtle observation and file it away.
Take Action Pointer – When she takes a breath you need to slip in and steal the show. Don’t be afraid to find a reason to just say hi.
Signal #2 – She Gets All Dolled Up When She “Might” Bump Into You
When a girl has a crush on a boy she will go beyond the call of duty to look super-hot. She might wear a little more makeup than normal, change her hairstyle, or buy a new outfit or two. So when you notice a girl is doing a little extra with her appearance you can take that as a positive sign.
Take Action Pointer – When you notice this girl is looking extra gorgeous, you need actually tell her how good she looks. It’s a start!
Signal #3 – You Catch Her Sneaking A Peak
Remember it’s not just the guy that’s wondering about whether or not there’s mutual interest. If you catch this girl looking at you shyly and then looking away, you’ve got a winner. This is a very good indication you should “accidentally” bump into her or just go get her number!
Take Action Pointer – Follow your gut with this one. If you “think” she’s been sneaking a peak you should definitely go over and strike up a conversation.
Signal #4 – She’s Flashing Her Pearly Whites
When you lock eyes with her if she’s smiling or even half-smiling, that’s a clear indication she likes you. This can also be a nervous smile, which usually means she really likes you. Try seeing if she’s smiling with her eyes. This may seem a little weird at first but when a girl is smiling with her eyes you can certainly tell she’s interested in you. Something to work on anyway.
Take Action Pointer – If she’s smiling at you I don’t have to tell you that you better return the favor!
Signal #5 – Social Media Frenzy
What better platform than social media is there for a girl to send out subtle signals she’s into you? Look for signs in her tweets and Facebook posts. Initially they will be hard to detect but it shouldn’t take you long to connect the dots and realize she’s actually shouting out to you with her fingers to make your move.
Open up your eyes and look for it!
Take Action Pointer – Make a little time to do some investigative research of your own and see if you can connect the dots.
Signal #6 – She Pretends Not To Notice Other Girls
Thedatereport.com suggests a sure sign that a girl likes you is when she goes beyond the call of duty to make sure she shows no sign of jealousy toward any other girl that comes near you. In fact, she may go so far as to make friends with these girls just to show you she really doesn’t’ care that you might like one of these girls, when it’s secretly haunting her.
Take Action Pointer – If you like this girl make a point of including her in the conversation.
Signal #7 – She Seems To Know A LOT About You
When a girl has a crush on you, she will consciously go out of her way to find out every single thing she can about you. So when you do talk, she can act surprised when you tell her things she already knows. I know that doesn’t make sense so just go with it.
Take Action Pointer – This is a tough one to read but if you notice it you should make an excuse to talk with her more often.
Signal #8 – This Girl Will Make Sure She Shows Up Wherever You Are
You might suddenly notice this girl you are interested in seems to be everywhere all of a sudden. You notice her watching your basketball games. You walk past her on the way to your locker every morning. She even just happens to be at the arena when you are watching your little brother play hockey!
Newsflash…If a girl really wants to make sure you notice her, she will.
Take Action Pointer – If you notice this, take action and strike up a conversation; maybe even ask her out.
Signal #9 – She’s Got All Her Chats On Just In Case…
A girl that likes you will always have every chat possible on that she thinks you might have. Just in case you decide to sign into one particular platform.
Take Action Pointer – If you think a girl might like you, turn on all your chats and see!
Signal #10 – A Girl That Likes You Will Remember Random Facts
You may have said something a month ago that you don’t ever remember saying, but this girls does. She’s made a point of remembering everything she possibly can, even if it’s pretty much meaningless.
Take Action Pointer – Acknowledge her awesome memory and ask her out!
Signal #11 – She Has Your Text On Speed Dial
When a woman likes you, she’s likely going to respond to your texts like lightning. According to Psych Central, when a girl replies to you texts quickly, more often, and in greater detail than you are, it’s safe to say she’s smitten by you.
Take Action Pointer – Make a point of adding a little more substance to your texts.
Signal #12 – This Girl Is Always Waiting
If a girl has an interest in you, there’s a pretty good chance she’s going to hang around and never leave the party before you do. Sometimes she will have a couple girlfriends stay with her for moral support. But ultimately she’s giving you the opportunity to perhaps give her a ride home or ask her to go out sometime.
Take Action Pointer – Take the opportunity to ask her out!
Signal #13 – There’s Suddenly Some Sort Of Sexual Tension
Maybe you are just friends but suddenly there’s a different vibe. A sexual tension that’s very noticeable. Perhaps there’s more reference to intimate talk than usual. This is a signal your relationship is pushing the boundaries and you’re in the driver’s seat.
Take Action Pointer – If you like this girl and want to take it further, then go for it!
Signal #14 – She’s Touchy With You
The mind is a powerful thing and body language doesn’t lie. An affectionate girl that likes to touch you in moderation is a good thing. When a girl is very “touchy” towards you in a physical sense, chances are she’s interested a little more than she’s telling you.
Relationship experts shout it loud and clear that having a physical connection is an absolute in a healthy and loving relationship. When the intimacy is lost so goes the benefits of the union.
Take Action Pointer – There’s a little game you can play to confirm this further. When you are talking to her, make a point of touching her arm or hand and see if she touches you back. Try playfully putting your arm around her and see how she reacts. This will give you the green flag to make your move.
Signal #15 – Beware – She Just Might Try To Set You Up With Another Girl!
This sounds a little weird but if a girl that’s got a crush on you isn’t getting any action from you, she may try and set you up with another girl just to see how you’ll react. Regardless of the reasons, you should be tickled pink she’s putting her reputation on the line to recommend you.
Translation – This means she thinks you are cute!
Take Action Pointer – Take this with a grain of salt and perhaps you want to use this opportunity to turn the table towards her. Tell her you’d rather do something with her and see how she reacts.
On The Flip Side…Sometimes You Just Need To Run!
Fact – According to Ask Men specialists, up to 50% of all marriages end in divorce. That’s just plain scary! Worse yet, studies show if you are relying on friends and family to warn you of a dangerous union, a whopping 88% will say nothing!
So essentially you’re on your own when it comes to finding a woman worth dating.
To Help You Out, Here Are A Few Signs This Woman Is D-A-N-G-E-R-O-U-S!
Signal #1 – She Likes To Play The Sorry Card
Some girls love to hook you by immediately discussing supposed very difficult times in her life; like rape, child abuse, serious illness, or another catastrophic event. Many are extremely difficult to disprove and it’s like walking on glass when it all gets dumped on you.
There’s also the money thing. She might make up sad stories to get a few sympathy dollars from you that will just keep on escalating until you start saying no.
Unfortunately it’s got to be tough love here because the more giving you are the more screwed over you will be.
Take Action Pointer – As much as you may feel genuinely sorry for this girl, you are wise-owl smart to cut the string and run like hell. Trust me, you just don’t want to even think about opening this can of worms.
Signal #2 – Mood Swings To The Extreme
If your girl is loving and super-sweet one minute and the next acts like a raging bull; steam spewing out the nostrils and all, you’ve got some decisions to make. Perhaps she was abused, never loved, or abandoned as a child; all signs of someone extremely needy.
WARNING – If you continue you are in deep trouble.
Take Action Pointer – You don’t deserve to be someone’s punching bag. Get out now!
Signal #3 – She’s A Duggie
Come on, are you nuts? Life is tough enough without dealing with a girlfriend that uses painkillers, alcohol, or other mood-altering substances to bandage her real messed up problems. If some chick you are dating uses any type of drug to deal with life issues, then you will never truly get to know the real person underneath it all.
Take Action Pointer – The sooner you get out of this one the better.
Signal #4 – Internal To The Extreme
Huffington Post experts say if a girl goes so far as to alienate you from your friends and family and try and convince you she’s all you need, then you’ve got a problem on your hands.
Worse still, if she has taken it upon herself to warn off any ex-girlfriends who you are still friends with, it’s time to be cautious.
Take Action Pointer – Having some sort of social balance is critical to good health. This extreme behavior is a signal that you should seriously consider throwing in the towel and moving on.
Signal #5 – Your Gut Says She’s Lying
If your date always seems to be making serious allegations against ex’s and expects you to take her side all the time, you are correct to be suspicious.
It’s pretty tough to actually question her on this stuff but if your instincts are manifesting doubt, you’d better not ignore them.
Take Action Pointer – It’s natural to try and talk ourselves out of listening to our 6th sense. Make a point of listening and taking action. Think of it as preventative medicine.
Signal #6 – Clingy To The Extreme
Sure, it’s flattering to have a girl “all over you.” But there’s a big difference between independent and touchy-feely-lovey and a pest! It’s important that you are very careful here, you don’t get caught up with the fact some girl wants to be around you 24/7.
It gets old fast.
Needy girls are trouble.
Take Action Pointer – If the girl you are dating simply can’t stop texting you, stalking you on social media, and basically acting like your bodyguard, then you are wise to speed walk away – FAST!
Signal #7 – She’s A Bully
If she doesn’t get her way every time you know there’s going to be hell to pay. This girl likes to control and without a second thought will resort to intimidation via emotional manipulation. Yikes! She may like to yell and scream and uses her power to make you feel crappy.
If you stay with this girl you’re going to lose your self-confidence and wind up sad and alone.
Take Action Pointer – Step away from this relationship or you’re going to wind up defending this messed up behavior because you start identifying with it!
Signal #8 – Nut-So Expectations
With this type of date, it doesn’t matter how hard you try or how much you give, it will NEVER be enough! You are expected to drop everything to cater to HER needs, wants, and yes, desires. She comes first and nothing else matters; a closed-deal in her head.
This gal will also complain until the cows come home; which of course they never do.
Newsflash – Nobody will ever make this type of girl happy, so don’t even bother.
Take Action Pointer – Unless you want to be criticized your whole life and constantly put down you’ve got to tell this lady to hit the road.
Signal #9 – Verbal Assaults
If you are seeing a girl that enjoys swearing, humiliating you, screaming, criticizing, and making fun of you in front of your friends and family, you’ve got a real mess on your hands. Because this girl thinks she can get away with this type of asinine behavior, she will keep on trucking.
Take Action Pointer – In time you will actually start believing some of the things this loose cannon is saying about you. Time for you to make like a banana and split!
Signal #10 – Drama Queen
Woman’s Day conducted a study showing that drama can actually be addictive for certain personalities. Some girls get hooked on that adrenaline charge that gets their blood boiling to unreasonable temperatures. The drama card will get played in order for her to avoid getting called on her bullshit, if she doesn’t feel like being intimate, or if she’s starts to feel like the lesser of the two.
Take Action Pointer – This pattern is solidified and will only get worse. And it won’t take long for you to be walking on ice, worried about what you say and what you do for fear of a whopping. Call it quits here before the ball gets rolling.
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Signal #11 – Holds Sex And Affection Hostage
Here’s another danger signal, when your girl is skilled in emotional blackmail. It’s not only about withholding sex, but also the psychological damage it causes. No touch, affection, and emotional support is detrimental to any relationship. Humans are programmed to need healthy physical affection…period.
Take Action Pointer – It’s important that you recognize this signal quickly and abort your mission. Emotional sabotage has no place in a healthy romantic relationship, or any union for that matter. If you see any indication this is present, it needs to end.
Relationships aren’t easy. They are hard work and that includes a lot of tough lessons along the way. Understanding the signals of how to tell if a girl likes you and when you should just stop, drop, and run, are critical to establishing a healthy and fulfilling dating experience.
Are you going to hit the nail on the head every time? Nope. I can tell you right now you are in for some major screw-ups. That’s par for the course. But by using these tactics and strategies you’re going to save yourself a lot of heartaches and avoid a bunch of downright messy situations.
Prevention is everything when it comes to fulfilling relationships.
Remember, dating is supposed to be exciting and fun, not torture!
Time for you to go get the right girl for you!
Alex nduati says
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