Are you sitting around thinking, I want my ex back so bad? If this is the situation that you are in right now at this very moment, please take a deep breath and try to relax because help is available. Trust us when we tell you that if you feel like you can’t concentrate on anything else and you feel like you are going to go crazy, this is actually quite normal. There are many guys just like you going through exactly the same thing, so be assured that you are not alone and everything is going to be okay.
I want my ex back so bad, what can I do?
The good news is that all hope is not lost and there are things which you can in order to improve your situation. Unfortunately, if you are thinking I want my ex back so bad, you may be desperate and starting to panic. This is the worst thing that you can do because many guys act impulsively from fear and end up completely destroying any hope of ever getting their ex back.
Here is a helpful list of some do’s and don’ts which will help you in your mission.
Don’t act impulsively
No matter how bad you may be feeling, don’t act impulsively. Acting on your emotions is the worst thing that you can do as you may end up losing her for good. Right now her friends and family may be against you and if you do anything stupid they will use this to strengthen their case.
Don’t try to make her jealous
Even though you may be thinking, “I want my ex back so bad”, do not come up with elaborate plots and schemes to make her jealous. Stay relaxed and cool at all times and don’t try to provoke her or manipulate her in any way right now.
Don’t try to get her attention
No matter what you do, don’t try to get her attention. This means that you should not post pictures on Facebook when you are with the boys for a night out. Don’t send her drunken texts and don’t try to make her feel guilty in any way, shape or form for anything she has done.
Don’t’ try to control her
It is important to remember that she is a human being and not a piece of property. You will drive her away completely if you try to control her. Do not get upset if she goes out with her friends and lives her life remember she is single. You are not allowed to tell her what she can and can’t do, so resist the urge.
Don’t get paranoid
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It is very easy to get paranoid, especially in the situation which you are in. If you see a picture of her with another guy, remember that this could be her friend’s boyfriend or a guy that is gay. Do not jump to conclusions and start reacting. The worst thing which you can do is react, misinterpret things, get paranoid and read things into situations which may not be there.
Do give her space
One of the best things that you can do for her right now, especially if you really love her is to give her space. Allow her to take the time out for herself that she needs. Think about it this way, if it is meant to be she will come back to you. Give her the time to miss you and think about you on her own, without acting needy or desperate. This will definitely strengthen your chances of winning her back.
Do spend time making the necessary changes
More often than not there are things that your ex has told you that she would like you to change. If these are reasonable things like cutting back on your drinking or focusing more on your career, then now is the time to do them. Take this opportunity to make healthy changes which will improve your life. Even if you don’t end up getting her back worst case scenario you still will have made some great life improvements.
Do focus on you
One of the most common things that guys typically do in this situation is to continually obsess over her. Unfortunately, when you are using all your energy to obsess with her, you lose focus on yourself. Instead of focusing all your attention and energy on her, rather spend the time and energy focusing on you. Take the time out to really reflect on your life and do some much-needed soul searching.
Do show her respect
If you really want her back one of the best things you can do for her is to show her respect. This means that if you are going to be hooking up with other girls make sure that she never ever finds out about it and that it has no way of ever coming back to her. You want to show her the utmost levels of respect in every way possible.
If you run into one of her friends on a night out don’t say nasty things about her, instead greet the person with respect and act in a mature and decent manner. This will all count heavily in your favor plus it is best to keep your dignity intact for your own sense of well-being.
Do make some changes in your appearance
One of the greatest things you can do for yourself is to make small changes in your appearance. This will help you to feel fresh and at your best. You could go out with your sister or your mother and buy some new clothes, or you could consider changing your hairstyle. You could consider getting your teeth professionally whitened as this will make your smile more attractive or you could consider getting a personal trainer and working on your body. Plus if one of her friends sees you, they won’t be able to help but notice how great you are looking.
It is not easy to have to work so hard at trying to get back a girlfriend that was once yours. Although it may seem pointless, it is important to not give up. After all, if she is really worth it, you don’t want to look back on your life one day and always remember her as “the one who got away”.
Hopefully, with some hard work, patience and effort, you can go from “I want my ex back so bad”, to “I got my ex back and now I want to work on keeping her happy forever”.