Where should you go on the first date? If you know the woman, you may want to go someone that you know she likes. You can’t really fail when you do that.
However, if you pick something that is too boring, then you may bore her to death, and you may end up looking like a boring guy who she would rather be friends with than date. Therefore, your first date should be something exciting – and something that stands out in her mind for a long time to come.
How Exciting Should Your First Date Be?
You don’t want to scare the woman, but you do want your first date to be exciting. Why? Studies have shown that exciting activities, which are a little bit (or a lot) scary, produce a substance in our body that is also created when we are infatuated with something or someone. So, when your date releases that substance, there is a good chance that she will turn those emotions towards you.
In short, if you want to quickly get a woman to view you in an exciting way, have an exciting first date.
4 Activities To Create Excitement
1. An Intense Concert
People at concerts get pretty intense. This is not really a scary activity (unless you are able to get tickets for the mosh pit), but it is a high-energy activity that will get the heart pumping and keep you both feeling excited.
Plus, watching each other dance, sing, and have fun is exciting. It is not a typical first date idea, and it forces you to comfortable around each other very quickly.
2. An Activity That You Could Die Doing
If there is something that scares you to death, such as sky diving or bungee jumping, then it is a perfect way to produce those intense emotions that mimic infatuation.
The important thing is to do something that is supervised. I shouldn’t have to say this, but just in case, don’t make your own bungee cord and jump off a bridge! Make sure you are doing something where the chances of dying are there – but very, very slim.
White water rafting, rock climbing, or hiking in cougar territory are also activities that have that ‘I could die’ factor to them, but will be exciting at the same time.
3. A Scary Movie
There is a reason that scary movies have been the perfect date night forever. Scary movies get the heart pumping and adrenaline going and they are perfect to boost up the intensity of a date without putting your life at risk.
Scary to you may not be scary to her, and vice-versa. Your best bet is to let her pick something that really scares her – even if it doesn’t scare you, because your goal is to get her feeling good about you so that you can easily score the second date.
4. Go On Some Rides
Is there a carnival in town? Good! That is a perfect place to go on a first date. You get to hang out, get to know each other, talk, have fun, and go on rides that will bump up the intensity. Roller coasters, rides that turn you upside down, rides that make you want to puke, and rides that leave you in anticipation (haunted house) are all rides that will help you create excitement on your first date.
Brainstorm Some Of Your Own Ideas
Your city or town may not allow you to go to a concert, do something thrilling, watch a scary movie, or go to an amusement park, but there is always an activity that will produce excitement. Even going out for a walk on a country road in the dark can be exciting and a little scary at the same time; although, it may not be the best first date idea if she doesn’t know you that well.
The point is to find something that has a little bit of the fear element in it. Please don’t do anything that could put your life at risk. I had a friend who drove us on thin ice, and that didn’t make me like her more – it may me question whether or not I wanted to get in the car with her again.
In other words, make sure anything dangerous is supervised by professionals so that you win her over on the first date – not scare her away.
