When it comes to kissing a girl or making out, you want to make sure you nail it. In other words, you don’t want the reputation of sucking at making out. No girl will ever want to kiss you!
Never fear. We’re going to be looking what to do and what not to do when you are making out with a girl.
The more practical expert proven information you have in you head, the better.
Make Out Tips For Guys
A kiss should be magical. How to kiss so you don’t disappoint is VIP when it comes to capturing the undivided attention of the girl of your dreams.
Keep Flirting To Minimum
Sure, it’s a positive to do a little flirting to help create the right mood but don’t make the mistake of going crazy. If you tell a girl you love her hair or her shoes, she will love you forever! Just don’t start talking about her nice rack or her cute ass.
You can hug her and tell her she’s cute but leave it at that. When you flirt, you are opening the door to kissing her and that’s fantastic.
Be Wise And Pick The Right Moment
It really is tough to pick the right time to kiss your girl, but it is possible. Usually, the end of the date is the perfect time to move in but make certain you pay close attention to her body cues, you don’t want to mess this up.
Try not to make your first kiss in a public place. And please don’t kiss and tell, that’s just lame.
Begin Slowly
It’s important that you move slowly. Any “fast” moves will get you rejected pronto. When you slowly move towards her, you give her a chance to show you she isn’t ready. Hopefully that isn’t the case but sometimes that happens.
If you make it to her lips safely, be sure your eyes are shut. Kissing with your eyes open for the first time really is freaky!
Tilt your head to the side and brush her lips first. Then if you are feeling it and you haven’t got a slap in the face, kiss her.
Pay Attention To Her Reaction
Be wary of the vibes she is giving. She might want to kiss too deeply off the hop. Or she might just want a little awkward peck to start. Put your hand on her face when you kiss because that will act as comfort.
Hug her while you kiss her because you can’t go wrong with that.
Don’t Forget To Take A Deep Breath
One of the worst things about combining the first kiss with nerves that you actually forget to breathe. If your kiss happens to be extended, make sure your breathe through your nose. While keeping in mind, holding the kiss as long as you can is seriously important.
Just be confident in you and when you need to break off and come up for air, just do it. And make sure you jump right back in.
French Kissing Is VIP
Do you know what a French kiss is?
Well, it’s when your tongues make contact. That’s totally straight up.
What you don’t want to do is get too excited and jam your tongue down her throat. Trust me, no matter how much passion you think you have, that’s going to turn her off.
This is where you probably want to let the girl take the lead…or not. If you are going for it, make sure you are “gentle” and move “slowly.” Explore a little with your tongue and see how she responds.
French kissing is learned and this means it’s going to take lots and lots of practice. And don’t forget to keep in mind it just isn’t for some people.
Show Her The Passion Behind The Kiss
Kiss her like you mean it or don’t kiss her at all. Passionate kissing can still be short and sweet until you get more comfortable with one another. A passionate kiss is where you suck on the lips of your girl.
Ease yourself into this one and make sure you stop when you’re tired. A passionate kiss can’t lie according to Elite Daily.
Just something to ponder.
Test The Waters With The “Talking Kiss”
This one is often reserved for romantic love stories, but you can use it too! This kiss is all about timing and finding your comfort zone.
Newsflash – If you are nervous or uptight, this kiss just isn’t going to work because it’s a bit of a complicated technique.
You’ve got to time the kissing part just right within your conversation. Obviously, she’s in your arms and up close and personal. Maybe you want to read a little poetry to her and kiss her while you’re doing it?
If you are good, you can even use this kissing method when you’re telling a joke. It’s all about capturing her undivided attention with your words and sealing the deal with a magical kiss.
Try it…you might like it!
Never Forget Your Hands
Glamour experts understand the lips are the main attraction but that doesn’t mean you should forget about your hands when making out. When you use your hands, this shows the girl that you aren’t just going through the motions and you really are thinking about her.
The hands offer security and just heighten the effects of the kiss.
Stop The Conversation When It’s Time To Engage
Of course, you need to warm her up with conversation before you dive in for the kiss. But talking too much can interfere with the make out session in the big picture. Particularly, when it’s your first kiss together, make sure you cease fire with the talking and concentrate on the kissing.
Stay Calm – Relax
Whether you like it or not, kissing is stressful, particularly if you’ve had some bad experiences with kissing. Kissing is all about connection so you need to take a chill pill and relax if your kiss is going to leave her wanting more.
Breath Mints Are VIP
No matter what, when you are on a date, always make sure you have some breath mints of minty gum handy. You just never know when the opportunity will arise for some kissing, and there is seriously nothing worse than kiss a gentleman with bad breath – Yuk!
Don’t Ruin The Moment With Criticism
I can’t believe I have to say this but there are guys that will criticize a girl’s kissing ability in the middle of a kiss. Holy crap that’s lame!
Kissing isn’t easy, particularly if you’re nervous. Just think of how you would feel if a girl did that to you.
Keep your “constructive” criticism thoughts to yourself until later. Then you can gently help her improve her kissing technique if you see fit.
Question…Who made you the kissing police?
Figure Out What Your Specialty Kiss Is
The two of you can work together to figure out what sort of signature or specialty kiss you want to have. Perhaps it’s 2 quick pecks and then a nice deep one. Or maybe you just go right in for the French kiss to start.
It really doesn’t matter, just as long as you are both on the same page with your specialty kiss. Just something special between the two of you.
Soft Affection Works
When a guy brushes your hair back behind your ear when he kisses you or he simply glides his hand down the side of your face, that’s hugely attractive. A little safe touching goes a long way when you are looking to nail the art of making out.
Go For The Tender Bite
Be very careful here gentlemen because if you bite too hard and cut her lip, you might be in hot water pronto. Control yourself and don’t get overexcited please.
FACT – Gentle lip biting is sexy when you do it right.
Mixing It Up Is Magical
Humans are creatures of habit and that gets boring fast. When you mix up your kissing techniques, you open the door to keep things exciting and alive and most importantly unpredictable.
Some kisses will work and others won’t. That’s totally okay.
Just make sure you mix it up to keep her on her toes.
Ask Her If You Can Kiss Her
This one almost seems a little too obvious. A girl feels special when you ask her permission before you do something. If you are looking to kiss her and you ask her, this will take the pressure off the both of you.
Just means she is fine with you kissing her and you don’t have to worry about whether she really wants to kiss you or not.
Ask and you will receive. If not it’s time to move on anyway.
Make Sure You Pull Her Hair
Now don’t pull it like you would your brother or sister in a squabble. In the heat of the moment, if you gently tug on her hair that will raise the stakes in the turn-on department.
Apparently, it just makes the kiss feel better.
It’s worth a try, don’t you think?
Let Your Lips Take A Walk
Don’t be afraid to let your lips explore. Kiss her softly first and venture off from there. Perhaps, you want to kiss her neck and face too? Experiment some and follow the cues of your partner to see if you are on track.
Plant One On Her When She Least Expects It
Ask Men reports when you sneak a kiss in unexpectedly, that just adds fuel to the fire; it’s cute and affectionate. So maybe when you are cooking her dinner, you can sneak up behind her and kiss the back of her neck or hair playfully.
What this does is take the tension out of the kiss and make it memorable.
No Gum Chewing Please
This really is gross. Kissing someone with slobbery gum in their mouth – Yuk! There are exceptions to the rules but you better not be one.
Just spit the gum out before you start the make out session and you are good to go.
Change Up Your Destination
Kissing can get old fast. It can lose its zip fast and that’s why it’s important that you change up the venue where you are kissing. Take her someplace super special to make it memorable.
*How about in an elevator?
*What about a park?
The sky is the limit. When you change up your destination for your makeup session, you are going to rock her world and that’s magical.
Now let’s have a look at what not to do when you are kissing…
The Don’ts Of Kissing
Never Begin Your Day Without A Meaningful Goodbye Smooch
Communication is vital in any relationship whether it’s new or seasoned. By kissing your partner, no matter what, before you start your day, you are saying that everything is okay and you’ve got each other’s back.
It’s all very important in any meaningful relationship.
Stop Worrying So Much About your Next Move
Cosmopolitan says this isn’t a game of chess. Stop overanalyzing the kiss because all that’s going to do is steal the thunder from your special moment.
In other words, you just need to stop fretting, let your guard down and go for it.
Don’t Tease Her Too Much Or You Will Come Off As A Royal Prick
It’s okay to tease but if you tease her too much, you will come off as a prick. If she thinks you are just screwing around with her, you are good as gone.
Stop the teasing and give her the kiss she wants, needs and ultimately deserves.
Easy One The Saliva
I once went with this really great guy but when he kissed me, it was like he was pouring cups of saliva into my mouth. Honestly, it was totally disgusting as much as I liked him.
Make sure you aren’t the guy that is drooling throughout your make out sessions or you will find yourself flying solo. No girl is going to put up with that.
Do NOT Lead With Hard Biting
Unless of course she tells you that she wants you to bite her lip hard, just don’t do it. Having a bruised and bleeding lip from a kissing session is really not cool.
If you are biting, just make it a nibble until you are comfy with each other and know what she likes. You can blow it big time if you don’t.
Everybody Loves Passion But Smacking Their Face Against Yours Is Not
Pressure is good with the perfect kiss but if you are suffocating her or making her face hurt, that’s a negative. Just relax and do it all in moderation and you’ll be just fine.
Lean In But Don’t Overdo It
Movie kisses aren’t real. Let’s get that straight right now. When you kiss a girl, you need to lean in but please don’t overdo it. Too much of a good thing just isn’t good. End of story.
Do Not Ignore What Her Mouth Is Saying
Many times the way your girl is kissing, is telling you everything. Pay attention to how they are responding to your kissing advances. If you focus on the girl, you really can’t go wrong.
FACT – Ignoring what her mouth and body is telling you, can equate to disaster.
Never Just Stick With The Lips
One of the major mistakes guys make is to only stick with the lips and never venture further. Doesn’t matter whether it’s nerves or more. You need to make sure you explore a little and take the focus off the lips.
Nibble her ear.
Kiss her neck. (check out our detailed article: 15 Ways On How To Kiss A Girl’s Neck)
How about brushing your lips across her cheek?
Seriously, if you are only kissing her lips, you will never win. Just saying…
Never Ever In A Zillion Years Go From Basic Kissing To Nutty Sex Action
There are guys that will go from kissing for the first time to laying it on heavy to head to the bedroom, all within a few minutes.
Newsflash – Please don’t ever be that guy.
If you choose to do this, there is a very good chance you are going to get smacked and bye-bye girl.
Slow and steady wins the race. Put your needs on hold and pay attention to your girl and you will get further faster.
Do Not Let Your Mind Drift Off
This is a tough one because we all lead very full and complicated lives. If you are smooching with a girl you really like, make sure you don’t consciously let your mind shift to anything outside of the moment, the special moment you are kissing this special girl.
Don’t think about this one too long, just do it.
Kissing Myths You Want To Steer Clear Off
Myth One – Just Humans Do It
Newsflash – Humans aren’t the only ones to kiss loved ones. Meerkats, squirrels and chimps all kiss, just for the record, according to Romper.
Myth Two – There are no diseases with kissing
Yes, there are some germs you might pass along with kissing. Some are very serious like Hepatitis B, Herpes. Just be wary before you dive in for the kiss, for your own well-being.
Myth Three – Kiss Is Always The Smooth Move
Psychology Today reports that after the falling of the Roman Empire, for almost a thousand years romantic kissing seemed to be obsolete? However, when Shakespeare made his appearance, the romance was back.
Myth Four – It Was The French That Created The Famous French Kiss
Sure, this may have a little truth, but let me explain it further. In France, this kiss was called the “Florentine Kiss.” It wasn’t until after World War 1 that the “French Kiss’ gained authority.
Interesting don’t you think?
Myth Five- You Need A Heck Of A lot More Than A Kiss To Get Heated Up
Seriously, if a guy kisses you right, that should be all you need to get ready for so much more. What kissing does is get you warmed up, boosting blood flow and shifting your adrenal gland into overdrive, so you body is ready to take action.
Myth Six – A Kiss Has No Meaning
If you seriously think a messed up first date kiss means nothing, then you are seriously wrong. When you kiss a guy and swap saliva, it means something, genetically speaking.
Myth Seven – Pecks Suck Hind Teat
Sorry, that’s a little bit of farmer’s terminology. Bottom line is you don’t need a crazy full-on make out session in order to reap the rewards of a simple kiss. Pecks are magical and might just hold more meaning than a crazy passionate kissing session.
Just something to think about.
Final Words
Gentlemen, when you are looking to kiss or “make out” with a girl, there are oodles of factors you need to consider.
*Figure out your technique.
*Pay attention to her body cues,
*Have confidence in you.
It’s a trial and error process. Use these making out tips for guys and you will impress the girl in front of you.
Take action and good luck!
