Are you a guy who complains about how evil, mean, or picky women are? Do you think that women want the perfect man with the perfect body, attitude, personality, and intelligence level? Do you always meet mean women?
If you are blaming the women in this situation, you are in trouble because you are just going to keep getting more of the same. Let me tell you why this is really your fault and give you some action steps to start changing it.
It’s You – No Really It Is…
Mean women are out there, but there are a lot of good women too. It is impossible for all women to be mean! There are some women who are stuck in a bad place, just like there are some men who are stuck in a bad place, but there are also women and men who are great. You just are not meeting the good women.
I’m not trying to say that you are a loser and your charm with women is the problem…I am saying that you have a loser mentality.
That means that you look in the mirror and say things like, “I always attract the worst women!” or “All women are bitches and that’s just the way it is!” This kind of mentality will keep bringing you the worst women into your life. Why? Because they are the only women you allow yourself to meet!
When you concentrate on something, you get more of the same. Perfect women may be walking right by you, but because you are so focused on mean women with bad qualities – you only see the worst women.
It’s like when you focus on a car you like and you start to see it everywhere. Or, when you focus on ‘happy people’ and only see happy people everywhere.
There is so much stimuli in life that you can only focus on so much – and your thoughts and focus will be a determining factor on what you see.
How can you solve this? Stop focusing on the evil, picky, and mean women! Start focusing your thoughts towards finding a good woman who is everything you want.
Think about good women and, just as importantly, imagine yourself talking to them. Imagining meeting perfect women will really help you start to shift your mindset and your focus. And, you will be surprised when those kind of women start showing up in your life!
If you are yelling at me right now, saying, “That will never work!” then remember, your thoughts are focused on the fact that you will NEVER be able to consistently meet great women – and you are right – it will never work!
You Are A Creep – Or Something Like That
If every single woman you meet is a bitch, then the common factor is you. It is a simple truth.
In other words, you may be the actual problem in the equation. For instance, you may be creepy, pushing, boring, awkward, or just plain annoying. You may turn women into defensive and mean women before you actually get to show them that you are a good guy at the core.
Or, maybe you are really good at making a good first impression and enjoy women when you first meet them, but on the first date, you realize that they are just another one of the bad ones. Again, if that is a reoccurring problem for you – it may be YOU, not them.
Here is the rule for any negative thing that happens in your life: Once is annoying and twice is a coincidence, but beyond that – you have to look inside yourself to see why it keeps happening.
Getting Real About Yourself
Women want a guy who is positive, fun, charming, and full of laughter. Whether it is in the first impression or the first date, if you are a rude, boring, weird, or negative guy, then women may be turned off by you and, consequently, act in a mean or rude way towards you.
In other words, if your personality is crap, why would you expect women to act in any other way than negative?
You may not know that your personality is making women mean and rude. I get it – we are not always aware of our faults and issues. But you have to admit it to yourself or nothing will change.
I knew one guy who was great at getting a woman’s number, but he was a very negative guy (jerk) at the core. On the first date, he would complain, be cocky, and let women see his real self. After he got rejected (and he always did) he would mope and whine about how much women sucked – and he would add more reasons to his list of why women were simply not worth his time, which made him a bigger jerk! I could clearly see that if he would only admit to himself that he was not a nice guy to women, he would be able to win them over easily. But, he wouldn’t do it. Now, he’s 45 and still single. Is that where you want to be?
Action Tip To Try Right Now
Sit back and ask yourself if you have a reoccurring problem with meeting mean women who are all wrong for you. If you answer yes, try to determine if your beliefs about women are negative or if your attitude towards women is negative. If it’s your beliefs, start working on changing them to something more positive. If it’s your attitude, self-development is in order to become a happier, nicer, and more appealing man.
Learn how to use positive affirmations to help you attract the right kind of women.
Jim says
Most of them are nowadays.
Deege says
I don’t agree, Jim.
Most of the people I deal with on a daily basis are women, and very few are mean. In fact only one or two come to mind out of every woman I have met over the past decades.
Regarding how they are while they are single or dating, that may sometimes vary.
I know some women who after they broke up, or were dumped, or got divorced, seemed angry and mean-spirited towards men. Possibly even blatantly, but perhaps they felt they had reason to be at that point in their life.
Many men act the same way during those times.
Personally, I have always found most married women easier to get along with than single women. Single women seem to be a bit more crazy (emotional rollercoasters) than mean, and often too many mind-games and trying to act like they have no flaws.
I do feel that this blog post can perhaps seem a bit one-sided or read as one-sided (“guys, it’s you”), but I don’t think that is its intent.
The way I see it is: men, be a better person and take any criticism as constructive and use it to improve yourself, regardless.