Navigating February And Valentine’s Day As A Single Guy

Every year lovers celebrate one day, Valentine’s Day, as if it were the only day to celebrate their love. It’s the one day that every restaurant is booked and flowers are almost non-existent for purchase.

The stores stock up on Valentine’s Day gifts, such as chocolate, flowers, teddy bears, and heart shaped this or that. And, everywhere you look ads are there to remind you that Valentine’s Day is just around the corner.

Being a single guy during February and on Valentine’s Day can suck – if you let it. It seems as though the whole thing is more about promoting relationships and how great they are than it is about celebrating love.

It makes single people bitter, angry, and sometimes sad that they do not have someone to celebrate the whole thing with. But that is not really true.

February Is About Romance AND Love

Throughout the years Valentine’s Day celebrations have been different.

Now, we are left with a day that emphasizes buying cards, flowers, and chocolates for the one you love over the celebration of love. It has been commercialized – like so many other things. But if you look past the commercialism of the holiday, you can see that there is much more to it.

Yes, for people in a relationship Valentine’s Day is about romance, which includes presenting romantic gifts, but it is also about love.

Romance and love do not have to go together. You love your friends. You love your siblings. You love the bartender who always gives you a free shot at the bar or the coffee person who sometimes gives you a free coffee.

Love: An intense feeling of deep affection 

If you are a single guy, use February to celebrate the love that you feel towards people who you know and even people who you don’t know. Use it as a month to spread love by making other people feel good about themselves, valued by you, and important in this world.

In short, use the whole month to spread some good vibes around this world. (And then add 11 more months onto that plan.)

On Valentine’s Day Meditate On That Love

If the idea of spreading love seems girly to you – stop, and remember that love is a human emotion, not a girly emotion. And remember, all men have a feminine side to them because without it they would be unbalanced in this world of yin and yang.

If that doesn’t work for you, remember that women love a man who can express love and thoughtfulness to them, so it is a viable way to attract women to you and keep them around.

The reality is that a day when so many people celebrate love is a great day to add positive energy to that celebration and multiply the good feelings that are traveling around the world.

Instead of bashing couples who are holding hands, kissing, and expressing their love to each other, try to feel good for them.

Instead of going out, getting drunk and singing songs about how great it is to be single, hang out with people that you really do love and be mindful of the way you feel about them and around them.

Instead of hooking up with women just for the sake of being with a woman that night and not being (or feeling) alone, hook up with a woman for the sheer pleasure of being close to a female.

Celebrating the ‘love side’ of the day will help you, and everyone around you, feel better on Valentine’s Day.

Focus Is A Powerful Thing

Focusing in on something can make you miserable. I was single once, and I remember how strongly people try to focus on the fact that being single is SO much better than being in a relationship – even though they ended up bitter and angry on Valentine’s Day.

Even I used to drink and dance around singing the songs that emphasized how stupid relationships were. But I didn’t really believe that. My focus was always on the fact that I was alone, not that I was grateful to be alone.

If you are stressed about being single, remember that it is actually not that bad! Being single allows you to completely focus on yourself and your needs, wants, goals, desires, etc.

In the end, don’t focus on the fact that you do not have someone to celebrate the romantic side of February and Valentine’s Day. Doing that is pointless. Just be grateful that you have the ability to love. That gratitude will help you see that you can, and should, be happy during this time.