Women are on Facebook. There is no doubt about that. You could probably go through the friend list of a friend and find a whole bunch of women that look interesting to you, and then try your best Facebook pick-up lines through a message. But should you really pick up women on Facebook? Let’s talk about the pros and the cons and then you can decide.
The Pros Of Picking Up Women On Facebook
Obviously, the biggest pro is that it is free. You don’t have to go to an online dating site and pay a monthly fee just to browse through profiles that may or may not interest you.
You can look at their picture and profile for free, message for free, chat for free, and share pictures for free. Facebook doesn’t cost you a dime, and this makes it an ideal place to pick up women.
The second pro is that it is relatively easy to find women.
Simply click on a friend and look through their friend list…
Click on a woman that looks appealing…
Continue process until you have found at least one woman that you would like to get to know better…
Now you have found a woman.
Okay, so it’s free and finding women is easy, but there are a few cons that you may want to consider before you message that woman.
The Cons Of Picking Up Women On Facebook
Facebook is about appearance…bottom line. I know I always say that appearance doesn’t matter to women – but that is when you have a chance to talk to them face-to-face and impress them with all of your other charms.
On Facebook, women look at your picture.
- If it is off-putting, chances are they will not reply.
- If there is no picture, chances are they will block you.
- If you are scary looking, you will also get blocked.
Facebook makes it very easy to reject people. Even the people I was nice to in person were blocked by me on Facebook. I didn’t want to chat with certain people or know about their lives (or have them know about mine).
In short, you will get rejected a lot if your face does not appeal to many women. It’s so shallow to say, but it is true.
Just like in an online dating profile, you can make your picture the most appealing picture possible. But remember, if you put a ‘too good to be true’ picture up (think Photoshop), when women meet you, or see other pictures of you, they are going to know what you really look like on an average day.
Facebook is not really a place women go to get picked up. Women go there to talk to friends, catch up on people’s lives, and get in on the gossip.
What that means is that if you try to talk to a woman who is just trying to do regular Facebook activities, then you may annoy her – no matter how great your picture is.
In other words, you could end up losing your chance with her before you even get a chance. She may block you or she may just ignore you, but either option doesn’t bode well for your chances with her.
I’m not saying that you will always strike out with women on Facebook (although it is much more of a possibility than always succeeding with women on Facebook.)
I’m saying this: Remember, there is a time and a place for everything. You may send a message to a woman at the right moment on Facebook, but chances are she is not on the site to look for guys and you will ruin your chances with her in the future.
Facebook is not reality. On my other blog, I wrote an article about why you should close your personal Facebook account – and I stand behind my reasons, especially number 3.
There are very few people on Facebook who post real life stuff. Most people post only:
- The best pictures
- The best attitude
- The best updates
- The best news
- The best of everything
In other words, you are seeing the best of women, which can cause you to pick up women on Facebook who are not really as they appear. This can be a huge hassle down the line.
Online dating sites are a little different in this area. Many women are upfront about what they want, because they don’t have to worry about all of their friends judging them.
On Facebook, all of their friend’s judgments play a factor in what they write, post, and interact with.
And the odd woman that doesn’t care will probably not come off as attractive to you. She may post real pictures and real feelings and real concerns….and that can be too real for anyone to initially take on!
Should You Go Ahead And Try Your Luck Anywase?
You decide if it is worth your effort.
Just remember, there is a high chance of rejection on Facebook. Don’t take it personally if you try and get rejected. Women are not there to be picked up and your profile may not appeal to her (even though you may be the perfect guy for her.)
If you decide to go for it, read ‘5 Tips To Attract Women On Facebook‘