6 Ways To Completely Sabotage Your Success With Women

Why can’t I get a girlfriend?! Does that sound like you?

Recently, I’ve had some guys contacting me about their lack of success with women. Unfortunately, they don’t seem to understand that what they are doing in their own life is sabotaging their success with women, and in order to increase their chances of getting a woman, they need to stop doing those things!

The biggest problem is that many men focus on the wrong things. They try to impress women on a date or show off their material possessions, but this is not the way to really find success with women for the long run.

6 Ways To Completely Sabotage Your Success With Women

So, what are you doing wrong? Why can’t you get a girlfriend? Take a look at the following 6 ways that men tend to destroy their chances at getting a girlfriend.

1. Talk To Yourself Negatively

Even if you don’t call yourself a loser in front of women, it will still destroy your success with women now and in the future. Why? Because when you call yourself a loser, you believe you are a loser, and that attitude shines through to women who then also believe you are a loser.

It works the same with any negative thing you tell yourself. When you complain about yourself or talk to yourself negatively, you paint yourself in a negative light to women.

How can you expect women to see you as a great guy when you don’t even think you are a great guy?

The bottom line is that what we believe about ourselves, we portray to other people. It is that simple. How you talk to yourself affects your mood and behavior, which affects other people.

A fix? Try talking to yourself as another person. While it is easy to say, “I’m a loser,” You would never ‘you’ are a loser to someone else. You may say things like, you can do better than that or what do you have to lose or you are something special!

And, as I always suggest, start using affirmations in your life!

2. Go Against Your Morals

Do you do things that are against your morals? Do you have a standard of what is right, but go against that standard often? If you do, then this could be hurting your success with women simply because you view yourself as less of a man.

I’ve talked about how masculinity is very important to attract women – but it is also important to your self-worth.

The truth is that sleeping with many women or having a muscular body are not the top signs that tell you that you are a man worthy of good women. According to one study, the most important attribute of masculine identity was being seen as being  a man of honor. This held true for people living in the United States, France, Spain, Brazil, and Mexico.

3. Don’t Be In Control Of Your Life

The second most important attribute to being masculine, according to the above study, was ‘being in control of your own life’. This applied to the United Kingdom, Italy, and Germany. But, I believe it is an important aspect to feeling confident and capable no matter where you live.

When you are not in control of your life, you can be stressed, angry, hurt, or confused. All of those attributes are likely going to hurt your success with women in one way or another.

For instance, you may sulk as you go about your day doing things you hate to do. That sulking is not something women are looking for in a boyfriend or partner for life, and they will automatically be turned off by it.

It’s time to take your life by the reins. Don’t let other people define who you are. Be who you are. Go after what you want. And show women that you are capable of making your own decisions for your happiness.

4. Stereotype Women

Many women have similar characteristics. Being feminine often comes with being a female, and that makes women display feminine traits and be compassionate, loving, tender, and intuitive.

However, not all women are the same. And guess what? Not all women fall into those stereotypical ideas of what a woman is supposed to be like anymore.

If you expect women to:

• Get married
• Have kids
• Put you first above themselves
• Be a good cook
• Be good with children
• Not care about their career success
• Not have their own passions, interests, and likes
• Act soft and tender all the time
• Hide their true emotions

Then you are in trouble!

Once a woman sees that you cannot accept her for who she is, you are going to be out the door. Women don’t have to stick around with that type of guy anymore.

Years ago, a woman had to love her man the way he was and conform herself to be what she thought he wanted her to be. Now, more and more, women are throwing that stupid ideology to the curb and being themselves – whoever that is.

You can desire a certain type of women. That’s fine. But don’t label women as having to be the way you picture them to be. That will turn them off and send them running, and if you don’t grasp this concept now, you will be wondering why can’t I get a girlfriend for a long time to come.

5. Don’t Try To Understand Women

I just got finished saying that women are much different than they used to be, and that is true! But, women still have underlying feminine needs.

This is so easy to do! Most of the popular dating gurus out there use common knowledge about what women need and how they think, and then teach men how to trick women using that information. While this works, these tricks can do more harm than good if you really don’t understand a woman’s needs and just rely on pick up tricks that work to be successful with women.

YOU have to learn what women want and how they think.

When a man understands what a woman needs, and gives it to her, she is happy and returns the favor.

When a man doesn’t understand what a woman needs, and withholds it from her, she is unhappy and that dissatisfaction makes her push him away.

Women do have more of an intuitive side, and they can tell if you ‘get’ them or not. They know if you understand what they really need by the way you walk, talk, and act, and they make their decisions about you based on those things.

In other words, women do not want men who do not want to know how to please them. So, learn what women want, and you will easily show women that you understand and have the ability to make their life happier. Trust me, this will benefit you now and in the future when you get into a relationship.

“If a wife is happy in a marriage, she will try hard to create a positive experience for her husband.” Yahoo Health

6. Don’t Show Sexual Interest

No, you should not walk up to a woman snorting and saying “boobies”, but you should exhibit some sort of sexual interest towards women that you are interested in. Why? Because sexual tension is one HUGE aspect of attraction and getting a girlfriend. We look for partners that we are going to be sexual intimate with, instinctively to reproduce, but also for pleasure.

“One of the key components of chemistry is sexual tension. Not attraction…” Dr. Nerdlove

In other words, if you try to always be a gentleman, and make a woman only feel like you are interested in her brain, not her boobs, then you are friend material, not dating material.

The trick it to find the line between horny jerk and not-at-all interested. The best way? Use your body language to show a woman that you are interested in her.

For instance:

• Open your eyes slightly wider when you first see her to show her that you are excited to see her.
• Lightly touch the small of her back and guide her through a door.
• Give her a smile reserved for people you are attracted to (you instinctively know how to do this.)
• Let her catch you BRIEFLY looking at her lips. Not her boobs, her lips.
• Let your hand linger for an extra second during a handshake.

Success With Women Goes Beyond The Common Things

I can’t stress this enough. You have to be happy in your own life and be happy with the man you are before you can experience true success with women. If you are wondering why you can’t get a girlfriend, one or all of the above reasons is probably a huge factor blocking your success.

If you want to attract women, work on your own happiness – starting now. Yes, learn about women and what attracts them, impresses them, and makes them want more – but, focus on your personal well-being.

The happier you are with yourself, the happier women will be with you.