The Scorpio man is born between October 23 and November 21 and is perhaps the most misunderstood of the Zodiac signs. A Scorpio’s personality can range from extremely focused to distracted and disconnected in the blink of an eye.
Scorpions (as Scorpios are commonly called) possess the passion of the hot planet, Mars, and the coolness and distance of the planetoid, Pluto, all in one sexually-charged package.
If your man is a Scorpio, this may sound familiar. Have you ever wondered how he could be sweet and sensitive one moment and a completely different person the next?
For instance, a Scorpio can treat you like a queen for an entire evening but then turn into a jealous monster if a male friend from work texts you after dinner. They’re not trying to confuse you; it’s just part of their complex personality.
What Makes the Scorpio Man Tick?
If you’re nodding your head right now (or shaking it in frustration), keep reading. This article will explore the true nature of a Scorpion, including the good and bad sides. It will seek to answer several questions that have likely entered your brain at some point in your relationship.
To begin, let’s take a look at the most common positive and negative characteristics of a Scorpio man.
A typical Scorpio male is:
- Empathic
- Sexy
- Adventurous
- Logical
- Passionate
- Independent
- Loyal
Although those sound great, a true Scorpio can also be:
- Overly Sensitive
- Controlling
- Jealous
- Secretive
- Suspicious
- Moody
Imagine living in a Scorpio’s head with all of those conflicting emotions racing around. Even though some see the Scorpio’s habit of being somewhat controlling as negative (and it can be at times), they tend to be good with their money and don’t make a lot of impulse buys.
Scorpios are also fiercely loyal and will naturally recall every tiny detail about your relationship, even if you don’t want them to. They can be overly sensitive and tend to obsess over their appearance. Many Scorpio males have body image issues. However, they are also empathic and will take care of you when you need them most.
With a Scorpio male, you take the good with the bad, often in the same day (or hour or minute). A Scorpion can shift moods as quickly as he can shift gears. He often moves from one viewpoint to the exact opposite in the blink of an eye. Sometimes you won’t know what hit you, but if you’re patient, he’ll calm down and find his center again.
Is it Hard to Love a Scorpio?
Your Scorpio man strives to be loyal and empathic, and yet can be jealous and suspicious in the next breath. These conflicting characteristics make him hard to live with, let alone love. That doesn’t mean he’s incapable of love. On the contrary, when a Scorpio falls in love, he does so with his whole heart.
Scorpio men tend to partner well with Cancer, Taurus, Capricorn, and Virgo mates, but Pisces is by far the best match. Although Pisces and Scorpio are very different (they’re opposites on the Zodiac), they complement each other’s failings well.
Pisces is affectionate, patient and understanding. This provides Scorpio with the security and happiness he needs in a relationship. In turn, Scorpio provides loyalty and comfort that his partner might find lacking in other relationships.
Cancer is similar in many ways to Scorpio. Although both have strong, deep feelings, they express them in different ways. Cancers are frank and honest. They will say whatever enters their minds without an afterthought. Scorpios, however, tend to hide their feelings and often feel resentful as a result. As long as the two maintain open lines of communication, they meld together nicely. If not, the relationship won’t last.
Scorpio and Taurus are both lacking when it comes to effective communication skills, but they have various other traits in common. In some cases, they will develop a love-hate relationship with each other. However, if they can learn to communicate more openly, they make a great match.
Capricorns mirror Scorpios in some aspects of their lives, but they tend to hold back with their emotions more if that’s even possible. Whereas a Scorpio will fly off the handle from time to time, Capricorns usually go with the flow of the situation. A Scorpio might mistake this for lack of commitment or sincerity on the part of his Capricorn partner, but it’s simply a trait that requires a bit of an explanation. If the two can come together and communicate their differences, they can make a solid go of it.
Virgos are practical and don’t tend to be very impulsive or adventurous like their Scorpio counterparts. To a Scorpio, this might at first appear to be a sign of weakness. However, the Scorpio’s caring nature will take over, and he’ll soon find himself drawn to the emotional stability and organization a Virgo partner can bring to his life.
Can You Trust Your Scorpio Mate?
When a Scorpio man falls in love, he goes off the deep end. He is devoted and passionate when he’s with you. In short, he goes all in. Unfortunately, his love can sometimes take the form of distrust and insecurity. Although he will strive to care for you and treat you like a queen, he may be slow to warm up to you at first.
Scorpios are well known for their secrecy. If your man doesn’t fully trust you, he’ll keep his heart guarded. It’s not that he doesn’t want to be honest with you (quite the opposite, actually), but his sensitive nature can lead him to fear rejection or betrayal in response to what he tells you. Until he knows you better, he’ll lock down his feelings.
Given his propensity to avoid sharing his deepest thoughts, you might be wondering if you can trust him as well. The simple answer is “yes.” Scorpio men are quite loyal and therefore, highly trustworthy. As long as you are willing to share your feelings with him, over time, he will return the favor.
Be warned, though; dishonesty is one of the things the Scorpion hates. It can cause him to react impulsively. He’ll eventually calm down, but significant damage may be done. If you have something to tell him, don’t wait. Get it out in the open as soon as possible.
You don’t have to tell him every secret in your closet, but being forthcoming from the very beginning of the relationship helps him get to know the real you.
What’s With the Jealousy?
If you’re dating a Scorpio, you’ve probably seen the jealousy monster rear its ugly head from time to time. With his controlling and suspicious nature, your man is wired to be jealous of even the most benign situation. When a Scorpio commits to you, he becomes your protector.
If he sees another man showing interest, the logical, rational side of his brain shuts down, and all he sees is red. Most Scorpios know they exhibit this behavior and consider it a crutch. However, there’s really no way for them to fight this reaction. It is hard-wired in their brains.
If a Scorpio thinks you are looking at other men, you’ll experience a whole other side of him. There’s a reason the scorpion is his animal sign. If you betray him (even if only in his mind), he will not hesitate to sting. It’s best to know this in advance of starting a long-term relationship with a Scorpio because it can be a serious stumbling block.
What is a Scorpion Like in Bed?
There’s a lot to discuss when it comes to a Scorpio’s sexuality. To put it simply, Scorpio men are extremely sexual creatures and don’t hold anything back in the bedroom despite their often-cautious nature outside it. Scorpios are known for their sexual energy, which can be overwhelming to some.
Remember, when a Scorpio man falls in love, he becomes hyper-focused on that relationship. You may see him as adventurous and exciting to be around. However, he might also be insecure and have body image issues. These traits combine to produce a man that puts everything he has into pleasing his partner in bed.
The down side to this (there’s a down side?!) is that giving his all in the bedroom can often produce even more insecurity in non-sexual situations. Your Scorpio mate may feel as though he has exposed himself to you and withdraw to protect his feelings.
The best way to counter this behavior is to be responsive to his sexual prowess and let him know how much you enjoy your intimate time together.
Will Scorpios Accept Constructive Criticism?
If you retain anything from this article, this should be it. One of the most frustrating traits of Scorpios is their inability to deal with criticism that is not carefully worded and delivered gently. You’ll have to be patient and understanding to deal with this particular characteristic.
Because Scorpios are often overly sensitive, they need you to phrase criticism towards them in a meaningful, logical and constructive manner.
If you find yourself blurting out people’s failings with little regard to their feelings, you will struggle to get along with a Scorpio man. If he’s done something that bothers you or causes you pain, you should certainly tell him. However, the way you tell him will make the difference between acceptance and action, and a major blow-up. A Scorpio scorned will sting; just keep that in mind.
Remember, once a Scorpio has committed fully to you, his only desire is to make you happy. He will respond to constructive feedback logically and make every effort to do something about the issue. Treat him kindly when you have a complaint regarding his behavior, and you will both be rewarded.
How Do You Tame a Scorpio?
You don’t; instead, you hop on and enjoy the ride. Many people find themselves drawn to Scorpios initially because of their sensitivity on the one hand and adventurous nature on the other.
If you’re one of those people, you’ll probably stay with your Scorpio for the same reasons (although sometimes you could do without all the sensitivity). If you’re in love with a Scorpio, just be prepared to carefully side-step when one of his negative traits pops up.
Remember, this is his nature. Everyone has negative characteristics of their personality that challenge them from time to time.
Scorpio men make excellent lovers, partners, and friends. They can be tough to understand and overly sensitive at times, but many water signs exhibit those behaviors. It’s just who they are. If you’re 100% honest and kind to your man, you’ll find yourself in a loving, secure relationship that can withstand the long, bumpy road of life that lies ahead.
