No doubt girls are often mysterious and that makes it much more difficult to figure out whether or not a girl has her eye on you and is just playing the shy card, or she just isn’t interested.
Here we shed some light on this dilemma with expert proven pointers that tell you whether that shy girl really does like you.
Normally, it’s the guy that tends to make the first move and that’s a heck of a lot of stress, particularly if the girl is shy.
Let’s get started figuring out the mysteries of the shy girl!
Signs a Shy Girl Likes You
Suddenly She Will Be Dressing Differently
Trust me with this one. If a girl really likes you, she will put her best foot forward to try and impress you with her wardrobe. So if you happen to notice the girl you like is dressing up a notch or two, you need to take that as a signal she likes you.
Out Comes The Makeup
Whether this girl normally wears makeup or is Plain Jane, if she likes you, she will put in a little extra effort in the makeup department. Pay attention to see if she’s getting her face all prettied up for you or not.
Beware that true shy girls normally don’t wear any goop on their face because they don’t want to draw any attention to themselves. However, if you notice she is wearing a little bit, that’s a pretty strong indication she really likes you.
When You Stroll By Her Friends You’ll Feel The Giggling
A sure sign a shy girl likes you is if you happen to walk by some of her friends and you hear the “hush-hush” whispering and giggling. Try not to get worried because this just means her friends already know she likes you and they are obviously happy about it.
Go with your first gut vibe and you’ll do just fine.
Teasing Freely
If her friends are openly teasing you and poking fun at you then you better get set to get together for real with this girl. Her friends are likely just fishing for information to see if you do plan to actually ask her out or not.
The balls in your court with this one, just take it as a positive sign.
She Asks To Help You In Little But Meaningful Ways
Some girls take time to warm up to the fact they actually like a guy and there’s nothing wrong with that. And one way she might show you she likes you is to ask you in a very subtle way whether you need help with certain things.
She might offer to help you with your project or pick something up for you. This just says she is searching for ways to spend more time with you, minus the pressure.
You better take action with this one.
Caught In The Headlights
If a shy girl likes a guy, one way she’s going to show this is to get caught looking at you. Whether this is intentional or not really doesn’t matter because if she didn’t like you, she wouldn’t be paying any attention to you, right?
When you catch her doing this, please approach her and maybe even ask her out. Sometimes you’ve just got to seize the moment and go for it.
She Loves Your Cheesy Jokes
Girls know that a man needs his ego stroked from time to time and laughing at your jokes is one way to do this. If a girl is laughing at your jokes, it just means she’s paying attention and wants to learn more. That’s pretty magical if you ask me.
Talk To The Hand
This is a weird but true signal a shy girl might like you. If she starts ignoring you, this means she either really likes you or has a hate-on for you. Maybe she’s avoiding you because she is just too afraid of rejection?
This is something you’re going to have to figure out for yourself.
The Texting Just Doesn’t Stop
Thank goodness for technology in this instance. You see, most shy girls don’t want direct contact immediately and that’s why texting is so great. After she gets your number and starts texting, she can start to get comfortable without becoming too vulnerable.
This seriously means she’s got feelings for you or she just wouldn’t bother.
Go with it and who knows what tomorrow will bring.
Social Media Following
When a shy girl is following you on your social media accounts, this is a bright sign she likes you. This is her way of trying to get your attention without taking too much risk.
Super cute and super sweet.
Your Friends Slowly Become Her Friends
If a shy girl really likes you, chances are she’s going to try and get to know your friends before she reaches out to touch you. Again, she is looking to get closer to you without too much attention, and this route works.
Also, if she can find a way to get your friends to like her, this is another avenue she can use to let them know she really does like you. Kind of weak if you ask me, but that’s just the way shy girls seem to roll.
This Girl Seems To Be Much More Interested In Your Passions
One clear-cut sign a shy girl likes you is she is going to make sure she makes an appearance at the things that matter to you.
-If you play basketball she will show up at your games
-If you go to a certain coffee shop regularly, she will start to go there too
-If you work at the grocery store, she will suddenly start shopping there on your shifts
All this girl is trying to do is show you that she is open to liking the things you do and she really is trying to get you to notice her.
This is going to help make your connection stronger…Way to go!
Twirls Her Locks Around You
When a girl is playing with her hair, she is unconsciously flirting with you in a safe way. This doesn’t mean she wants you to come up and talk to her face to face just yet. But it does mean she wants you to notice her.
Accidentally On Purpose She Makes Physical Contact
It really is tough to flirt with a girl that’s shy. If a shy girl finds a way to touch your arm, shoulder or back, she is definitely into you. How much will only unfold in due time.
This Girl Is Into Teasing
Back in the day I used to punch the guy I liked – Lol. Now it seems if a shy girl likes a guy, she will start teasing him to capture his attention.
If this girl is playfully teasing you, it means she really wants to flirt with you but doesn’t want to make it too obvious. Weird but true.
She Makes A Point Of Complimenting You
Many experts concur this is the most simple and effective signal a girl is into you. She will give you subtle little compliments that give you the heads up she really does like you. Beware…These compliments aren’t going to be too dramatic or in your face because that’s not how shy girls operate.
A clear-cut signal she wants to know more about you, for you.
Hidden Signals A Girl Really Likes You – Even If She’s Giving You The Cold Shoulder
What you need to understand straight up even if the shy girl isn’t giving you the time of day, you can’t assume she’s not interested in you head to toe.
The Truth – Most men are not good at figuring out whether or not a girl likes them. In other words, they fail in figuring out if the shy girl likes them or not and why.
Men get confused because women think differently than guys and usually that leaves the men guessing, unable to read the signals.
Here are a few concrete signals most guys miss that tell them straight up a girl is into them, shy or otherwise.
She Hold the Eye Contact Longer than Normal
This isn’t just about making the critical eye contact. When a girl holds the eye contact longer than normal, you know for sure she is interested in you on more than a friend level.
Don’t take the chance and assume she isn’t interested, because that’s going to come back around and bite you hard in the butt!
Think positive here and when a girl gives you “that look” and holds it, you better step up to the plate and take action or you will regret it…just saying.
Her Eyes are Smiling
When a shy girl smiles with her eyes, from the inside out, she is telling you with solid body signals that she likes you.
Smiling is a pretty obvious sign a gal likes you but when her eyes are smiling, that’s just plain magical. This is past the point of just being friendly and you need to pick up on this.
Again, you need to follow your gut on this one and go for it!
She Sticks Close to You
If you’re in a hot spot like a bar or party, and a girl gets close to you and makes sure she stays close. Shy girls are normally less likely to start the conversation with a guy, so instead they make themselves “available.”
They set you up to notice them and make it easy for you to approach them.
When a girl strolls up beside you in a bar, take that as an opportunity to start chatting or perhaps even buy her a drink.
The Touches are Perfect
If you are at the stage where you actually make physical contact, a gal that likes you might reach out to touch your hand, chest or back.
When you crack a joke, she will use this as an opportunity to playfully touch you.
NEWSFLASH – If a girl likes you, she might also “accidentally” run into you at a bar or party…be ready.
Get Set for the Dance Move
When a girl likes you, she might start dancing like there’s no tomorrow to capture your undivided attention. I’m not saying this is always the case, but more often than not it is. The same sort of thing as a guy typically trying to show off his money, sports or business skills to you.
Make notice that if the girl you have your eyes on is with a pack of girls and she’s dancing with herself, that’s your signal to get over there and strike up a conversation. In the least, you need to take notice of her and make sure she knows it.
The Feet Just Never Ever Lie
This all comes down to trusting the experts in body language and beyond. These are the people that put their heart and soul into studying the natural tendencies of people who are romantically involved, or at least have the potential to.
What these specialists say is that if a girl’s feet are pointed toward you, even if she’s not gazing into your loving eyes, then she’s likely interested in you. Open your mind to this, and add it to your signals of a girl liking you.
The Talk Connection is Still in Full Force
It really doesn’t matter what stage you are at. If a girl is conversing with you, returning your texts and phone calls, well, she’s telling you that she wants to learn more.
If she wasn’t interested, she wouldn’t be paying any attention to you.
Unfortunately most men are programmed to read too much into things and assume the worst. Stop focusing on her words, and take comfort in the fact she has replied to your emails and texts. That should be enough to show you she’s interested.
Don’t make the mistake of psyching yourself out. If she is paying any attention to you, then she’s interested and it’s up to you to take action and see where it leads.
On the flip side of the coin, it’s important you are aware of obvious in-your-face signals a girl just isn’t into you at all!
Concrete Signs She’s Not Into You
Love Panky experts have some practical take-action advice that will help you see for real when a gal just isn’t into you.
What does that mean?
It’s time to move on.
I’m not about to argue the fact that girls are ridiculously crazy sometimes to figure out…a puzzle if you will.
There aren’t any two women who are exactly alike and the rules change with each one, which of course makes it hard for boys to figure out.
However, there are a few telltale actions that signal to you a girl is really not into you and that means you need to kick her straight to the curb and back off.
You deserve, never forget that.
There are girls that give you the signals right out of the starting gates they aren’t interested in you, and others are subtle and extremely indecisive. Sorry about that, but that’s just the way the cookie crumbles.
The Eye Contact Just isn’t There
When a girl can’t actually look you in the eye, even for a millisecond, you’ve got to process that as her not liking you.
If a girl looks at you the same way she is looking at her girlfriends, then I’m sorry, she’s just not into you.
However, if you notice she is looking at you differently than everyone else, you might still have a chance.
Excuses are Her Norm
This one just totally sucks. Many women are just too afraid of hurting a boy’s feelings to openly tell them they are not interested. This is a bit of the maternal instinct kicking in but that doesn’t make it right.
If she is one for making excuses about seeing you, then you need to take action and move forward without her.
Remember, you deserve.
She Seems Bored or Distracted
If you are finally out on a date with her and she seems preoccupied or bored with you, then she’s just not that into you. If she has her arms crossed, is looking away from you or leaning outward, this very well could be a pity date.
Don’t let her get away with it please. If you notice she is just not paying attention to you, then you need to take a stand and shift forward without her.
Trust me, if she really does like you, she will come running.
It’s Never Ever You with Her Solo
One extremely straight forward signal a girl really isn’t into you is that she feels she has to bring her friends all the time. In other words, she’s not willing to meet you one-on-one.
That’s just totally lame.
When she has friends with her that help her feel less guilty about going out with you, but not really liking you the way she should.
Not fun, but sometimes that’s the reality.
You are Simply Introduced as a Friend
This one is just awful but more often is a solid signal this gal isn’t interested in who you are.
Don’t feel too bad though because if this “friend” introduction is delivered with a wink, giggle or smile, it just might mean that she’s a little shy and afraid of commitment, but still sees potential.
That’s a good sign.
She’s Always Talking About Other Men
This one can mean a couple of different things. She’s either not into you at all, or she just doesn’t want you to compete with the competition.
Both of which are nasty bad by the way.
She Loves Wearing Her Lounge Clothing
I’m not going to lie, some women just aren’t going to get dolled up for anyone. However, most girls are looking to make an effort in their appearance when they are trying to impress a man.
This might mean they put on a dress, get their hair done, or perhaps even put on some makeup.
It really doesn’t matter but if a girl is willing to see you with her hair uncombed, wearing her scrubs with no makeup, it’s safe to assume she just isn’t into you at all.
She Just Doesn’t Like You Sending Her Gifts, Period
If a girl is questioning the little gifts you give to her, then she’s not into you, sorry. If she likes you, she is going to blush and thank you for it whether she is comfortable or not with your gesture.
She Talks About the Guy of Her Dreams to You and it’s Nothing Like You
Most women aren’t going to tell you straight up you aren’t the one they want. They are going to skirt around the issue.
If this girl you have your eyes on, starts talking to you about the guy she thinks is perfect, including the body type and salary, and that’s not you, then you need to dig deep and accept the fact she does not want you.
Final Words
If you are looking to capture the undivided attention of that shy girl, you are going to have to pay attention to all the signals.
*Pay attention to her body language and what she’s saying.
*Also make sure you are aware of the signals a girl just simply isn’t interested in you.
Again it’s a puzzle. Any relationship in the beginning is.
Use these tips and tricks and make sure you find what you deserve.
Isaac says
What does it mean if I told her “I’ve never found anyone worth until I found you” and she says “trust me I’m not worth it I’m a downer all the time”
Kate says
It may mean that she is an unhappy or depressed person or she has low self-esteem and believes you could do better than dating her.
Doo. says
Boys？！I’m just a shy girl.(◍•ᴗ•◍)
colby says
hi so the girl I like is not a very shy person she is one of the popular girls and when we play basket ball she always knocks me down. What dose that mean.
Jaimz says
Hi, i only see this girl once a week as thats the only opportunity when we are around each other but she’s extremely shy.. I don’t know wat to do coz at times when I approach her she becomes super shy and nervous meaning at the end of th day I don’t manage to do anything sensibly , then i now have to wait for th following week… What do i do to get things moving faster?
Eric Santiago says
It’s possible she’s saying for you to tell her she’s wrong. Actually, that’s exactly what she would want you to do even if that isn’t her intention. It’s a sign or her to have you compliment her and express some of your feelings by showing effort to make her happy/feel good. This applies whether she does really feel that about herself way or not.
Will Baker says
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johnny bravo says
It means she is looking for you to build her up. I know because i have seen this too many times and the girl always ends up with the guy.
ShyGirl101 says
That sounds similar to this one guy I had liked. For me it was a mix of not being ready and being unsure if I actually liked him. I literally told him not to pursue me and that he’s dodging a bullet.
He didn’t want to take my word for it at first but I’m glad he did. I didn’t want to have either of us catch strong feelings and let it all go to waste. I know for a fact that I’d probably have ended up breaking things off when things got more serious.
TLDR;
It does suck to self sabotage and not even realize it until it’s too late.
Ohjiho says
What if a girl say she likes my gift and all, react to my texts with emoticons and long reply all the time but starting to give cold shoulders after few weeks especially when i try to ask how is her day. Does it mean she lost interest in me already.
Kate says
Hi, if she sounds cold or short with her text messages, then something probably happened. Either she is not interested in you anymore, her feelings got hurt, or some other reason.
Ohjiho says
should i ask her what is that about? since there are so many possibilities…
Kate says
Yes, you should definitely ask.
ohjiho says
well, I try another attempt to start a topic, it took hours before she respond to it, and the respond seems rather, you know, “cold”. She told me she was quite sick for the past few days. When I ask the reason for the first time, she said dont know what’s happening, but when i ask second time, she said it’s a family matter. I offered to listen to her problems and she told me that she’s not ready to talk about just yet. Moments later, she posted an image “My heart is closed until further notice” on social media, that doesnt seems related to “family matter”. does it mean she isn’t ready for another relationship or just not interested in me (basically means I’m only in the friendzone and misunderstood everything)
Kate says
Something is definitely going on with her and I don’t know if she has been honest with you. Seems like she is heartbroken. Was she dating anyone before you?
Since she doesn’t want to talk about it, it’s just a guessing game here. I can’t really tell if she isn’t ready for another relationship or she’s not interested in you.
Chris Gutierrez says
I pass by this woman. First time, face to face she looks down and walks. Second time, I see her at the corner, she sees me, she puts her hand on her face and walks. Third time, I am walking she sees me, she turns away? Now fourth, I am walking up the street, she sees me, hides with her friend, then stares at me touching her hair.
David says
So the girl that I like and have finally talked to is shy but surprisingly ended up being really easy to talk to. I got her snapchat and we text on there, and everything goes well. I got her talking about herself and we had regular talk getting to know each other and laughing about topics. However, it almost always takes over an hour for her to read my message and reply. Sometimes it has been around 10 minutes but overall it takes really long. I just don’t understand since it all goes well and we don’t say anything that could result in a negative impression, just normal conversation. What does this mean? I feel like she doesn’t want to talk to me, yet she answers like shes interested and I can’t stress it enough that it just all goes really well. I know that she’s shy, but I don’t understand why though everything is good, it takes so long for her to reply.
Kate says
Hi,
Maybe she doesn’t get the text notifications, she’s busy, or she’s shy and needs to think what she’s going to answer you. I don’t think you have anything to worry about.
Phillip says
Hey so I have feelings for this girl. We been talking in a group project making yearbooks. I’m a shy person so I don’t talk much. She seems quiet first off but talks to me and my friends. She offer me her # if I needed anything, and I wanted to know if that’s the first step or just a friend zone thing. We texted and she seems dull with her messages. Any clues what might happen? Am I missing something that I should be looking out for?
Kate says
Hi,
I’m not sure if she gave you her number because she likes you or strictly if you needed anything with the group project. Have you picked up any clues that she might like you?
Aaron says
I enjoy learning psychology. I learned girls can be a puzzle. Things are not as they seem. Later you can find yourself used in a relationship. Well, She only tells a friend or someone you know to intentionally tell you she has a boyfriend. She lists as single, but continues the sherade. All to find out later by social media she in fact was single & i sparked her intrests, but she left for back home until next visit. Im going to make her follow me with her eyes next time around, be confident & mysterious.
Jack says
there is this one girl that I have really liked, and it drives me crazy every time I think about her. Back in 8th grade I asked her to a formal dance, and before that dance I feel like she was always into me, but we are both pretty shy so we never talked for long periods of time. Sometimes she would flirt with me and me being shy would just act like I wasn’t interested in her. After I asked her to the dance, she became even more shy around me, and it just made things a little awkward. At the dance I got cold feet, and even though all of her friends were telling me to dance with her, I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I go to a different high school now, and she hasn’t shown any real interest in other guys. One day I accidentally sent her a message on Instagram and later that day she posted two pictures, one was about how she cried over a boy she never dated. The other was about how she misses someone so much but just thinks about how they don’t miss her back so she forgets about it. I want to text her and tell her how I feel about her, but I’m scared because I’m not really sure if she likes me back. Thanks for taking the time to help me
Kate says
Don’t be scared, tell her how you feel. You don’t have anything to lose, only to gain. If she says no, so what. You don’t go to the same high school anymore so you won’t even see her after that. If she’s not interested anymore, at least you’d know and don’t have to wonder about it. Moreover, there’s a big possibility that she still likes you.
Anonymous says
Hi, I’ve known this quiet girl three years ago in class, and this year I sit near her. So the first day I initiated a conversation and we talked, joked off. Next day we saw each other, talked and laughed as the first day. Yet I took the risk and asked for her snapchat after class. She says she doesn’t use it much and just got it. I added her on snap, yet it’s been a day and not an add back. Did I rush this too fast?
Kate says
Just give her some time, she might be busy or not checking the messages. One day is not too long.
Meep says
What happens if I catch her looking at me for a second and then she turns away. Does that mean she still doesn’t like me or she does??
Kate says
If you only catch her doing it once then it can mean both, either she likes you or she doesn’t. However, if she keeps doing it, then there’s a big possibility she likes you.
Tony says
There is this girl in church I would like to get to know better she shows most of the signs she is into me without talking to her face to face. I turn around and look at her she giggles. I smile at her she turns her head away and giggles. She holds a gaze and then she flicks her hair and other things. I said Hi to her when she was with her mother she was not looking at me and did not say hi back, but her mother looked at me, I have not seen her in church since.
Kate says
Seems like she likes you but she’s shy.
Brad says
I’m a security guard and I like this girl that works at the grocery store. She doesn’t have a wedding ring, whenever I see her even if she is serving customers and I’m walking past and its very busy she will seem to know I’m walking past and always turn to me and smile and raise her eyebrows and her eyes light up, she always asked how are you? When she does serve me. I noticed she even put lipstick on when she didn’t when I first started working there. At first I was a bit worried about approaching her cause I didnt want to shit where I sleep so to speak if she actually didn’t like me then I would make it awkward for both of us but the other day I got moved from the mall so I though stiff it I like this girl I’m giving her my number. I would ask her for hers but again I don’t want to ask her in front of her boss or co workers cause she is rarely alon so on my last day I wrote my number on a card and gave it to her. She was a bit confused at first cause she seemed like she was in a rush and didn’t know why I was giving her this card and I said on the back, she turned over and seen my number and she smiled and said oh and her eyes lit up. That was 3 days ago and still no text from her. I’m not a beta male and I only gave put my number because as I said it like the only way being a bit sneaky and not doing it in front of her workers. Also the balls in her court this way I don’t know if she is seeing anyone so at least she can make up her own decision this way. But still I thought she could at least tell me that she’s not interested or has a partner. Now I this k she is just a bitch cause in reality she is not a glammer model. I’m attracted to her nature, she seems to work hard and I’m definitely attracted to her fuller figure guitar shape body. In my eyes she is gorgeous cause that’s what I’m attracted to, I’m very fit, good looking, funny but not stupid. The only thing I really don’t have is money. I’m broke as fuck and I work hard but I haven’t been blessed to land in a big bucket of cash. I don’t know how this girl would know that but its pissed me off that a girl like her should really be giving a dude like me some soft of chance, explanation not just nothing. I feel like going into the store and asking her what her problem is. That I though t she was a nice woman but obviously you just look at me like some eye candy you can flirt with and I mustn’t be very smart or sophisticated or whatever. I’m lost hey.
Kate says
I don’t know her story, maybe she started dating someone or perhaps she’s just too shy to call you. Or maybe she has low self-esteem and doesn’t really think that a good looking guy like you would be really interested in her. We don’t really know her story here.
3 days is not long, she might still call you. Definitely, don’t go to her store and ask what’s her problem. Also, girls don’t usually just text you back and say they are not interested. Most would not contact at all. Just let it go if you don’t hear back from her. Who knows what is going on in her life or what she’s looking for. She may have her reasons that are nothing to do with you.
However, if you are still really interested in her, wait a week and then swing by her store and try to talk to her. Be friendly, smile, and don’t show to her that you are upset about her not calling you.
Anonymous says
There’s a girl I’ve had a crush on for years and we have finally gone out a couple of times together. It’s a little awkward, but I feel strong mutual interest. I don’t know if she’s shy or not; our conversations always flow well and she doesn’t seem that nervous or anything. The last time I saw her she let me pay for lunch and hugged me before she left. We go to different colleges 100 miles apart and it’s hard to meet up regularly. I haven’t told her yet, but I’m planning on transferring to her school (for unrelated reasons) but I don’t want to tell her until I’m sure.
It takes her forever to respond to my texts, but she always seems friendly and interested. She is so hard to read sometimes. It’s been awhile since she’s texted me (like 3 days) and I sent the last message. I didn’t ask her a question just made a statement so I guess she didn’t have to reply. I am making salmon which is her favorite food so I might send her a picture to get the convo going. It’s just that this isn’t the first time she’s given me the cold shoulder for days at a time.
Sorry for the long post. I know I have a tendency to overanalyze. I like her a lot and think she likes me back but I get mixed signals sometimes. What is your opinion about someone who seems to like you but takes forever to respond to texts and sometimes just goes silent? Spring break is in a week and there’s a restaurant I really want to take her to, what’s the best way to arrange a date with her via text? We are both 18 and live with our parents.
Kate says
Generally, when girls are interested, they will text back ASAP. Just text her that you’d like to go on a date with her to that restaurant. If she ignores you, you’ll know she’s not interested and you don’t have to wonder anymore.
Chase hochfeld says
Wow, this really works! Thanks!
TJ says
Hello
I like this girl in my class and she knows it because my friends told her. She gives me the cold shoulder allot and is very shy around me, she also tries to avoid me when possible. Is there anything i should look for or i am missing?
Kate says
Seems like she doesn’t like you back.
Phil Anderson says
Im sorry if my english is bad. So i have knew this girl for about 1 term. We start texting each other in snapchat, and she has became my bff(in snapchat) for about 1 month. Sometimes we lost the bff emoji but then i always try to text her and the bff appears again. We never really make a “conversation” in class, because she is shy. At her birthday, i was trying to sent her doll(doggy doll). I snap the picture to her. At first she flirt me about how cute the doll and asking me to giving it to her, so i tell her that i will give this doll to her. She seems interested, but she confuse about how i will give the doll to her. She is afraid if i gave the doll in the class, people will saw it and do the “things”. I’m sure you understand what i mean.
So the next day i text her about meeting me at a place where anyone doesn’t see us. She seems interested about it at first, but again she is shy ( i don’t really know if she’s shy or not). So she cancel it with a reason that her mom will ask her where she get that doll and bla bla.. After that day, we still talk in snapchat or line. Few days ago, my bff emoji lost with her. At first i want to chat her again in snapchat, but i want to know that is she likes me or just look me as a friend? The real problem is we never really make a eye contact or a conversation in class. So i never she her gesture when she close to me. She even post a new photo of her at instagram, which has been a long time since she post a photo and i don’t think its a coincidence. Do you think she likes me? And this few days we have rarely talk to each other at snapchat or line. But, if i ask her help about some exam or assignment, she always help me and always use that “wkwkwkwk” words at the ending of the text (its a laugh in our country). Oh and sometimes she snap her face with cute filter in snapchat.
So do you think she likes me? And sorry for the long paragraph i wrote and bad english 🙂
Kate says
I’m not sure if she likes you or not. Who starts the conversations in Snapchat?
Phil Anderson says
Well i think it was me, but its not like im the one who make the conversation. I was talking to her friend and her friend suggested me to asked her about some exam. I think she already know that im going to ask her about the exam. But the one who got “hype” is her. I mean if she doesnt interested with me, why would she bother to reply my message or sometimes making a conversation and answering my question “completely”. Even sometimes with a flirt.
Aisa says
I’m a girl and I do more of the I’m not interested signs when I’m into a guy. Sometimes on purpose because I feel like I’m not ready but when I think I am I can’t seem to change the way I act around them. And I never talk to them. The moment I feel I like him I stop talking to him and don’t talk to him again. Is that bad?
Anna says
OMG I do the exact same thing, no wonder I’m still single lol Welcome to the weirdo world…
Jimmy says
Hey I am a guy. I met this girl while she was in a bad relationship. They broke up after a 2 year relationship and she was really upset but he was really messed up and yelled at her all the time. I talk to her and I just went to her house and hung lut with her parents and watched a movie but when we talk she never fully acts like she wants to be something but never goes away from that. So does she like me or does she just wanna be friends?
Kate says
If you don’t pick up any signs that she might like you, perhaps she just wants to be friends. Also, she might not be ready yet to date anyone after her breakup.
Jack says
Thank you. But what would be signs that she likes me?
Ehiganny says
What if she displays none of the signs but she still likes you
Kate says
If she has told you she likes you, then you don’t have to look for the signs.
Samuel says
There is this girl in my church
I like her so much and she know but she is so shy whenever we are togther but she keep staring at me in church . I have caught her looking at me times without number. Although I have let her know my intention but she said she is not interested. There was a week I called her number for more than 4times but she didn’t pick so I gave space for more 3week and I sent a female friend to give her a gift. Then she sent me a text in my whatsapp d following week telling me she is so sorry for making me feel somehow that she knows she has behaved childish but y she d acted that way was because she said she wasn’t interested and asked me if apology is accepted. I am confused and The question now is …wha should I do, should I still go for her or what do u think she is up?
Kate says
I don’t know why she keeps staring at you but since she has said to you twice already that she’s not interested, then she’s most likely not interested.
Percy says
There is this girl in my class(im in ninth grade) who i think has a crush on me and i have one too. The reasons why i think she likes me, she stares at me from time to time and when i catch her staring, we seize the moment and after awhile we break it, and theres is this immature boy who is also into her(they always talk and do things together like walk together during break time. But she always come to me and tell me that that boy is annoying like she needs help from me or something. Im not sure if she likes him and just trying to get my attention for fun) who always moves next to her like a weird creep, (like she said) so she comes next to me, and this happens alot. There are also a lot of other boys who are into her and flirt with her, and from what i heard, when people are in a group the instictively look at the person who they feel close to(=me). She is using her mothers phone(she comes online only for ten minutes or so) so she cant text freely like me but when she can, she replies to my text with my name in front and rarely starts to text first. I had a breakup with my old girlfriend two months ago (i was so depressed) and when i ask her whether i should get back together with my ex, all she says is “i dont think you should, just wait awhile ” and “NO! Dont do it percy you shouldnt”. (We are best friends). She is a nerd who has a really really good reputation in school, perfect in studies, perfect in posture and grammer, perfect in looks , but a lot of girls get jealous of her so they get angry with her, which means she only has me, annoying boy, and her old online school friends(which means she is lonely).she isnt afraid to tell me ANYTHING.
Those are all the main points, but what bothers me the most is…
She has had a lot of proposals from a lot of boys.
I have proposed to her (during the time we didnt talk much like nowadays) and she took time to answer, and she said no. Then i tried it a second time and she didnt believe it so she assummed it was a joke so i went along with it.
What bothers me there is that she has always rejected boys fast but for me she took time.
Pls help me
Kate says
I think she likes you but I don’t know if she likes you as a friend or she likes you romantically.
richard says
hi there,
I work in a library and their is this regular customer who I have come to be attracted to. at first we never ever said anything to each other but one day I decided to go up to her and say hi etc ive noticed u around……. since then when she would come in she would walk past me at my counter and smile , other times she came up to me at the counter etc to ask for a pen , other times ive walked passed her table and have said hi and sometimes she has said hi how r u back…. one day I said hi to her and I felt like she brushed me off so I walked away but mins later she came up to me whilst I was shelving books and asked for help with ordering a book , we have the technology to order a book in the library but she used a fake excuse about slow internet or something….
my question is I wanna know do u think this girl could like me back in the way I like her or am I barking up the wrong tree ?????
I’m a shy guy as well and I think she might be too but today as I said hi I gave her a last wink as I left, hoping to give her a signal lol??
should I just sit back and wait now ????
Kate says
You can wait and see if she got your hint. However, if you really would like to know how she feels, you can slip her a note next time and ask her out. She may say yes or she may say no but you’ll never know if you don’t ask.
richard says
thanks ill try
Ari says
We’ve been friends for most of the schoool year now at first we barley talked but now we talk everday before/ after school at lunch and in each others classrooms. She always stares in my eyes when I look at her she always laughs when I make jokes. But she usually laughs when other people make jokes too. She also punches my arms alot. When I tell her dirty jokes she plays along with me. Also when we sit next to each other every day her arms are folded but her legs and feet are facing towards me. When I show up in her classrooms she always tries to hide a smile she has on her face. We have the same friends and when I say things like ” Someone likes me guess who ” or other things like ” Blank Is madly in love with me who would have guessed” they all assume im talking about the girl. She told me that shes ” MOSTLY straight” . Were with each other all the time people think were dating. We also joke about us being “Married” and because of this she jokingly calls me Love or darling, or some weird pet name. She blushes occasionally when I talk to her but Im not sure at all if she likes me or not.
Kate says
I think she likes you. However, there’s a chance she might think of you as a good friend she feels comfortable with. Also, since she has said she’s mostly straight, I’m not sure how she really feels about you.
Edwin says
i have a crush on my female bestie,at first i realy did’nt want to tel her but she started bhavin really weird,that is i got the touches the teasing way different from normal
but she keeps tlking bout her mr perfect guy
dunno what to do
Jack says
Hi so there’s this girl, we’ve been friends for quite some time now, and I feel like I blew my chance with her because my heart wasn’t feeling for her at the time. We share a lot of extra curricular together and we have a lot of common friends, so we usually hang out with each other. Early February, I got signs/signals that she liked me, but I didn’t like her like that at the time. Now I’ve been spending time with her (with our friends) and I want to ask her out just the two of us on a date. I’ve asked her out twice before (through text), but she always came up with an excuse not to go out just the two of us. She is a shy girl, but I’m not sure if it’s her shyness preventing the date or if it’s that she fell out of love. So I just want to ask should I ask her out one more time or just move on? I read your article, and signs point that she doesn’t like me, but I am really not sure. Thanks
Kate says
You can try to ask her one more time but if she says no, then you should probably move on.
Lionheart says
I like a girl in my gym . I told that to one of my gym trainer who khows her very well as they live in the same locality so i think he told her that i am interested in her so she knew that i am interested in her . She often makes prolonged eye contact with me but sometime as soon as i catch her looking at me she looks away nervously. She also acts quite unusual and her face suddenly becomes shocked in nervousness when i am around her & she also acts like that maybe she wants me to notice her like passing closely by me But her gym trainer told me she has a boyfriend. What should i do ?
Kate says
Perhaps you should move on if she has a boyfriend already.
Swayam says
A girl in my college has tried grabbing my attention and doing obvious things to show that she likes me. Because of obvious signs, I approached and talked to her. She responded well but she started showing attitude and ignoring me. So I backed off and stopped entertaining her. She understood this and smiled at me one day. I thought of giving one more try just for the sake of confusion. I approached her again and talked. But the problem is that she never starts conversation. She acknowledges only when I start the conversation. The way she behaves while convo is that she doesn’t like me. But when she is in my vicinity, she always tries to grab my attention and throws hints. Why is she playing in such a way? And what should I do? Recently I have started ignoring her. But she has understood this and she is trying even more to grab attention.
juan says
sorry am re-doing mine
so I have this female cowork since I meet her we had a pretty good work relation I do have a crush on her and I think she may feel the same just not sure most time we talk she really open up about her family and embarrassing things that’s happen to her i open up about my family as will we talk a out our ex’s there was one time she ask how many kids I wanted to have I told and she just smile I ask her how many as will. there are times wen we have office meeting I couch her staring at me so I look at things at the wall and then i see her look at them as will. there hasn’t been really any touch there one time we had event for work and she touch my arm and even pinch it but after that the only touch is hand touching when we give each other paperwork or things. we have had lunch before just me and her but it’s during work so not a be deal. there was one time she ask what I was doing there was a concert and she asked if I was going she ask me like 3 different time but i had planes with family during that weekend. some time wen I walk I the office she smile at me. ones she asked my opinion on the paint job they did on her car she didn’t like it nd want to see what I thought I remember ones I told her I like to work a lot of over time then I ask her what type of guy was she looking for and she said a hard work. she pretty much always asked how my weekend was and I ask her to. there was one time I was leaving early and she asked why was I leaving early. I maybe reading to much into things or just not noticing the signs also she is shy will some what as she her self has said she is
I have notice that she recently has started to tease me and I her lil jokes so any help would be helpful
thank
Kate says
Yes, she might like you. She probably wanted to go to that concert with you.However, to know for sure, you should ask her out.
juan says
I just don’t want to make thing weird between us because we work together in the same office but recently I have noticed that instead of having lunch in the office with me cuz I’m usually the only one here she decides to go to the park she still seems friendly towards me smiles even makes it all comments like trying to make fun of me or tease me I know that you said one of the signs is if she touches you but there is very little touching except when we give each other things and the hand here I jst want to be a lol more sure
Kate says
Having a relationship with someone at work can get sour pretty fast if things won’t work out. It’s the downside of dating someone at work. You can keep talking to her and see if she shows you more signs, after that, it’s up to you if you would like to pursue her or not.
juan says
so am still not sure if she’s into me sometimes I get a good vibes and then cold we text but I always text first we talk at work but sometime it feels weird I tried ignoring her not even looking at her and she still tried talking to me at the end of the day it seems like she will try to start conversations I still catch her looking at me but today she found out she only has a month left at work I walk to the office and she’s like guess what juan I only have a month left she seem sad I told her really that’s sucks and she kept looking at me things will work out I did I was kinda sad to hear that I just don’t know if she like me or not
Kate says
If you really want to find out, now is your chance to make a move. If she says no, then she’s leaving anyways which eliminates the awkwardness.
juan says
thanks and your rite things can get bad sometimes I get a good vibe of her nd other time nothing one thing I find interesting is we gone out as a group to eat and I catch her looking at me then I was check out a girl and her turn to see what I was looking at and she kinda seems annoyed but I’ll just wait and see thanks again
Fakename says
If you are making eye contact and you smile and she gets a stunned reaction and gets awkward from there so you stop eye contact and walk away from the situation, that’s a bonnafide she’s not into and you misinterpreted the signals correct?
Kate says
Yes and no. Sometimes, girls are shy and get awkward when they like someone as well. They just don’t know what to say or how to be. Or they get awkward because they are not interested.
Fakename says
Thanks for the reply, you see my dilemma. I see her check me out and she does the hair thing and while she seems bubbly with her friends she gets quite when I pass her by. I would like clear signals that she isn’t into me so I can move on. Well I appreciate your knowledge and kindness in helping me, thanks and best wishes to you and your loved ones.
Fakename says
Well dam I don’t know anything, she made contact with me after I awkwardly tried to make contact with her, were not a thing yet and I’m 100% in the friend zone but she keeps initiating contact if I don’t bother too (can’t blame me I’m in the friend zone) it’s a better relation with each other than it was though. Who knows we might end up coming together or realize we won’t work.
morris says
so I think this girl may be interested I know her for a bout 3 month now we talk about many think she has open up about her family and personal life to a point she ones told me about about this show our coworkers we’re going and ask if I was going I told I would but when I got there we didn’t really talk but I did notice she was looking at me most of the time we talk she has her body pointing towards me she smile alot at me we work together every time we talk she seems really into the conversation ones i told her she look nice in purple and she said that was her favorite color to wear I told her I like on her she stop wearing it for about 2 week . today she got sunglasses and she asked me what I thought about how they look on her I said they look good on her. we were having lunch and I noticed her feet she saw me looking at them then she took off her sandals and put her feet up nd started playing with moving them around. today was the first time she also bought me lunch the times we gone to eat I only paid 3 time or we paid for our own food am not show if she’s Playing with me or into
Kate says
I think you probably need to see more signs to know for sure. If you continue having lunch with her and talking more, she might show you more signs.
morris says
the other thing is she kinda shy I have notice her looking at me I catch her and she looks away then looks at ones we where talking and she asked how many kids I want to have I thought it’s was weird she would ask that she’s told me pretty personal stuff about her family in the beginning she seemed more into me but I kind of put it off ignore her a little bit then she kind of backed off one of the other things that kind of throws me off is I will text her here and there and she’ll text me right back but I’m the one that’s texting first so that kind of throws me off one time I was playing with her and I told you maybe you should consider going out with that guy and she said no I’m okay and then two days ago she did the same to me she seems like she’s playing a little bit more with me as far as joking around on occasion she does ask for my opinion on certain things I do notice that if I ignore her she kind of makes an effort to talk to me
MCZ says
ive knwd her fo som tym naw n shes quite shy* shes nterested bt i think she said she lovd me only bcos i sed it to her 1st* she told me her persnl stufs wen i ddnt rily ask abt dem#
Yahya says
She is my neighbour I know her for only three months we usually chat what’s app I show to her I like she was just silent after some days I asked her date BT always refuses when asked why she says I am fearing I tried to ignore her she kinds makes an efforts to talk to me an said to me sorry
David Travieso says
there’s this girl i’ve been talking to for a while now and i can’t really tell with her. She flirts with me, texts me everyday about her day, she facetimes me almost everyday, we hang out some, and she seems into me. But she’ll sometimes blow kinda cold and she’ll vaguely mention a dude that hit on her to me that she blew off, so idk if thats a sign of no interest.
Kate says
Perhaps, she wants you to feel a little jealous.
Alex Kijowski says
Hi, I really need help as soon as you can give it to me. There is a girl who I use to know really well, and we dont see each other that much during school. She knows I like her because I kind of told her friend. She has Cross Country Practice while I am having soccer practice. Every once in a while, she glances at me for a second and looks away. I cant really talk to her because her practice ends before mine. I have her snapchat but I am afraid to text her before I talk to her in person because everytime I did that with other girls, they would sometimes reply but avoid me in life. Please give me help I really like her. Ty!
Kate says
If there’s no way you can talk to him in person first, then I would suggest you text her. If she avoids you in person after that then you’ll know she’s not interested. At least you wouldn’t have to wonder about it anymore.
jdenil says
she already told me that she is not interested in dating now and wants to focus in studies, but she still gives me attention and tries to talk to me everytime we see each other and we both are very close, so should i take this chance or not?
Anonymous says
So there’s this girl I like and shes in my class after a few days we start talking and we become friends, every time I meet her i hug her and say, hey best friend. Then when I get to know her more in class. I start to like her more and more. After some days she started doing this every time we get to class she pulls up a chair and faces me. She always flirts with me playing with my hair holding my arm. SO then i realized that she liked me, so at lunch I was going to ask her out, but when I ask her to come follow me and walk alone just me and you. She gave me an excuse. So then I said its serious question come see, but she kept making excuses. I can’t tell know if she likes me as a best friend or more than that???
Tl says
Hey bro, i think you should keep trying to ask her out. If she keeps making excuses, then just ask her on the spot. “Do you like me?”
Ramsey Lucas says
My friend gave her an audio of me saying I love her and she listened to it. She didn’t complain or say anything bad and everything still seems normal. We’re still friends even though she hasn’t mentioned about the audio she listened to. What does it mean? Does she love me?
Anon says
So Im kind of in this effed up situation where its so hard to figure out whether shes into me, Id like to think she is I cant tell for sure, because were in this situation lets say she cant date past or present “clients” she acts different when.shes around.her cowokers but its different when.shes with me, Im stuck.incthis predicement where I want to ask her out but she could kllose her job or if shes not even into me the slightest and I come off creepy and she transfers me to another perosn. I enjoy her company and she makes me happy and I know vice verca casluse she finds me funny, no one finds me funny. I dont even find myself funnt, we flirt and theres accidental touching nd teasing she also said something along the lines of “it so hard finding a qualitt like that in anybody nowadays” Sorry about the typos my phone is really slow and I can barelu fix a few of them let alone them all . take care xo
Lost says
Sigh… Don’t know where to start you know when you believe in something one minute then your head buzzes with every sign/or not sign.. every conversation.. its got to the point now where it’s impossible to say to her how much I like her.. I say to myself right that’s it I’m gonna speak to her about it and I just can’t do it!! FS!! Its so awkward at times I don’t even look at her but all I want to do is know more about her… I feel like everything is against it.. but I can’t stop thinking about her.. I am older than her 12years older.. we work together.. she is my bosses best friend.. I’m not even sure if she is gay I’m thinking probably not as she has a boyfriend now. I was in a long term relationship when I started to fall for her there was a lot of eye contact and just this feeling ya know.. so after working with her for about 2years I didn’t like her at all she was stand offish, rude and I just thought she was a little homophobic so avoided her and never really noticed her… We worked different shifts. So anyway one day she started talking to me standing close n’ out of no where I just had a huge attraction that slapped me right in the face and I was totally unable to talk like WTF! So the eye contact went on and my attraction built and I ended my long term relationship as I couldn’t stop thinking about her and I was sure she felt the same I felt like she was going to tell me but she didnt. Few weeks later she has a boyfriend… Wow.. I don’t regret leaving my partner and I don’t blame her at all… I didn’t love my partner anymore and it was the right thing to do… But here I am 9months later still with her on my mind.. I am trying to move on I just feel like there is something there.. I know people at work can see it and it’s embarrassing but I’m at the point now where I don’t care what anybody thinks!! I just don’t know what to do I’m not from this city and I could change my life in a month and move away but what if I never see her again.. what if I live my life and she’s just there in my head FS I can’t live like that.. I have tried to talk to her through text general chat but small pretty cold replies and always me texting first only 3 or 4 times.. I know what I got to do.. I should move away get over it right? She is shy I know it and probably confused about her sexuality but I’m really answering my own questions writing this… She has a boyfriend now if she feels the same as I do she would not be with him…
Jon says
There this girl i like at my highschool and i try to get to know her and and a few times i asked her out and she said no but she still flirts with me. What do i do.
Dean says
I have a problem, I met a girl at work, long story but I will make it short, at a party I talked to a guest, a girl, the girl that I like looked at the girl Im talking to, my friend said the looked jealous, by the way she blocked me on Facebook way before that certain party, but the thing is she stares at me many times, not only on this certain party, but as weeks passed by, I greet her whenever we bumped into each other, sometimes she smiles, there are times its just a greet, she says she does not want me to annoy her, but she still gives signs, like in the crew mess Im getting my dinner then suddenly she just shoved her way in, so I let her in, but when I looked at her she did’nt even ate the food she took! Then there are time I caught her looking ate me, then she just stares to another direction. Yes she told me Im annoying her, but why does she still gave signals that she kinda likes me but not really sure, but I really do like her, Im thinking, if Im annoying her then why is she still talking talking to me and acting this way, is she playing hard to get please help me thanks!!!
Brandon says
So I’ve known this girl for quite some time and I’ve always liked her. However due to distance I was never able to see her or talk with her much. However recently she moved close to where I live and we started talking. Anyway long story short I asked her out on a date. It went well, however she is super shy and doesn’t talk much which makes it hard for good conversation. I texted often as well however she takes hours to respond and never really askes me questions. Idk I’m feeling she’s not into me, but I can’t tell because I know she has a really shy personality. Any words of advice?
OK says
I have this shy girl which actually hooked me with her eyes , at the beginning , I was a new in class so I didn’t pay attention to anything beside studying , she kept sending eye contacts each one about 2-3 sec , and I admit I was lazy so I kept it just eyes for 3 weeks , then I started conversation , she welcomed my conversion at the beginning , I’m the funny kind who actually hard to notice things as romance , later on , I noticed that her eyes contact is shorter and she doesn’t start a conversation unless I start it , and I learned that another person is planning for her , I want her so I don’t wanna give up like this , I wanna draw her attention again and I have lost the card of : acting cool from a distance because ( I showed her that I like her but in texts , I didn’t say yet I like you ) so please tell me what to do
1 : she doesn’t start a conversation
2 the other person is really tough because his richer
3 we are classmates , but he isn’t with us
4 I can tell that he is trying to make her say I like you , so he is good at acting cool from a distance and she seems as I think interested in him , but she want him to show her 1st
5 I’m good at making her laugh , and I showed her that she is important to me , with a signs that mostly any girl understands
6 we still actually aren’t used to touch each , she doesn’t let anyone touch her basically
7 even she is a little older then me ( Cuz I was pretty good at studying ) she stopped showing some signs .. But still the eye contact is there and she lets me pay food , she doesn’t let many do this in basic
8 actually I’m wanted boy in the class and many likes me , but I don’t like another person beside her ..
So pls tell me what to do ? Do I still have a chance ? I wanna get her back
Or I didn’t lose her yet ? Maybe she is trying to make me jealous so I say it clearly ?
Lilly J. (from RBMS) says
TELL HER YOU LIKE HER AND SIT NEXT TO HER RANDOMLY JUST TO SAY HEY AND ASK HER ABOUT WHAT GRADES SHE GOT ON HER ASSIGNMENTS.
Peter says
A girl at bank holds eye contact for 5 seconds then she smiled with her lips then her head down. She attracted to me or what or shy girl? when i went close to her she cannot eye contacted me and i think she feels nervous around me when i close to her. should i approach her and talk to her ?
She likes me or what any tips for starting first conversation with her.
Lilly J. from RBMS says
it means she wants you to give her compliments and build her up so she can feel special.
tips: if shes dressed really nice tell her she looks beautiful.If shes sweaty and is having a lazy day or says that she looks nasty today say “you are still the most beautiful girl I have ever seen”.
Broken Heart says
Guys, don’t take any of this stuff too seriously.
Case in point: I recently went on a date with a woman I’ve been acquainted with for a long time who checked off so many boxes on the “she likes you” checklist that I was certain she was into me. When we chatted via text, our conversations were fun and a little flirty but also substantive; we met for a date, and she greeted me with a close, warm embrace; we spent two-hours walking around a park talking and getting to know one another better; she laughed at my stupid jokes — the kind of light, melodic laugh that guys love to hear; she made an effort to end “awkward silences”; she asked personal questions about my future plans (like did I have any plans to move out of state); we made eye contact when we talked; she smiled at me; she walked close to me; at the end of the date, she gave me another hug and readily agreed to a second date and even named a time when she was available; when I texted her later and told her what a great time I had, she agreed and thanked me for meeting her…
I was golden, right? Well, no. When I contacted her again a day or two later, she confessed that she wasn’t interested in dating anybody because of other priorities in her life. Bit of a “whammy”, to say the least, especially after all the supposed signals she sent out.
So, yeah, just because some website tells you that a woman likes you, be careful you’re not setting yourself up for disappointment.
Sean says
I am curious to know about a girl I have known for almost 3 years. We are always friendly with each other and she always loves to hug me every time she sees me. She always does kiss emojis and heart emojis when we text we each other. I know all these signs of interest, however, she keeps saying it is due to friendship. Several days ago, I texted her if she would like it if I kiss her dimple again next time I see her and she said yes, but it is a friendship kiss. She then showed a “drooling emoji” right after. I am confused about what that represents?
Problem is that I don’t know about the mentality of a small town girl, like herself, and a city boy like me. It seems very foreign to me, because girls from my city are usually straight up about if they are interested or not? With this girl, however, it is very hard to tell what exactly she is tying to do. I am assuming it might be shyness, but I never dealt with a small town girl before. The mentality seems different to me. Has anyone experienced this or any advice on how to deal with this?
It seems like she is interested, but I don’t know with the hearts, kiss emojis, drooling emoji, and saying “friendship”.
Thank you.