It’s natural for you to make excuses for the bad behaviors of people you are into. That’s just the way the cookie crumbles. Love is truly blind, so you need to be fully aware of the subtle and in-your-face factors that are telling you straight up your man just isn’t interested in you.
To save face, here are a few signals your guy isn’t interested in you anymore.
Signs He’s Not Interested in You Anymore
Sign One: No Contact
In this instance, your man might suddenly not contact you at all anymore. Perhaps when you first hooked up, he was texting you daily. Suddenly, it’s days before you receive a message from him. Trust me on this one. If he was head over heels for you, he would be connecting with you every chance he has.
If your man is suddenly not making you a priority, you need to send him packing.
Sign Two: You Are an Option
This may seem a touch weird at first, but if your man is treating you like an option, you need to boot his butt out. If he isn’t willing to fully commit to you, including your hopes and dreams, then he isn’t the man you deserve.
Sign Three: You Are a Real Secret
If your boy-toy isn’t shouting out to all his guy friends that you are the most amazing thing, then you have a problem. He should be bragging about you and proud to have you by his side. If this isn’t the case, you need to end it now.
Sign Four: No Moving Forward
This one is a tough one because everyone moves forward at a different pace. However, if you feel your man is stalling or just not trying to move to the next level in your relationship, this could be a clear-cut sign he just isn’t interested anymore.
You need to ask him what he wants and needs from you straight up and go from there. Putting him on the spot could be a very good thing to help you figure out what you need to do.
Signal Five: Only There When He Needs You
Again, this is a tough one to figure out. If a guy just happens to be around only when he needs you, for sex, money or otherwise, he doesn’t really care about you.
Signal Six: Short Notice
If a man is always giving you short notice for his plans, that’s a clear-cut signal you are not a priority on his list of things to do. Stop and think of the times he’s called you for something and figure out whether or not it was genuine or convenient.
Signal Seven: He Loves to Create Drama
This is a tactic that’s clever and cruel. The guy creates drama in hopes the girl will become disinterested. Totally nasty if you ask me.
Signal Eight: Oodles of Noise When You Are Ready to Move On
If a man isn’t interested in you anymore, in order to appease his guilt, he will put up a fight when you are ready to move on. This is one you just need to skip past and move on because you deserve better.
Signal Nine: He Leaves Messages for You
This is a tough one because you want to believe him, but the facts stack up against him. This is a last-ditch effort to hang onto what is no more. It’s natural, and when you are aware of it, then it doesn’t bite so much.
Signal Ten: Not Breaking Up with the Ex for Real
This is a biggie. When a man isn’t really, truly, deeply interested in you anymore, he will make excuses for not breaking up with his ex. Please don’t accept this because this isn’t acceptable.
What the bleep?
Signal Eleven: They Aren’t Legally Divorced
Holy crap! Don’t kid yourself please, ladies. If the man you are supposedly in love with isn’t legally divorced for whatever reason, you need to leave him in the dust.
Signal Twelve: They Constantly Blame Time
This is a subtle and sneaky signal suggesting your boy just doesn’t care about you anymore. A man who keeps making excuses for everything, for why they can’t do something or be somewhere, is telling you with actions that you are not his priority anymore. Sure, it hurts, but you are best to move onto a man who deserves and wants your attention.
Signal Thirteen: No Effort Around
When a man shows you little or no efforts to work on your relationship he is telling you his feelings for you are dwindling or gone. This is especially true if you see a sporadic burst of effort after you hint to him that you’re not happy or ready to leave.
Do yourself a favor and leave.
Signal Fourteen: One Minute, They Love You, and the Next, They Don’t
This is a total flip-flapper alert! When a man tells you one day he’s totally into you and the next day, says he’s not really sure, you need to take this as a strong indicator he’s not interested in you anymore.
If a guy isn’t interested enough to know whether or not he wants to be in a relationship with you, he isn’t.
Signal Fifteen: It’s All about Him
If your man is happy to yap on about himself or make every conversation about him and never about you, it’s time to drop the bomb and boot him out. Relationships are give and take, and if he’s not interested in your day or the things that make you happy, you should move on.
Newsflash: Your man should want to know everything about you. He needs to have a vested interest in you if the relationship stands a chance. Something to think about.
Signal Sixteen: He Doesn’t Open Up to You
Some men are shy, but there’s a difference between being shy and a little too secretive for all the wrong reasons. If your boyfriend won’t talk about himself at all and always diverts the conversation to you or something else when you ask him personal questions, that’s a signal he isn’t ready or willing to move forward with you.
If that’s the case, you need to cut the strings and find the guy you deserve.
Signal Seventeen: Love but Not in Love
This is a tough one to swallow. Nobody wants someone to say they love you but aren’t in love with you. There’s a huge difference.
Another angle on this one is he might tell you he’s just not ready for a relationship and that it’s got nothing to do with you but he’s just not the right guy for you. Don’t you think you should be the judge of that?
If you are hearing any of the above, it is a clear sign he’s not interested anymore.
Signal Eighteen: Getting Nasty with Other Women
Trust is crazy important in any relationship, so if you even suspect your guy is sleeping around, you need to take that as an in-your-face signal he’s not into you anymore. Worse yet, if he’s openly sleeping around and not even trying to be sneaky about it, you need to get rid of him pronto.
Don’t let a guy play with your feelings and devalue your worth. Everyone deserves to be loved and cherished, including you.
Signal Nineteen: It’s All about the Sex
Sure, according to the experts, sex is very important in any relationship. However, it’s not everything. If he’s only interested in you when the two of you are getting hot and heavy, then you need to give your head a shake and consider the fact he’s probably only using you for sex.
A healthy relationship is all about balance, and when the only time you spend together revolves around sex, it’s time to say good-bye.
Signal Twenty: You Feel Like You Are Just Friends
This is another solid signal your boyfriend isn’t interested anymore. If you feel like you are just friends or even friends with benefits, you need to take a step back and look at the other clues he’s leaving you.
Being friends is fine but not when you want a boyfriend. Have a talk with him and see if he feels the same way as you do.
Signal Twenty-One: Shows You No Respect
It doesn’t matter whether you are friends with someone or romantically involved, you should always treat each other with love and respect. That’s not only basic manners but it’s the base of healthy relationships.
If your man doesn’t know this, you better run because you’re in for a rough ride. Your guy should love and respect you and show you how caring, understanding and supportive he is. He should also have integrity and care about your feelings always.
Signal Twenty-Two: Lovely to the World but Not You
This is a dangerous signal you need to take seriously. If a guy shows love, respect, thoughtfulness and his caring nature to everyone except to you, he’s definitely not into you. This is pretty much the definition of a jerk, and the faster you move on the better.
Signal Twenty-Three: No Vision Ahead
When a guy isn’t willing to bring up and talk about the future with you in it, even the day-to-day stuff, he’s likely not interested in you. Now, there’s a difference between total avoidance and not quite being ready to talk about getting married and settling down.
Understandably, some men take a while to get to that stage.
However, if he’s not willing to talk about anything you might plan together, that’s a good indication he’s not into you the way you want.
Signal Twenty-Four: Vision Faker
This one is a little tougher to spot. If you are with a guy who fakes what might happen in the future so he can get what he wants in the now, more than likely sex, you are best to break it off. This sleazy move is pretty easy to do for him because he knows he won’t be around for the long run.
Be wary of this one, and if it seems too good to be true, it probably isn’t good enough.
Signal Twenty-Five: Control Freak
When a man is controlling, he’s insecure and doesn’t trust you. By controlling your every move, he’s taking away your independence and self-confidence, and that’s eventually going to beat you down.
This signal is dangerous, and you don’t deserve it. The man you call your boyfriend should want you to be you, and he should definitely trust you.
Signal Twenty-Six: He’s a Manipulator
Master manipulators are also very dangerous. This is a skill some men have. It’s a sickness that takes the balance out of a relationship. Guys who manipulate try to say they love you and want what’s best for you.
Don’t listen because it’s not true. Your man should be lifting you up and supporting you, not beating you down with jealousy, disrespect and possessiveness.
Signal Twenty-Seven: Too Busy
If a guy who is supposedly trying to impress you is just too busy to make time for you, that’s a strong indicator he’s not interested in you. Men who want to be with a girl will make the time to be with her, no matter how hectic their schedule is.
Don’t let him give you this excuse. Excuses get you nowhere fast in life.
On the flip side, let’s have a look at some subconscious signs he’s totally into you!
Signs He’s Into You
Sign One: Face toward You
When a guy faces toward you with his chest, face and head, chances are pretty good he’s interested in you. If he wasn’t, he would be pointed the other way. If his feet are pointed at you, then you’ve got something to get excited about.
Sign Two: Close Is Better
When a man is standing or leaning into your personal space, that’s a clear-cut signal he wants to know you better. This is his way of trying to find an interconnection with you.
Sign Three: He’s All Smiles
Most people smile at one another whether they are interested or not; it’s just polite. However, if you notice a guy continuously smiling at you, then he’s probably trying to tell you he likes you.
Pay attention to how much he’s smiling and whether or not you feel it’s genuine. Look at the indicators and trust your gut with this subtle hint he’s interested in you.
Sign Four: The Eye Lock
There’s no doubt the eyes say a lot about whether a guy likes you. When a man locks eyes with you, it means he is confident and wants you to know he’s watching you (hopefully, not in a creepy way).
Keep in mind there’s a difference between staring and locking eyes. The eye lock is a connective moment that should last long enough to make a mark. The experts also say if he is blinking while he catches your eye, that means he really wants to get to know you better.
Sign Five: Eyebrows Are Up
When a man raises his eyebrows, this is an unconscious action that says he’s at least a little bit interested in you. Pay attention for this one, and maybe you’ll raise your eyebrows back.
Sign Six: Talking with Hands
If a guy is talking with his hands, this shouts out to the world he is comfortable and confident and wants to communicate with you openly. That’s an excellent sign the best is yet to come!
Sign Seven: He’s Tilting His Head
First things first: he needs to make eye contact with you and be facing you with his body. If that’s all in place and he tilts his head slightly, that’s a suggestive move he wants to talk with you. If you are already conversing, even better!
Sign Eight: Palms Up
When a man reaches toward you with his palms up, he’s telling you with his body gestures that he likes you. On the flip side, if his hands are closed and his palms are down, that’s not a good sign.
Sign Nine: He Likes to Touch
When a man likes touching you, he’s showing you he wants to know you better, that he wants your closeness. Otherwise, he wouldn’t touch you at all.
Keep in mind there are men out there who are just naturally touchy-feely. So, pay attention to his other body gestures and connect the dots.
Sign Ten: Attention Seeker
If a man is always trying to get your attention, he’s showing you he wants more. Maybe he’s texting or calling you throughout the day. Perhaps he shows up at your work or maybe he asks to pick you up after the gym.
Whenever a guy tries to get your attention in a good way, he most certainly likes you.
Sign Eleven: The Mirroring Move
According to studies, when a man is interested in a woman, he will mirror her moves. By doing this, he is trying to connect with you internally and more favorably because he is moving the same way you are.
Trying leaning toward him and see what he does, just for fun. Or, you could take a sip of your beverage and see if he follows suit. This isn’t a perfect science, but it does suggest he really does like you.
Sign Twelve: You Get His Attention
When a man gives you his undivided attention, he is telling you he’s into you. Better yet, when he shuts off all electronic devices and focuses just on you, that’s really telling you he wants more.
This one should make you feel good inside and out.
Sign Thirteen: Puts Effort into His Appearance
Usually, men want to look good for a girl. And when a guy puts obvious effort into his appearance, he is indicating he likes you. Maybe he unknowingly runs his hand through his hair or straightens his shirt.
Keep your eyes open for this one.
Sign Fourteen: Treated Like Gold
When a man goes out of his way to treat you like gold, he most certainly likes you. Maybe he drops flowers off at work for you or leaves a cute note on your windshield.
You are one lucky gal when you have a man who makes sure you feel good inside and out.
Sign Fifteen: Quick Change
When a guy is goofing around with his co-workers and suddenly stops when a girl walks in the room, he’s communicating he likes her. That’s assuming it’s not the boss!
This one is a little quirky but cute. Follow your gut with this one.
Sign Sixteen: Lip Licking
According to the experts, when a guy is constantly licking his lips, he’s emotionally trying to connect with you. Sure, he could just be nervous, but you also need to consider the fact he probably likes you.
Sign Seventeen: Constant Body Change
When a gentleman is constantly moving around and changing his posture, it’s a signal that he’s into you. He’s naturally trying to showcase his manly strength in hopes of your attention in return.
Sign Eighteen: Fidgeting
When a guy is constantly fidgeting, playing with his belt and putting his hands in his pockets, that’s a nice subtle sign that he really is interested in you.
Sign Nineteen: Naturally Polite
If a guy likes you, he will make a point of showing you his manners. Things like opening doors and taking your shopping bags will be the norm. If he happens to offer you his jacket on a cold day, you can be sure he’s totally into you.
Sign Twenty: Mr. Protection
When a guy makes sure you feel safe, he’s telling you he likes you. For example, if a dog comes running and he makes sure you are safe behind him, you’ve just hit the jackpot.
Relationships are anything but easy. Nobody wants to get hurt, which makes it very important to consider and understand signs he’s not interested anymore. It will hurt for a while but it really is for the better because staying in a relationship with a man who doesn’t deserve you is never the right move.
Use all these signs and signals and follow your gut to figure out whether or not you have the man of your dreams.