There’s no doubt that dating and relationships have always been somewhat controversial. With modern dating, it gets even more complicated because people are afraid to commit, thinking they might be missing other opportunities.
The truth…often, dating and relationships aren’t one in the same these days. When you’re in a relationship, you don’t continue dating because you are supposed to commit, and nobody wants to be alone.
So, how long should dating last, and when does dating transform into a relationship? There is no solid line here. It’s a subjective question that only you and your partner can answer. That said, let’s get started with some strong signals she wants a relationship with you but might be afraid to tell you.
Juggling the fear of missing out and the fear of being alone is a stressful circumstance. It might be obvious she really likes you, but that doesn’t mean she’s ready to take that scary step and tell you. First, you need to figure out whether she’s willing to commit to you or if she just likes you.
Signs She Wants A Relationship With You
Sign #1 – She likes to ask questions
One of the clearest signs a girl wants to be with you is when she likes to ask you lots of questions. Does she ask you lots of questions about your past? If she wasn’t curious and interested in you, she wouldn’t bother. If she didn’t want to build something with you, she probably wouldn’t pay any attention to you at all.
Her questions may seem a little casual because she might be scared. Take it step by step because, if she’s asking the questions, she’s trying to figure out if you’re a match.
Sign #2 – Her body talk
You need to pay attention to how she moves around you, her body language, and mannerisms. Sometimes, the unconscious takes over and gives you pretty strong signals when she is interested in building something special with you.
Does she lean toward you when she talks?
Is her body pointed toward or away from you?
Does she touch her hair or lip unintentionally when she’s with you?
Pay attention to what she does with her body because that can help you figure out what she really wants.
Sign#3 – She loves playing pranks on you
Growing up, I was always playing jokes on the guy I had a crush on. Some things never seem to change. Playing pranks alone isn’t a clear signal she wants a relationship with you. However, if she has unintentional physical contact with you when she’s playing a joke on you, then you can take that as a good sign she’s into you.
Sign #4 – She’s doing her best to tap into your emotions
According to studies, when a woman tries to showcase her sexuality or tries telling you stories that are aimed to make you jealous and feel bad that you two aren’t together, then she wants to commit to you.
When she tries to make you react jealously, she’s telling you she really likes you but is too afraid to own up to it. Your best route is to play according to her rules, if you want her back, of course.
Sign #5 – She opens the door to her relationship past
When she gives you her past and lets you know she’s been hurt by a guy, it’s a very good indicator she wants a real relationship. By opening up her vulnerabilities and showing you her past, she’s telling you she trusts you and believes you won’t act like her ex did.
Sign #6 – This girl lets you know she has doubts
This might sound a little weird, but her question about whether this will work out tells you she’d like to commit to you. When she talks about her worries with you, she’s proving she would love to get past her doubts and move forward with you. This one isn’t the easiest to pinpoint, so keep your eyes wide open.
Sign #7 – Her friends tease you about how she feels
When this happens, it means beyond a shadow of a doubt that she’s discussed you with her friends. What does that mean? Obviously, she likes you, or she wouldn’t have said a word.
Doing this is her way of admitting how much she likes you, but she’s doing it indirectly, so it’s not so scary. If it wasn’t scary, it wouldn’t mean anything. Think about that for a few minutes.
Sign #8 – She loves teasing you
Does this girl like to tease you? If she does, this is a telltale sign she wants to be in a relationship with you. Acting this way helps her hide the fact she’s really into you. When she teases and taunts you, it means that she wants things to get more serious. Perhaps she just doesn’t know how to take the next step.
Sign #9 – She invites you to a family function
Has she invited you to a birthday event or for Christmas dinner with her parents? You’re a winner if this is the case because this clearly indicates she is into you on much more than a casual level. She likely wants to have her family’s approval before she commits to you completely.
Sign #10 – She’s interested in meeting your friends and family
Does she want to meet your friends and family? This is telling you she wants a relationship with you but wants to make sure she fits in with your world. There’s nothing more disappointing than falling for a guy to figure out that you just don’t fit with his family and friends.
When she expresses to you that she wants to get to know your family and friends, she is telling you she wants to be in a relationship with you.
Sign #11 – She likes to discuss the future
You may have talked about the past, but when you are suddenly discussing the future, it’s golden. When she starts talking about the future, she’s trying to figure out whether you will work as a couple.
Sign #12 – Her time is spent with you
That may sound a little normal, but that couldn’t be further from the truth. I’m not talking about her picking a night after practice to hang out with you. This is about her choosing to spend her priority time with you, like Friday and Saturday night.
Stop for a minute and think. You’re not going to waste your Friday and Saturday night with someone you really don’t like.
Take this one for what it’s worth. If a girl wants to be with you and only you, she’s going to make sure her most valuable hours are spent with you, regardless of when they are.
Sign #13 – She is a little bit touchy
This is one of those signs you have to look for or you will miss it. This doesn’t mean she is all over you, kissing you head to toe. This means she likes to touch you randomly or subtly or fixes your hair when she sees it’s out of place.
So please pay attention to the small gestures. You need to understand, if she didn’t want to touch you at all, she wouldn’t.
Sign #14 – This girl is an active listener
There’s a huge difference between a girl that’s seeing you for just sex and a gal that is actually into you. What’s the difference? It’s all in the ears. If a girl likes you, she’s going to spend the time to talk with you, and she’s going to want to listen to every word you say.
A girl that really likes you is going to know where you work, what your hobbies are, the name of your siblings, simply because she cares about you as a person. On top of that, she is trying to figure out whether she fits in with your life and friends. That’s a huge stress for her that she’s trying to figure out.
Sign #15 – She’s got rid of her dating app completely
This one is a biggie. If you notice that her Plenty Of Fish is no longer on her phone, it’s a huge sign she really is into you. She’s not going to throw that open door to just anyone. If she is serious about you, that app will be ancient history, whether she wants to believe it or not.
This is the true gateway for a future lover she just doesn’t want to be without.
Sign #16 – Real eye contact
There’s no doubt that people tend to stare at people they are attracted to. This is where men are much more obvious than women. If you happen to catch her looking over at you when you aren’t expecting her to, she’s probably into you. If she’s making eye contact with you, it means she wants to be more than friends. I’m not sure how else she’s going to spell that out to you.
Signal #17 – She just happens to mention it
If she tells you straight-up, you’ve got nothing to question. This is a sign that she wants something with you. She may not be so obvious in her words, and this means you will have to pay extra special attention to what she says. Remember, this is a tough thing for her to do.
She might casually ask you about being in a relationship, or she might tell you she’s not into flings. Take this as a big indicator that she’s looking to get into something serious, hopefully, with you!
Sign #18 – She is really trying to help you
Gals are able to express their feelings for guys in so many different ways. One of them is by helping you. She might like to surprise you by cooking for you after a long day at work or going out and paying bills for you when you are sick. These are the nonverbal actions that are showing you she really does care for you.
Sign #19 – She never forgets the little things
There’s no doubt women have a zillion things going on. So, if they remember your favorite ice cream, it really does mean something. When she remembers the little things, it shows she is listening and remembers the things you like, the things that make you happy or perhaps sad. Pay attention, because it’s in the details.
Sign #20 – She isn’t shy about the serious questions
When a girl is past the straight up questions about asking about what your favorite color is or what your favorite flower is, this means she really wants to know more about you, the real you. If she starts asking you the serious questions, it’s a clear-cut signal she wants to see if the two of you are compatible and can build something amazing.
Sign #21 – She’s an open book
When a girl is opening up to you and exposing her vulnerabilities, a terrifying act, it means she really is into you. Be careful because, when she is talking about her feelings and desires, she truly believes she can trust you. Don’t screw it up, please.
Why would she do this if she didn’t think there was more to this than just friends?
We’ve all been burnt. Girls with a cautious heart have learned love the hard way. The good news is they have come out stronger.
People fall in love with a bit of guardedness. It really is scary. She’s got to put her vulnerabilities out there and see how the cards fall. A girl doesn’t develop a guarded stance overnight. This is a crazy long process of betrayal and disappointment. It is an open wound that gets stronger each time it heals from being broken open again.
It’s important that you recognize there is no way you can make your girlfriend overcome her fears and admit she wants to be in a relationship with you. No matter how badly you want to help her, she’s got to do it herself.
If she is immature, you can’t make her grow up instantly. Being scared of committing is more prevalent today than ever before. Love has changed, and this is how modern relationships look.
Danger Signals She Doesn’t Want To Be In A Relationship With You
Women are just as difficult as men when it comes to figuring out how much they want to be in a relationship with you. The world seems to think that men love the chase, however, if the girl is not giving him strong signals she wants to be with him, the guy is going to get frustrated and turn the other way.
Of course, women love the attention, the notes, dinners, and flowers, but you need to understand if she’s not giving back to you, she might just be playing you. That hurts!
Here are a few pointers that are going to help you decide whether or not she’s into you, or whether you should call it quits and take a chance with someone else.
#1 – Your genuine sense of humor
Having a funny side is a great signal as to whether or not she really likes you. If you are seriously being funny and you don’t get a smirk out of her, and she thinks you are dumb and need to stop with the one-liners, that’s a fairly strong indicator she doesn’t really want to be with you.
#2 – Excuses
If this girl is full of excuse after excuse when you reach out to her to go out on a date, you might need to give your head a few shakes. If this woman always seems to be too busy for you, then you need to accept the strong possibility that she isn’t really into you.
If she really liked you she would climb mountains just to be with you. Well, not quite, but you know what I mean.
#3 – There’s this really good friend of mine I want you to meet
Say what? Women are really weird this way. If they believe you have a soft spot for them, and they believe you are a really sweet guy, they aren’t ever going to say no to you. So, to keep them from feeling guilty about not REALLY liking you, they’re going to try hard to hook you up with a good friend.
What they are thinking is if they do this, they aren’t going to hurt you as much. Yikes!
#4 – This girl is totally happy flying solo
If a girl meets a guy she is head over heels with, she’s never going to indicate that she’s happy being single. If she’s talking about wanting to meet someone special, you need to take that straight up because she doesn’t want you to be her man.
#5 – You are such an amazing friend
It really does suck when you like a gal and she yaps on about how much of an amazing friend you are. This is saying you just aren’t the guy she’s looking to build a life with, as much as that hurts.
If she is referring to you as a friend, you need to vamoose fast.
#6 – I wish you were as attractive as all the other guys I see
This is the final nail to your coffin. When a girl is talking about all these other attractive men, without mentioning you, that’s a clear indicator that she really doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.
If she’s doing this, you need to ignore her and move on.
#7 – Her awesome life news is news to you
When you start to be the last person to learn about the great things that are happening to a girl, that’s a pretty good sign she really doesn’t care about you. If she did, you would be the first person she calls when she gets a promotion at work or has a fight with her bestie.
#8 – She gets stone cold
When a girl isn’t into a guy, she’s not going to be open and warm with him. Why? Simply because she really doesn’t care.
If it feels like she is sitting in a cloud toward you, it’s best you shift your direction and head for the sparkly sunshine!
It’s hard to read a woman’s mind. She may be giving you some obvious clues that she wants to be your girl. On the other hand, most of them will likely be subtle and difficult to nail down.
If she is scared to tell you she likes you, then you are going to have to take all of these factors into consideration to help coax her to get over her fear and let you in on what she’s feeling.
Follow your gut and use these pointers to help you figure out whether or not she wants to be with you.