
I love places like Yahoo Answers because they allow people to ask serious questions behind a false name. They help expose the fact that there are a lot of people who are on the shit end of the stick in their relationships.
For example, most guys in the offline world will not openly admit that they are being used or abused by their girlfriend, but the following guy decided he needed to ask this question:
That may sound crazy to some people, but I’ve seen a lot of guys being used like this by their women and putting up with it. If that’s you, let me tell you one thing: You teach people how to treat you. Yes, that’s something that Dr. Phil always says – and he’s totally right.
When you let your girlfriend cheat on you (or fill in the blank with something else you don’t like), then you are telling her that it is ok to do that.
When you look the other way when your girlfriend is doing something mean or disrespectful, then you are telling her that she can do what she wants with no consequences.
Your actions speak louder than words.
When it comes to cheating, women cheat for a variety of reasons, but the truth is that if she is openly cheating on you, then she thinks on some level that you are ok with it, even if you have told her that you are not.
Again, actions speak louder than words.
For instance, in his question, he says, “I love her and would never break up with her…” which she already knows. I’m sure he’s told her that he doesn’t want her to cheat, but in the end, she thinks that she can do what she wants and he will still be there at the end of the day.
How To Get Her To Stop Cheating
So, how do you get your girlfriend to stop cheating? This article gives you some tips to stop the cheating based on why she is cheating. For instance, if she’s not being emotionally fulfilled, you need to spice up the relationship, communicate better, and avoid ruts.
BUT in my opinion, you need to make it clear that you won’t put up with it before you tackle the reasons behind the cheating.
For example:
- You leave her and show her that you stand by your word that you don’t want to date someone that is cheating
- You don’t look the other way or let things slide anymore. You call her out on inappropriate actions.
- If you separate, you wait for her to get help and change her cheating ways before you take her back.
And if you don’t want to take her back, or if she doesn’t change, you find someone else that appreciates you!
Let go of the need or hope that she will change, and face reality. She’s cheating, and if nothing changes in your relationship then she will probably keep cheating.
If you wait for her to change while you are in a relationship with her without taking action, the chances are very high she won’t change. There is really no potential devastating consequence for her (like losing you).
Just remember, if communication, effort on your part, anger, tears, and accusations are not enough to stop her from cheating, separation is.
It may not be what you want to do, but then again, you don’t want to be the guy who allows his girlfriend to mistreat him. That doesn’t feel good at the end of the day, and you don’t deserve it.
Chris Jr says
Wat if she is cheating thinking you don’t then how would you seriously approach her and convince her to stop doing that?
Aaebie says
I love this girl, but she is cheating and I came to even walk with her to go and see a guy, I want her to stop it, I don’t kjiw what to do, I need help.
Should I break up?
Because right now the number of guys she dating is nine in number.
Should I leave her or have hope??
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Love says
Leave….
chris pablo says
open up the door for her man ….cut every contact with her …stop calling …stop visiting…. make her feel she lost someone
Edwin says
My girlfriend is not calling me if I call she we not pick why
Kagiso says
I have these lovely woman which she’s everything to me ❤️,God has blessed us with 2 kids a girl an a boy…I truly love them.my girlfriend I treat her as my wife cause i truly love her deeply an she knows that 🤔, when ever we have an argument she always tells me to break up which isn’t what I expect or want.she does as she likes an I don’t have a say.i love her so much,she now on 16th December 2019 cheating on me 😭.I don’t know what to do because she’s the love of my life..??
Vincent says
My girlfriend she’s very special an important to me.cheating me is the last thing i expect from her…she doesn’t care about how i feel or my feelings.i tried everything to show her that she’s the love of my life,she mostly dump me seriously like when I try to show her that cheating isn’t okay or showing each other.shes the one telling me what to do, I sometimes cry kneeling down begging her no to dump me 😭😭😭☹️…I don’t know how can I explain my self but honestly these love is too much an it kills me slowly.we have kids two beautiful children a girl and a boy.an trying my best to make her see these love I have for her but isn’t getting better ☹️😭,she now cheating me.i know we are not married i love her so much ❤️❤️❤️plz help me because I can’t break up with her.
Ibrahim Mansaray says
I love my girlfriend so much but she cheats on me, and I want to train her to be the woman I want. what can I do?
Fombat donnie says
My girlfriend is cheating on me cuz we spent time together everyday she sees me everyday and we don’t have anything to talk again so she needed someone to catch feelings with.is that any reason to cheat
And what should i do with her please