When should you think about the second date? During the first date! If you like a woman, and think you are going to want to see her again, then your first date is the time you need to start preparing for a second date.
Why Is The Second Date So Important?
Even if you screw up on the first date, most women will be willing to give you a second chance. But, if you screw up the second date, the chances of you getting another date are minuscule.
How To Get A Second Date On The First Date
If you are having a good time with a woman, then you can do some things to lock down the guarantee that you will get another date with her.
For instance, this article from Dr. Nerdlove talks about some interesting and important points, such as giving her your full attention and asking good questions that get her talking about herself and her interests.
But remember, the best way to get the second date is to ask for it. Near the end of the date, mention the fact that you want to get together again and suggest something that ties into your first date.
For instance, if you talked about wine tasting (that’s all that is coming to mind), then suggest you try that together next weekend. In short, get the date set up before you actually set it up.
Let her know you will call her in a few days and hash out the details, and that’s it – you are all set for setting up your second date!
When To Call For The Second Date
Call her when you said you will call her. Believe me, she remembers you telling her that you are going to call on Wednesday or in a few days or whatever you said, and she will be excited for that phone call.
If you don’t call when you say you are going to, she will lose a little bit of trust and interest in you – two things you DON’T want to happen for a successful second date.
I had a guy wait well over a week to call me once after a really great first date. During that time I was excited, worried, angry, sad, and finally I was annoyed and ‘over it’. By the time he called, I had already made up my mind that I didn’t want to see a guy who couldn’t bother to call me.
If you didn’t tell her when you would call her, then read this article/answer on how long you should wait to call or text.
What Are The Worst Things You Can Do On A Second Date?
There are a few things you can do to guarantee that there will be no third date. Read this article from eHarmony, which offers some really good insights, such as avoiding acting too much like a couple (it will freak her out) and keep up your first date efforts as far as dress (and I would add politeness and overall presentation.)
How To Make The Second Date A Success
A second date is just a continuation of the first, but more is expected on it. You can usually get away with being a little awkward on the first date because you are both just testing out the waters to see if you like each other and there is a connection, but the second date is more about building the attraction than it is about testing out the waters.
TSB Magazine has 7 tips for your second date here (which is actually 8 tips with two number 3’s) that will help you stand out as an attractive masculine figure and build that attraction that you need to get to the third date.
I hope you got some time to read, because that article doesn’t just talk about the tips, it gives you some tactics to use for the first couple tips.
For instance, their point about escalating the sexual tension has some tactics that you can use. And honestly, the first tactic – the ladder of escalation – had me turned on!
How To End The Second Date?
If you are not sleeping with each other, then make another date just like you did on the first date.
Your third date is going to require even more than this date, but just make it through the second date before you think about that.