Are you interested in knowing how a woman thinks on the first date? You should be! If you understand what she is thinking about, then you can make sure you answer all of her questions and leave her wanting a second date with you – which is your goal, if you like here.
Top 5 Questions A Woman Has On The First Date
She won’t outright tell you what she is thinking on the first date, but I can guarantee that one or all of the following questions are in her mind. Moreover, she is studying you, listening to you, and collecting evidence to help her answer her concerns.
1. Is He An Asshole?
I’ve been on many first dates where the guy seemed nice but turned out to be an asshole after I started to like him and get more involved with him. Hindsight sucks, but believe me, I started to look for signs of an asshole on the first date so I didn’t get caught up in anything negative for too long.
I’m not the only woman who has been duped by a guy, and I’m not the only woman who has much stricter standards now.
The thing is that women learn what to watch for, and if they see signs of an asshole, they may move on.
An asshole is:
- Selfish
- Rude
- Impatient
- High tempered
- A bully
- Arrogant
If you show any warning signs of being an asshole on the first date, a woman will spot them and become more hesitant of you and your potential with her.
2. Is He Going To Hurt Me?
I’m not talking about cheating or playing around, I’m talking about beating her up, raping her, or mentally abusing her.
Women have to be careful in the dating scene. This is a fact. According to statistics, every 2 minutes, another American is sexually assaulted.
I live in Canada, and according to Canadian statistics on violence, half of all women have experienced physical or sexual violence.
I’ve seen these kind of statistics from all over the world, and you better believe that women have the possibility of a man abusing them on their mind. Especially when it is the first date and they don’t know the man that well.
Want to send the message that you are a good guy? Talk about your stable relationships and show a woman that you are capable of having a healthy relationship without abuse.
If you are abusive, get help.
3. Is He A Player?
So, you are not an asshole or abusive, but that doesn’t mean you are not a player. So many men looking for casual relationships play women looking for serious relationships just to get in their pants. Or, at least that is how many women feel.
Almost every woman has been played by a guy who doesn’t really care or isn’t really looking for something serious, and on your first date, you better believe she is looking for signs of being played.
Therefore, show her that you are not a guy who is just on the hunt for the next piece of ass.
- Don’t look at every girl that walks by
- Don’t flirt with anyone but her
- Don’t talk about how many women have come and gone
- Don’t talk about women as though they are objects
- Don’t express how much you hate to listen to someone who is sad, angry, etc.
- Don’t use cheesy lines to try to win her over
Just don’t.
If you are on a first date with a woman who you like, try to show her that you are worth her time and energy.
4. Is He Confident?
Some of my worst dates have been with insecure men. That insecurity has scared me off quickly, and it will do the same for your date.
How do they know you are insecure? Usually because you do one of the following things:
- You say ‘sorry’ ALL the time
- You cannot make a decision
- You talk about what a loser you are
- You talk about how you have not had luck with women
These are just a few signs that you are insecure, and it will make a woman very uncomfortable. So uncomfortable, that you will probably not get another date.
How to fix? Become confident in yourself. It is possible.
5. Is He Happy?
Lastly, every woman is wondering if her date is really happy in life. Why? Because she doesn’t want to get into a relationship with a guy who is depressed, pessimistic, or just a general downer. Why would any woman want to stay with a man like that?
Therefore, don’t talk about how much your life sucks or how your future is shitty. Don’t talk about your crappy job or your depressing friends.
On a first date, you want a woman to know that you have a lot of joy in your life and you can add some to hers. Focus on the good aspects of your life.
