How to kiss a girl for the first time? Kissing someone is always a big deal, but it matters especially if this is the first kiss. Before you go ahead and kiss a girl that you have in mind, you might want to ask yourself a few questions first.
What are your intentions with this girl? Are you just lonely and settling for anyone or do you really like this girl because she is special to you? Do you just want to have a casual fling or are you looking for a serious relationship? These are some questions that you might want to have the answer to before you make your move and kiss her.
Below you will read about how to kiss a girl from the first time, from gauging her interest to reading her body language and to finally going in for the kiss.
How To Kiss a Girl For the First Time
Is she interested?
While is not exactly romantic, the easiest way to know if a girl is interested in you is to simply ask her. Let her know that you are interested and ask her if she feels the same way. That will remove a lot of ambiguity from your situation.
If she is unsure how she feels about you, give her time to figure it out. If she is not interested in you, then accept that and move on. And if your crush expresses her interest in you, then you can pat yourself on the back and work on taking the next steps towards making your first kiss happen.
But apart from asking her if she is interested in you, what are other ways to figure out if she might be attracted to you? There are a few signs that might hint at an attraction. Does she lean in towards you when she talks to you? Is she playful with you and does she find many excuses to talk to you? If the answer to these questions is yes, then she might be interested.
At the same time, the easiest way to get an accurate answer is to directly ask her about her feelings towards you. The least thing that you want to be is aggressive. At the same time, you should not be so subtle that she is completely shocked when you go to kiss her.
If you want to let a girl know that you want to kiss her or have thought about kissing her, go ahead. But do not agonize over the details with her. If you overthink it and talk about it too much, then the moment will pass and things will become awkward very quickly.
It is likely that you and this girl have been talking and flirting a little bit over time. There has probably some buildup to the possibility that a romance will blossom between you two. If this is the case, then do not worry too much about how to do it. Just go in for the kiss.
Keep in mind that a first kiss can often be awkward, no matter how much the both of you like each other. All you can do is try, get feedback, and practice until you are in harmony with each other.
How is your breath?
While this should apply to any kisses that you give, it is especially important to keep this in mind when you are kissing a girl for the first time. Before you go ahead and kiss her, make sure that your breath does not smell bad.
What do you think of when you think about bad breath? Before you kiss the girl that you are interested in, avoid eating smelly foods like stinky cheese, garlic, and seafood. These are just a few foods to keep in mind. But if it smells, do not eat it before the kiss. And if this girl has any food allergies that you know of, then be sure to not eat that food all day, otherwise you will risk spoiling the mood by possibly giving her an allergic reaction.
If you can, try to brush your teeth and rinse your mouth with mouthwash before the kiss. Don’t forget to floss as well, as there might be bits of food stuck between your teeth. If you do not floss regularly, then your breath might begin to smell bad. If it has been hours since you have done brushed your teeth, then keep some mints or gum in your pocket so you can keep your mouth smelling nice.
You can also bring floss or a toothpick with you along with a mirror to check your teeth. You want to avoid going in smiling at your crush while you have spinach stuck between your teeth as she tries to tastefully gesture to you that you need to look into a mirror.
One last thought is that if your lips get chapped, you might want to apply some chap stick to your lips before you kiss her so that your lips are soft and kissable for later.
Get some privacy
Most people prefer to have their first kiss when they are alone together. If you can help it, try to avoid kissing your crush in a room that is crowded with people. The first kiss can come with some awkwardness, and having too many people around will just add another distraction. If you are not in a private place, you will also risk ruining the moment.
If you do not have your own place then you might have trouble getting some privacy. Maybe you are hanging out with the same group of people. If you want to get some alone time with her, you can ask everyone else to go ahead and let them know that the two of you will catch up. Now you and your crush can linger behind and maybe even sneak in a kiss.
Find the right ambiance
In an ideal situation, you will want the lighting to be romantic. In this case, you will ideally be in a place with dim lighting. If you go on a walk together outdoors, you can try to time it so that you kiss her around when the sun is setting, as the sunset can often be considered to provide a romantic ambiance.
What if you and your crush are waking around at night? Doesn’t a kiss under the moonlight sound romantic as well? A full moon is even better for providing that dim, romantic lighting that is the perfect background for a first kiss.
There are many private places where you can have your first kiss. The most obvious location is in your room. If you have roommates or still live at home with your parents, making sure that you are alone might be hard to organize as you do not want to risk someone barging into your room unannounced.
If you have a car, you can have your first kiss there after you go on a date. If you have walked the girl home from your date, then that is another opportunity. Other chances for a kiss include walking her home from school or from an event that you have both attended.
Make sure that the moment is right
Location is not the only factor to consider when it comes to kissing a girl for the first time. To make sure that the moment is right, you will also want to have good timing. There are good and bad times to go for a kiss.
If your crush is crying on your shoulder and is very upset over something, now might be a bad time for you to kiss her. Instead, you can give her a hug and let her know that you are there for her. In this case, you need to really think about her needs and in this type of situation, she needs someone she trusts to comfort her during a stressful time.
Generally speaking, it is a good idea to kiss your crush when she is in a good or neutral mood. You also have to know how to read the moment well. If you go in for a kiss too early, she might immediately back away because she was not ready. And if you wait too long, then she might no longer be in the mood.
Get her attention
Here is something to remember that is obvious but easy to forget when you are in the moment. When you are ready to kiss her, make sure that you have her attention. You do not want to awkwardly come in for a kiss while she gets distracted and turns her head.
Send her signals through your body language that you are going to kiss her. Eye contact and moving in closer are two very easy ways to signal to her that you might go in for a kiss.
While you should not rush the moment, you also do not want to wait too long to the point of this girl losing interest or her patience. Try to make her feel as comfortable as possible. This will help make the moment right.
If you are going on a first date with this girl, then you might not be sure whether or not a first kiss at the end of the date is appropriate. You have to determine how comfortable the girl is. While some people are perfectly okay with kissing on the first date, other people might feel as if that is moving too fast. You will later read some tips on how to read the situation.
Things to discuss
All human relationships vary from couple to couple and there is no one way to go about things. At the same time, communication is key to any relationship or any attempt of a relationship. Therefore, it is good to talk to your crush about each other. Being open and honest is key to any relationship.
Sometimes people will assume that if they have kissed or dated a lot of people, then their crush might be the same way. But you cannot make assumptions about another person. What if this person has never kissed or dated anyone before?
Is this person interested in having a boyfriend or do they just want something casual? Would they be going on dates with other guys? These are things you might want to discuss before you kiss your crush and invest your time into a relationship.
You will also probably be talking to your crush before you kiss her. Be aware of what to talk about and what not to talk about. Do not talk about other girls as that is a huge turn-off. Try to even avoid comparing her to other girls, even if she is presented in a good light.
Instead, just focus solely on her and compliment her. You can also talk about common interests or her thoughts. Avoid talking about distasteful things like bodily functions or gross things that your guy friends do. While it is important for you to talk openly and honestly with her, try not to complain or talk about your problems too much. That will not make the moment romantic at all.
Signs that she is comfortable
Again, timing is very important when it comes to kissing a girl for the first time. And part of this timing involves reading your crush’s body language. Is she giving hints that she is comfortable with you in this moment? Before you swoop in for the kiss, it is important to feel out the situation first. Is she leaning towards you, making and maintaining eye contact, and finding many excuses to touch you?
Do you catch your crush smiling at you a lot? Does she respond in a positive way when you touch her and get closer to her face? When you flirt, does she flirt back? These all might be signs that she is very comfortable with you.
Signs that she is uncomfortable
Also try to look out for signs that she might be feeling uncomfortable. If she keeps avoiding eye contact with you and is constantly checking her phone, she might not be interested right now. Or if she has expressed her interest, now might just not be the right time to make your move.
It can be hard to wait for the right moment or to give up and move on, but it is better to make sure that the timing is right when you are thinking about kissing this girl for the first time.
Warming up to the kiss
When we think of kissing, we immediately think of our mouths. But there are many other places you can kiss. Before you make your big move on your crush, you can kiss her cheek or forehead at first and then later work your way up to kissing her on the mouth.
Aside from kisses on the cheek or forehead, there are other ways to warm up to a kiss. If you are both sitting, you can scoot closer to her, which will signal to her that you are really giving your undivided attention to her. Another classic move is putting your arm around her.
You can also whisper something sweet into her ear. Something like, “you look really beautiful” or “I really like you.” At the same time, make sure that what you say is genuine. You do not want to make it seem like you have told these things to a million other girls before. She should feel special and really appreciated by you.
If you are standing, you might feel inclined to put your hands around her waist or to rest your hand on her cheek. At the same time, do what feels natural in the moment and do not think too hard about it.
Get her feedback
When you do kiss a girl for the first time, do not be afraid to ask for feedback. That is how you get better at kissing. Also, different people kiss differently sometimes. If you have kissed other people before, do not assume that what worked for other people will work for her.
You can ask the girl that you like questions like, “how was that” or “is there anything that I can do better?” You can also simply ask her to show you how she likes to be kissed.
The basics of kissing
When you go to kiss your crush, you will want to slowly move your face closer to hers. Do not do it so fast that you almost knock your face into hers and end up hurting her and yourself in the process. Be smooth and let your intentions be clear. Do not move suddenly as that is not very romantic.
Before you even kiss her, make sure at the very least, that you make eye contact with her. This will give her a signal that you are about to kiss her and it can give her the chance to react accordingly. She will either stiffen up or she will seem receptive. If you are in the latter situation, then proceed.
Lean towards her and slowly bring your face closer to hers. Give her a moment so she can pull away if she wants to. Or so she can at least process what is happening. If she moves away or breaks the moment by talking, do not take it too hard. Otherwise, proceed and kiss her.
Something that might not be obvious to everyone is that people tend to make smooching sends when they kiss. Whether a person is kissing their aunt on the cheek or their spouse on the lips, a smooching sound is always made. Try even kissing your hand without making that smooching sound and movement with your lips and you will realize how strange it is to not do it.
At the same time, do not make loud, dramatic smooching sounds when you kiss as that can be a little obnoxious and not very romantic. Just be tender with your kisses.
In the process of kissing the girl for the first time, be gentle. Start with slow kisses where your lips lightly brush hers. Do not dive into big, sloppy kisses the first time around as you are still testing the waters when it comes to kissing this girl.
You may or may not want to avoid French kissing when it is the first kiss as that could be too aggressive. If you both want to try French kissing, you can work your way up to that. If you want to French kiss her, then softly run your tongue over her lower lip. She will most likely then part her lips which will lead to the French kiss.
Use your body
Even though you should be focused on what your lips while you are kissing, you have to remember what to do with the rest of your body as well. The biggest thing to remember is to do something with your hands. While kissing a girl for the first time, there are many things that you can do with your hands. You can run your hand through your hair, embrace her and hold her waist, or rest your hands on her shoulders.
Come up for air
If you are now kissing a lot, remember to pause to breathe. Kissing can often lead to other things, but be careful of rushing things too fast. You want to avoid moving too fast and making your crush feeling uncomfortable.
You may also be interested in our other article: Different Types of Kisses and What They Mean.
These are just some pointers on how to set the mood right and analyze the situation properly so that you can kiss a girl for the first time. There is no one right way to kiss a girl so do not overthink the situation. Just keep these pointers in mind while also playing it by ear.
Remember to breathe, relax, and make her feel comfortable. Make sure that your breath smells okay and that she is sending you all the right signals. And if she backs away and doesn’t want to kiss yet, or ever, that is okay. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
That being said, good luck, and if you do get your first kiss with this girl, remember the old saying that “practice makes perfect.” Do not sweat it if the first kiss is a little awkward or clumsy. Just do your best and if you both like kissing each other, you can practice more and get better at it.